Intense week

My wife has been away about a week now and it really doesn't make a difference in my dressing because I dress in front of her but since she's not around I do some things that I'm embarrassed around her(I won't get into that). Before she left she gave me the green light to explore her wardrobe but she wants me to take a picture of me wearing her items and to put whatever clothes I wear aside so she could make sure I didn't ruin anything and I thought that was fair. This morning she called and asked if I was having a field day with her dresses and stuff. I said yep and she asked me why I wasn't showing more excitement or enthusiasm in my voice. I told her it's been a little stressful without her around and this past week has been a learning curve and told her I'll explain when she gets back.
I'll explain what I learned, my first day I was dying to try on a gown, when I got home from work I just couldn't put on the gown on its own, I had to fully experience it with make-up and all. I was all set and set up my tripod to take a picture and my phone rings. It's my daughter and of course FaceTime and I don't answer. She keeps calling over and over, then my other daughter starts calling and then my son. So I call her but she wants FaceTime and I tell her I'm not decent and I will call her back. I wash my face take off the wig and put on a t-shirt. I call her now on FaceTime and I realized at the last second I had my loop earrings on and I yanked them off so fast I almost ripped my earlobes off. She starts to interrogate me
:why didn't I answer the phone the first time?
:what was I doing that I didn't answer the phone?
:was it a health reason I didn't answer the phone?
:is somebody else in the house?
:why is my hair flat?
:Why did I take off my studs do I have a earlobe infection
:Maybe to keep me company one of the grandchildren or one of there dogs can stay with me.
I told her I was fine and made an excuse I just came out of the shower and she asked me why my hair wasn't wet if I just came out of the shower.
Well I got though the interrogation and realized this is what my wife does, she messages the children and will always FaceTimes with them. I'm not into social media and stuff like that.
Because we live close to department stores and groceries stores my children are in the area a lot and I guess my wife will know when they are in the area and will warn me but she wasn't home this week.
Day two my son was in the area and barges into the house and runs into the washroom, thank goodness I was upstairs and able to undress in time.
All week they were constantly calling me on FaceTime and it came to the point that I had to keep a t-shirt around me and not wear a wig or earrings. The good thing was they would message me before they would come by most of the time but I had to always be alert. Don't get me wrong I appreciate that my children worried and cared that I was home alone but it really stressed me out. I guess I didn't realize when my wife is around she deals with all this and is my eyes, you could say.
Today I was trying on a bunch of dresses and my daughter wanted to come by and clean the house because my wife is coming home in a few day. I told her there was nothing to clean I only used the kitchen and the bedroom. She insisted and I had to rush and throw everything into a cupboard and make sure I didn't leave anything out. I just finished putting everything away. My boys really don't care about anything but the girls have a million questions and look into everything and have to get to the bottom of everything.
It still was fun trying on some of my wife's stuff but I was a little on the intense side though the week.
Not to mention the drone experience I wrote about didn't help the situation.

I am not surprised at all of that. It must have made you a physical wreck.
Good that the kids look out for you but the interrogation? Or is that just the way you saw it at the time?

why didnt you tell them your not home all day ?, your going to the seaside or your going fishing or some lame excuse that you wouldnt be home ?

I can definitely see how this would stress you out! I’ve had to decline a FaceTime or two over the years myself but nothing like this! Luckily my kids are usually happy with a voice call or texting! Only solution I could see here would be to stay up late, but that’s no fun either.

I would have been stressed out too.

I'm stressed just reading your story.

Maria

It might be an idea just to call them back but not on face time.

When they ask why just say why not that's why its called a phone.

Maria, that does sound intense too bad all those interruptions are interfering with some prime crossdressing time.

Wow that story went south quickly. At the start so nice that your wife wants you to enjoy yourself and even send her pictures to being overwhelmed with intrusions! I guess mostly they are just looking out for you - except the son barging in to use the washroom seems a little extreme. Sorry you couldn?t relax more.

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Originally Posted by Debs

why didnt you tell them your not home all day ?, your going to the seaside or your going fishing or some lame excuse that you wouldnt be home ?

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It doesn't sound like that would work - he'd then have to worry about them popping by thinking he wasn't home and then he'd have no warning at all. :eek:

Frankly, I find their actions intrusive. From your discussions/posts it does not seem your old and an invalid who needs to be checked on all the time. I'd tell them to back off.

I guess I'm odd, in more ways than one.:) My phone is not welded to my hip. It's usually somewhere where I am not! People I know knows this and normally text or leave a voice mail if they want to contact me. Kids don't have keys to the house either.

It sounds like your wife made sure you did not go over the edge.

I would have asked my wife to call off the hounds.

I'm sorry that you had such a stressful week, while you were just trying to relax and have some fun.

I'm glad your wife is supportive of you and what you enjoy doing.

My 2 kids live in the same town as me and my wife, and I sometimes worry about them just dropping by. I told my daughter, and I am pretty sure my son knows too. But we have asked them to give us a heads up before they just drop by. I've only had one close call. I was on vacation, and my daughter needed me to stop by her place to help her with carpentry work. This was before I talked to her (I think), and I went over still wearing my women's jeans and boots. She made a comment about my boots. I had to run back home to get something, so I changed out of my boots and put on my tennis shoes.

My kids never face time with me; it is either a text or a phone call. My wife will face time with her brother occasionally, and we are careful on where I am, so he doesn't want to say hi to me if I am dressed as a woman.

I've lived what u r experiencing now, Maria. When my 18 year old daughter decided to live with me full time. I knew her class schedule, but sometimes classes were cancelled, etc. When she came home unexpectedly she nearly caught me dressing a few times! After awhile dressing became so stressful I didn't want to do it anymore.:thumbsdn:

I knew I would eventually get caught so I told my immediate family. So, I then worked out a schedule for dressing with my disapproving, live in daughter. My ex and other daughter cared less. Dressing became a joy again once my concern of "getting caught" vanished. I strongly suggest u discuss this with your wife. Which is sadly an added dimension I didn't have to deal with!:sad:

Although most of my family knows I dress, it's not what I want them to see.
My oldest grandson came in one morning and I got upset with him.
He said he sent a text, to which I told him if I don't text back, then he can assume I didn't see it.:doh:

To date, our kids don't know I crossdress. They don't have a 'need to know'. I have no desire to dress in front of them, and doing things with them in support of my femme self isn't something I want to do either. So, no 'need to know'.

However....that can change.

When they move out, the possibility of discovery will actually go up because of the situations you describe Maria. If that becomes a problem, then I will likely tell them. I don't want to spend the rest of my life in hiding.

Just delete Facetime off your phone, then they can't call you on it. If you want the ability to communicate with your wife using video chat, then install Signal on both your phones & don't tell the kids. Signal is better anyway.

Sounds like a tough week - glad I told my kids I dress so I do not panic if they see me dressed (I warned them to call before dripping by if they do not want to see me dressed)

That would have stressed me out. Bad enough still having 2 daughters at home. The wheres my phone function on your i phone when used notifies others where you are. Can also be used to notify you where your children are.

I don't understand the false excuses and justifying yourself and making up stories. It seems to me that you can be master in your own house, not your kids, and that if you don't want video call you don't want video, end of story.

Hi all, I think you can answer a FaceTime call with audio only on an iPhone by tapping on the incoming call notification and then selecting the option to turn the camera off before joining the call. You can always blame the network for no video. Vale