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hello ladies! ive been wearing female under garments, shoes , dresses as long as I can remember. it is still a sexual fantasy for me, I get so excited just thinking about putting on some panties or a bra! nylons and heels just send me into outer space! who or what am I ? would love to dress as female full time, . but its not something I can do right now. HELP!!!!!
Human. Just keep doing what you enjoy, and forget labels.
There are really only two options re: wanting to dress full time. Remove the obstacles to it, or live with the times, and places you can enjoy it.
thank you paula!
Suzzi,
I don't often use the term but you do sound like a fetish Cder, no harm in that so why worry. If you want to move on and totally dress then you may pass through that stage. If you do move on your needs may change and the sexual content could reduce, your dressing may begin to achieve a balance. Many move on from just dressing for the sexual high, to go to so much trouble to look good and when you've satisfied yourself to discard it all only to have the urge to dress again. You begin to realise there's so much more than the sexual content to your CDing.
My CDing still has a sexual content but it's balanced out with so many other aspects of my dressing needs, I would love to dress full time not because of the sexual part but it feels so right , I'm totally comfortable with it.
As long as you do not hurt anyone else, do what makes you feel comfortable and happy! You are you on a journey about yourself. Sit back, relax, and enjoy! Hugs Lana Mae
Don't try to analyze it too much. Enjoy the journey and have fun.
My crossdressing also started as nothing more than sexual thrill. It was almost the opposite feeling that when I am sexual aroused, I liked putting on female clothing. But as time went by I realized that crossdressing was deep psychological desire to be woman.
It them tune to exactly your situation that when I dress up, I am sexually aroused. After 20 years of crossdressing, I no longer have sexual arousal when dressing up.
Follow your desire, maybe it is after a deep psychological desire to be woman that is driving you to dress.
My dressing began as a sexual thing. It still is to a degree, it's also fulfilling in a way that is hard to describe. I go back and forth about what label to use to describe myself. Paula is right though ... Labels are less important than enjoying your dressing without shame or fear.
I would venture to say you are you and you like to wear female undies.
You don't need to be saddled with a label just do what you enjoy.
Just go with the flow and see where it takes you, no path to follow but your own. It was a sexual thing for me when I started, but has grown into something much more than that.
You indeed are a crossdresser. So take a breath and find time to do it. but one can go a bit without. But find a time like a Sunday. Are you married or with a partner?
I will say you have just scratched the surface as to who or what you are and you may spend a lifetime trying to figure it all out.
My first time I got a small sexual thrill knowing I was wearing something a woman had worn before but after a few times that thrill went away.
I liked the clothes at first and wore them out in public a lot thinking everybody was looking but now I know they could care less what I wear.
It took me several years to figure out I was transgender and not just the clothes but it was the way I felt so at ease wearing the clothes and going all out in girl mode.
It all feels normal and balanced now because I rarely wear mens clothes of any kind any more.
Keep in mind the fact you like panties,bras,heel etc it does not me you are gay or will turn gay over time. Your sexual preference has nothing to do with you liking to wear panties.
From what you describe, you are a "transvestic fetishist" (TVF).
Before you get too excited about dressing full time, bear in mind it can have a serious cost. The TSs here can tell you the toll transition can take on your life. If you dress for pleasure, keep it a pleasure and think carefully before making it a full time lifestyle.
You may want to dress full time but sit and think about it your lifestyle would be totally different.
You would loose friends possibly over it.
What would your family think? GF if you have one?
You are in a very strong fetish stage right now so don't make any rash decisions at this time.
enjoyed reading all the responses! thank you all!! I'm 53 and started this when I was like 5? I think , my mother caught me in my sisters room putting on their under garments, that's as early as I remember.
You're a lot like me Suzzi. Sex has always been the main focus for me, except before puberty. Before puberty, panties just had a much nicer tactile sensation then boy's underwear did.
I also had long periods in my life that I only dressed when I could, mostly in lingerie. For example, In the 70s and 80s I didn't hardly own any women's clothes at all, but I had girl friends. So it was a fetish, but wearing the clothing was manditory.
My sex drive has slowed down (in my 60s) but it's still the main reason I do this. I don't really have the desire to dress full time or even go out dressed. I might fantasize about dressing full time, but that's about it.
Well Said and Sooooo True!Quote:
Originally Posted by Teresa
Why even concern yourself with self labeling. Like many here...it depends on the mood and the situation. Just this past weekend...I was alone and wore my bra,inserts, and panty hose to practice walking in my new heels. I touched myself and watched some porn...mainly to relax. And then it was over.
Tonite...my wife will do my make up and I'all show her a new outfit and wig I purchased. An hour later..I'll be back in male mode on the couch in shorts and t shirt watching Netflix with my wife. We don't get worked up over it. We don't label me....some days I feel like an aging CD...and on other days I seem to "hang on" during a sexual fetish. As long as I harm no one....it's all acceptable.