When you are all dressed up, do you really want men to notice and hit on you?
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When you are all dressed up, do you really want men to notice and hit on you?
You want to get notice and told you look nice but want them to know where you stand. There is no greater ego boost.
Yes ,
I can`t explain it but when out as Terri there is no greater boost than having a man notice you .
Well,, I have no plans with a man, nope, ain't no body park'n their pickle here...
How-some-ever,,,, I do love to get hit on. It gives me a scence of validation that #1 I am a woman in sombody's eyes, and #2 that I'm pretty enough that somone would want to hit on me.
I think I'd prefer it if women told me how cute I was, hit on me, take me shopping. Geez, anything. I guess I'm a lesbian.
never been out dressed up, but i think i would like it for guys to hit on me.
I am spoken for, but it's still nice to have men take notice. But I am not interested in being hit on lol..
I am a man, and not Bi! So no interest! Anyway, since I don't wear makeup or a wig when I go out dressed I don't think many men would be interested in a guy in a skirt, or dress! On the other hand, I do get compliments from GG's on my outfits.:love: I was in my nail salon today (dressed in a kilt skirt (the one in my avatar) and tight top showing off my 40 B's). I was getting both a manicure and pedicure. The lady in the spa chair next to me told me she really loved my kilt skirt and my white knit top with a satin collar. We chatted for almost an hour, mostly about feminine things!!:heehee:
Well, everybody around here knows I'm a little light in my loafers, but I can actually swing both ways, so I would totally flirt with you honeybuns.Quote:
Originally Posted by kellycan27
If you were single of course, but since you're quite obviously engaged I guess I'll stick with men. :love:
Congratulations by the way.
-Misty
When you are all dressed up, do you really want men to notice and hit on you?
Dear DL,
Don't I wish! I would like it if some man noticed and hit on me at ANY time. At my age, most of the men are off playing golf or napping on the couch.
Lovies,
Stephenie
Thank you.......:hugs:Quote:
Originally Posted by Misty is Kindafem
Kel
Oh my yes! When I'm efemme I love to hear men give me a " a whistle " or a car "honk". I love it, that is one, of many reasons, that I dress as a lady. :) :daydreaming: :battingeyelashes:
Given the choice, I'd much prefer to have a man notice and appreciate my fine looks and gentle grace. But I don't get the choice and I'm happy to have them ignore me.
Uh, no, it kind of creeps me out, to be honest. Now if I could get some women to hit on me, that would be a different story!
- Diane
Actually I wouldn't mind if men or women would take notice. It would be a great ego boost and tell me that I'm very passable. Now whether or not I'd want a man to hit on me, mmmmm, no, not really. Id prefer a woman hitting on me!! :)
Haven't been out as jo but yeah I would love it,especially if he's cute :)
that is the seconnd reason I dress up:hugs:Quote:
Originally Posted by DLCarter
Hi....
i am past the lookers . or being chated up . it has happened . there is never any thoughts as to being with any men / man .
i v been with one girl allmost 37 years .
at 62 . i can stand my own ground . as a woman
i meet 100 s of people . like to day about 400 at a consert at one of our major buildings . i do camara work so that puts me in front of many people . so no . i dress for my self not others . or to impress . & yes i get nice remarks . from women . most that i know. who know me quite well .
...noeleena...
No, I don't since I dress for my pleasure and not for 'passing' as a woman but I have fantasized that I am looking so much like a beautiful woman that a man makes a pass at me.Quote:
Originally Posted by DLCarter
I have been "hit on" in the past (not now as I am always out with my partner) as the phrase goes, but I realise it is NOT because they thought I was a woman. I was "hit on" because they fancied a bit of Tranny.
OCCASIONALLY some of us are very convincingly female. MOSTLY anyone without a white stick and a dog soon (if not immediately) knows who and what we are.
It may be nice to pretend that any wolf-whistles or honks or compliments are because we have "pulled it off". Reality check: sorry to burst bubbles but I expect it is because they see who we are and are having a bit of fun with us. (OK I DO accept some gals are very "passable" so dont misread this thread as saying the experiences dont happen).
But then again, I suppose its nice to dream. But it wasn't a dream of mine.
On the few occasions I was approached, I took it as a compliment and said "thanks, but no thanks".
Most definitely not. My relationship with a fabulous, understanding wife is wonderful. I'd rather be hit on by a girl - but I'm too happy for that either!
Nah!!!!!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by DLCarter
But if they did try and hit on me, Sheila would kill em :devil:
In a way i do sometimes just so you know your doing something right hehe.
Why would I want a gross smelly hairy man to hit on me. I love to get compliments from women. I'm transgendered but straight. Figure that one out. When I'm presenting as a female I consider other females to be my sisters. I don't think of them in a romantic way. Leanne
I have been hit on by men when out. Doe it bother me? not in the least. It lets me know that I am going in the right direction with my dressing. Would I take them up on it. NO. I have a good relationship with a great woman and I will not mess that up.
I have been hit on by more women than I would have ever thought. Would I act on that. NO ...see above.
It does turn me on though.:o Jenn knows and is ok with it too as long as I don't touch I can flirt away.:love:
I have never ventured out on my own. I have been out with my sister and my wife. We make a great threesom. I think that I am to ugly to have any one confront us for pleasure or company...:hugs::sad:
[SIZE=4]I work dressed and get a fair bit of attention from men, and women. When I am cutting a man's hair I get all the questions and now and then get overt propositions. [/SIZE]
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[SIZE=4]If you appear in public, you will at some time or another get hit on or at least looked at by men. Its what they do. You either go on with it or get mad, but then again, think about how you look at women.....[/SIZE]
I want girls to say I look good. As for men, it depends on my mood but in general yes.
I would love it, yes. Haven't been hit on, but have noticed double looks, smiles, and whistles. Walking out of a book store one night I saw and clearly heard three young men (late teens, maybe) saying they thought I was pretty. Cloud 9...
Quite honesty .. no no no never never never!
However -- and this is a weird thing and its going to sound wrong, and possible offensive, but it not meant to be if you read the explanation.....
Before I met my wife, I used to fantasise about having an FTM guy hit on me/ chat me up/ etc. You might say, if you have a bit of understanding if things, what difference does that make .. he's still a guy -- are you implying that he's not? To that I offer my explanation .. he's a guy oh yes indeed .. but a guy who knows inside what this all feels like. And THAT makes all the difference in the world.
Hope this doesn't offend my FTM brothers. Its not meant to.
Huggles
Toni-Lynn
While I share a common thread with serveral others on here, in that I don't go out dressed.... Halloween is an exception. With the exception of once, I've always been with my wife at any party we attend, so I've not been hit on directly. I have however, noticed several long, sideways glances by men and women. Obviously some of those looks were "WTF" or "F'ing B***h". For the most part however, those moments of being noticed or checked out are enjoyable. It feels good to be noticed after all of the work most of us have to put into looking as good and feminine as possible.
Just my thoughts anyway. :battingeyelashes:
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Originally Posted by DLCarter
[SIZE="2"]No. I want men to stop hitting (everything), notice the futility of their behavior, and realize how much fun they’ve been missing. Men wouldn’t notice me anyway (except here), since I stay out of sight as much as possible. When I do go out, I don’t exactly stick out, if you know what I mean…:battingeyelashes:[/SIZE]
Tamara is exactly right--If you take it public, it's only a matter of time. I personally welcome positive comments from men AND women when I'm out, but I take them with a grain of salt, because if your skirt is short enough, some guys will say anything. As far as GGs go, there's always the suspicion that they're pulling my leg. So, with that said, positive comments from other CDs or TG people resonate as the most sincere with me.Quote:
Originally Posted by tamarav
Nope. I usually turn men down with a laugh. Yes, having been on the receiving end of that kind of rejection, I know too well how it hurts, but it also "deflates" them quicker than anything else.
I also turn women down, but not with a laugh. I let them know that I have a wonderful relationship with my wife and I wouldn't jeopardize that for anything! It's one of the reasons I have started wearing a woman's wedding ring set. It takes the whole "will she, won't he" right out of the equation.
I have found an interesting ego boost through Hot or Not. Yes, it's a trivial website. Yes, I am lying when I put "female" on the page. We have already debated the ethics of that elsewhere on this site. I have found that without even showing my boobs, that I have a 9 rating with almost 10,000 people rating my picture. That, to me, is a cool ego boost.
Kathi
I do want them to notice in a positive way. (man your hot!). But, that is as far as I go. I am really straight so I get the "ego boost" but I have no desire to be with a man.
I can understand why some would want that. It's kind of validating, provided of course that you wish to "pass" or be perceived as beautiful in a feminine sense.
However, I find it utterly disgusting when someone who is passable leads men on. There's really no excuse for that kind of behavior, regardless of how porcine you find males to be. Never forget that you, biologically, are one.
Deny your "Y" chromosome all you want, it's there.
I am never into drawing undue attention to myself but more time then not will have men give me a look or when sitting in a bar offer to buy me drinks. As I am not in a long term relationship at present I am in flirt mode any ways.
If you go out and about men will notice any nicely dressed woman. It is a nice feeling to know they like you and it is only natural:) I wear a wedding ring so most of them get the hint. The fun one is truckers.
I dont mind if men hit on me thats womanhood and just last week a man was hitting on me at the supermarket.
No - I just want to enjoy the feeling and expression of my inner feminity
JoAnne Wheeler
I don't go out much, and I've never been to a bar or anything like that en femme, so I've never really had a man hit on me. I have no desires whatsoever to be with a man, either, so I think that were a man to hit on me, it would make me feel very uncomfortable.
I have noticed men looking (or leering) at me while out, but then, it's normal for men to take elongated looks at women wearing pretty dresses. And I did find that rather amusing, and a little flattering. But still, I'm glad that none of them have ever approached me and asked me out to lunch or anything. I really don't want that kind of attention.
Yes I do want men to notice. I've been out and about and the feeling that a man is hitting on me is a great feeling.
Of course I like to be noticed, either by men or woman. I've been hit on by both and I like it most of the time. Some men are very polite and have offered to buy me drinks or just sit and talk, I let them know that i'm married so there is no chance of things going further. I've also had woman flirt with me, I tell them the same thing I tell the men. But yes, I do enjoy the attention.
I've never been out dressed, however my day would be made if other girls (GG & TG/CD) said i looked good. Not guys though, thats not for me!
:rofl:
If I didn't want the notice I'd wear what I wear everyday. If I take the time to get dressed up, someone, I don't care who needs to notice. Otherwise why bother? I am invisible everyday.
I really enjoy being complimented and hit on by men or women when I am dressed. It confirms my sex appeal and my beauty. I am also realistic enough in my thoughts to question the motivation of someone who would be attracted to an old fat crossdresser. Must be my scintalliting personality.
I never went out with the idea that I might be hit on, but it has happened. Most notably a male hairdresser at a salon I used to go to en-fem and a bartender at a club in Delaware. In both cases, they knew I was a crossdresser.
While I'm not really wired that way, it's still flattering. What the heck, might not be going to the party but I can still appreciate the invitation :battingeyelashes:
My first night "dressed" was also the first time I ever ventured out in public. That was 14 months ago. I am fully transgendered at this stage.
I go out alot. In fact, there are very few instances where I transform and do not go out, even if only to CVS to browse the makeup aisle. I have never been closeted, likely due to the fact that I was basically grabbed by the hand and taken out into the world by a very wonderful and understanding GG on that evening in July, 2008. I have no other frame of reference really.
One thing I've learned from being just about everywhere from bars to the local library in several cities in north america is that being "hit on" by men or women can be confusing and unsettling. Sexual agendas abound everywhere and although there is an element of validation to such attention, at this point in my development I prefer to attempt to simply try look as good as I can, conduct myself in a manner befitting a lady which to me, translates into modesty and grace.
Honest compliments, delivered sincerely are always welcomed and acknowledged politely but for me, my validation now comes from within and from the one person who somehow brought this woman inside of me to life.
:daydreaming:
Is he rich, old and on his last leg, then yes !:D
Not likely anyone, male or female, would hit on me out dressed.:sad:
Altho it doesn't happen here, on OTHER CD sites, my pics get Sherry LOTS of attention from guys and CDs!:brolleyes: