romantic relationships with men

Hey everyone! I'm new here and I'm still learning the art of expressing myself in the way I feel most comfortable. One of the things that makes me super happy is exploring my feminine side through clothing, but I confess I'm still a little insecure when it comes to relationships...

I wanted to hear from you, who have more experience: what's it like for you to have romantic relationships with men? Is there a lot of pressure to "be less masculine" or "more feminine" in certain situations? Do you feel comfortable being yourself all the time, or do you feel like you need to "put on a persona"?

Translated from Portuguese by Google.

First do you want to be with a man or do you just think you have to because you are a cross dresser? If you are just being with a man because you are a cross dresser do not. You will not enjoy it as much as you want and they probably will not either.

If you desire to be with a man enjoy yourself and be yourself the right persona is always you. I do not remember who said it but it is true. Be the best you you can be.

Hugs
Keremy

Be careful and upfront about who you are. You don't want any negative surprise reactions.

In my experience men r not romantic, but very direct. The one's I've met want oral action!:eek:

When the clothes come off you're just two blokes having gay sex.

That's something that people on both sides of the relationship may struggle with. The chaser because they're denying that they are attracted to men, and the CD because they have a dream they're a woman.

I've never been with a man, not attracted to them, but, when I dress up I do fantasise about attracting men, as a form of validation of my feminine appearance when dressed, it would be the ultimate compliment for men to find Jasmine attractive, but, it's something that I personally would never do IRL, but, I have seen that some CDs do go through with this. Is it gay, kinda of, but, also kinda not, as the CD is presenting as a female often calling themselves sissies and stays in that role, the men are attracted to the femininity, but, also know the sissy is much more submissive and generally easier than women

CharlotteCD makes a pretty strong point. I agree.

Sandi

The first time I ever slow danced with a man and he put his hands on my butt, I new I could never be with a man sexually.

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Originally Posted by CharlotteCD

When the clothes come off you're just two blokes having gay sex.

That's something that people on both sides of the relationship may struggle with. The chaser because they're denying that they are attracted to men, and the CD because they have a dream they're a woman.

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This exactly plain and simple.
If you-are gay ……ok
Just don’t play games…I know where others have said that was the ultimate feeling like a woman having a man be after them.
But then cannot go there…you can be hurt or much worse.
Just no stupid games .

Be honest about who you are and what you want. Sometimes it takes awhile if you want a real relationship. Less time if you're just looking for fun. :o

As a man, my relation to other men is simply be a buddy with them, to discuss things of interest to men. I can be dressed en femme at church but at coffee hour I typically hang out with the men as a fellow man.
There is absolutely no way I could ever be romantic with another man.

John

I used to be neither dating with men nor being attracted by them. However, when in female mode I have a need to be as close to the real femininity as possible. The female side of my soul simply requires that. I used to have fancies about being dominated and men's part alone which seen to be attractive to me.

If you?re interested in a little deeper dive into this topic read Alice in Genderland. Youll find it very interesting.

Great thread Tammi! I have a boyfriend and it's amazing. So many perks. I can be my feminine self and he's extremely accepting, supportive and encouraging of my dressing. I don't specifically feel pressure to be more feminine other than in the bedroom where I'm plenty feminine anyway especially when we're about to be intimate. I'm extremely comfortable with who I am, and having such a great boyfriend gives me that confidence to be my fem self that I don't think I would have with a woman.

I have had an online interaction with a guy.
He was recently divorced and was looking for company. The conversation was all about me and him trying to find out as much as possible without giving as much back.
There was no suggestion from me that I was TS. He thought I was a GG.
I eventually found the conversation too hard to continue as it was so one sided.
Here is a thought. Was I ever like that?

One of my gym friends is a retired university professor from Hawaii. On Monday he surprised me by asking that since I had transitioned why did I not go out with men.
I guess it was hard for him to get his head around the fact I am still attracted to women. Perhaps the right man has not come along.
Nah, that is not it at all.

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Originally Posted by CharlotteCD

When the clothes come off you're just two blokes having gay sex.

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That's why you don't take off all of your clothes. :heehee:

Well, I had a guy proposition me before even having a date. He effectively said, "let's f". I said, "but I don't even know you yet. Aren't you gonna take me out first? " His response was, "oh, you're just like a real woman."

I doubt he realized the compliment he paid me. I'm not saying all guys are like this one, but a lot of them are more DTF than LTR.

Philippa,

I listen to men speak often. They are not great communicators and at times they can even be very verbal. Not so much a conversation but a monolog.

Just saying.

Natalie.
I hear you. So many of the ladies I sit with say exactly the same thing. They just want to talk about themselves (not like my one) and rarely listen.
I wonder if being a cab driver helped me or am I just a natural chatterbox?

I don't look for anything romantic, have no interest in dating a man. However, in gg mode Mirima is interested in strictly physical interactions with the right guy. Those are easy to find.

I dress in women's clothes and that's as far as it goes. I have friends that know and are brilliant. I love chatting when I am dressed but I am not attracted to men.

Did you mean to rhyme Georgina? hehe

I have thought quite often of having an encounter whilst dressed. I find the idea very enticing and sexy tbh. I've learned that I am more bisexual than anything.

I can't say I've ever been romantically interested in men.

Except for one, and that still surprises me.
He's a good friend. He knows and accepts both sides of me, which is a major blessing.

One day while talking about random stuff, I realized that I could be happy as his girlfriend, not just his friend.
This really rattled me, and was quite a shock.
Never before, and never since, have I EVER felt this way about a man. I always thought I was strictly interested in women.

Huh.

And before you ask - no, I didn't tell him. He's straight. I'm happily married. There's no way I'm going to mess things up with something so -um- random.

As I read through this post, I was reminded of all the wisdom and intelligence in this group. Wow, how insightful. It is wonderful to be surrounded by you all. I have toyed with the thought of being with a man while dressed, but have never experienced this. I can only say that I dress to be less masculine. I love the softer side. Hugs, Meg

It's too hard to be the girlfriend of a guy who wants a relationship with a woman. It's easier to be the boyfriend of a gay man who agrees to treat you like a girlfriend when you put on a dress.