You can't keep a good girl down.

After recovering from some fairly bad times it is time to get back amongst the living.
I have been doing plenty of therapy to get my self esteem back. (it is still damaged)
A newish friend who is pushing me to join her 'tribe' invited me to dinner the other night and introduced me to a nice younger woman. Well younger than me.
Where Lyn is a massive unit Mary is the complete opposite. Lyn is about 6 foot 6 and big set with a booming voice. Mary (not their real names. I won't get caught like that again) is 5 foot 6 if she is lucky a super slender. The story is the same one I hear so many times, where the GG has been married twice and it has not been harmonious. Apparently the last guy was a stalker which has made her extremely cautious around men. I saw her hand shaking more than once but she feels safe around the beast. Lyn's own description of herself.

This is all good for me as she seemed very at ease around me. Mary gave me her number over dinner and made mention of me being her friend almost as much as Lyn.
Lyn picked up on something my psychologist said to me many months ago. That was that we all need to be inside the 'cave' with our 'tribe'. Lyn wants me in her cave as her friend.
Now the downside for me with Lyn is that I find her overwhelming. She is very boisterous, loud and so full of life. Living her best life and telling me there are plenty of fish in the sea. All of the things those who have what they want and have to tell you about it constantly.

They are usually not in my situation of no family and very few acquaintances.
If I ever get friends I will post that on here.

At the end of the evening as we waited for Mary's Uber to arrive she gave me hugs on three separate occasions making sure I knew to call her.
I have done and we are going to view The Terracotta Warriors exhibition next week here in Perth.

As to my Greek lady friend we are still estranged. I have been learning about avoidant behaviour and how to try and understand how she feels and if I will ever see her again.
I have been advised to give her time and space. In the interim I am free to pursue other friendships.

Phillipa, Rebounding is not easy. There are many clich?'s, such as Good things come to those that wait, There are many fish in the sea, etc. Please remember there is a reason they are around. Most are true. You are a good person from what I have seen and read here. Take time for yourself, treat yourself right and good things will come your way. There is only one person that you will spend your entire life with and that is yourself. All others will come into and out of your life. So, put yourself out there and go girl. Hugs, Meg

Lots of cliches abound, but as Meg notes...there's a reason they are around. The one that springs to mind right now...

Put one foot in front of the other. You're moving. Sometimes that's the most important thing. Just get moving.

Another attractive GG friend? Why does this sound like deja vous all over again?:heehee:

In response to Meg and Julie yes I will always be my own best friend.
You are never alone with schizophrenia. lol
Oh my Sherry is this you warning me or admonishing me for past relationships.
I didn't say she was attractive only slender. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
As always I welcome anything you have to say. You have so much more experience than I.

Philippa Jane, I am glad you got back on the horse. I hope the new friendships work out.