I see crossdressers in public but I am not sure how to treat them. Do you ladies like to be addressed as a woman, have guys opening your doors, let you go first etc...
I see crossdressers in public but I am not sure how to treat them. Do you ladies like to be addressed as a woman, have guys opening your doors, let you go first etc...
If you were in their shoes, how would you like to be treated?
Dana says it all.
Daisy
One couldn't have said this any better. Treat others like you would want them to treat you.Quote:
Originally Posted by danar
Just treat us as you would any other woman to include addressing us as women, ma'am or whatever. Passable or not when I'm dressed I like to be treated as a woman.
I think most would appreciate being treated like a woman. For me it is not a big deal. Being friendly and respecting my choice of clothing is good enough.
Preferably with the same respect you would treat anyone else.
So basically what they said ^ :love:
Well I was mainly referring to how you ladies want to be treated gender wise. Even if I was dressed in drag I would not want somebody to treat me as a woman. But it may be different for you guys.Quote:
Originally Posted by danar
The general rule of thumb is to treat a person they way they present themselves. If some one presents themselves as a man, you treat them like a man, if they present themselves as a woman, you treat them as a woman. This is just like calling people by the name they want to be called by, and prevents you from having to make a lot of guesses and inappropriate body cavity searches.Quote:
Originally Posted by seanmuscle
And here is where the golden rule breaks down. There are a LOT of guys in the world (some of them even on this forum) who would never want to be identified as a woman, no matter what they were wearing. I on the other hand would rather be identified as a woman no matter what I am wearing. If I apply my rules to others - hilarity will ensue.Quote:
Originally Posted by danar
Perhaps a better rule would be to treat others as they wish to be treated. Of course - sometimes we don't know how others wish to be treated and so we are back at square one. In any case, we could all probably be a little less sensitive when some one is making a good faith effort to figure us out and gets it wrong. Of course - if they are intentionally being jerks - let 'um have it.
You summed it up baby. Thats what I wanted to know. It seems like the majority of CDs like to be treated as women.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hope
thanks!
respect
I agree, treat us like any other woman, however, I don't feel that means treating us "special" or differently, just the same as anyone else. Not all GG want the extra attention from men, some girls love it. It is all a matter of respect and getting a feel for how a person wants to be treated, which you wont really know until you interact with them. Crossdressers are individuals too, and we're all a little different.
But the basic part is to just treat us like anyone else, and to use the same female terms as you would a genetic woman.
How do I want to be treated? Sweetly, Hon, sweetly.:)
Both men and women are equal in the world.
Therefore, both genders should be treated with respect, regardless of how you are dressed.
Very simple...just treat us with respect. :)
Yeah just like you would any lady.
And, if you are interested in dating a CD/TS, then approach her as you would any other woman.
I doubt if any CD/TS out there would be upset if you were to treat her like a lady. Being CD is a femme personna. I mean you are not gonna have a man in a dress get upset if you called her "she" or "ma'am".
I'm a Lady, and expect to be treated as such! Wouldn't you like a lady to treat you with love and respect?
What about in private? :heehee:
Some of us, in private, wanted to be treated like...Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyWannabe
WAIT, We can't use that word here!
I want to be treated like crap and called names and beat up! But that's just me!
You're BAD to the bone Karen! :)
What about women? Should I act like a man when I'm with a CD I'm romantically interested in? I'm very confused.
I guess I'm different than most of the ladies here. I'm a guy and I like being treated as a guy. I just have a different preference in clothing than most guys.
Being treated like a lady makes me uncomfortable. And whatever you do.......don't smack me on the ass.
Wait....that was a sexist comment, wasn't it? :tongueout
Does this mean I'm gonna have to quit holding doors for people when I'm dressed as a woman? Nah, I still love being courteous. That's what comes from being raised by women who teach respect.
Oh and if I'm holding doors for people I let the whole family go through. And if I'm really generous I stand there for a few extra seconds if I see someone worthwhile coming. By worthwhile I mean a woman, elderly, handicapped, child, decent looking guy who I think would do the same. Getto boy punks don't usually get the door held for them very long from me.
You know what's a funny kind thing to say to people? Automatic doors! If you are just ahead of someone who you think would love to have a door held for them, make sure and let them pass once you are inside the door. Then say, "thought I'd get the door for you." I've done that a couple times and had very appreciative looks/comments.
Doesn't that happen when you play hockey?:heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
Normally, as a man, then I get treated as such. So if I present myself as Melanie, a woman, then...? Seems pretty self evident to me.
Now if a guy is dressed in womens clothes but not presenting themselves as such- in terms of their name, mannerisms, overall gender identity, then you would treat them as a man.
There is a difference between a man dressing as a woman vs a man identifying themselves and presenting as a woman.
Melanie
Spoil me, shower me with diamonds and designer clothes :) Take me to Europe on your private jet! :devil:
Hugs, Marci :hugs:
Maybe that's why Karren plays hockey!Quote:
Originally Posted by Denise Rhodes
If I am dressed as a lady, presenting as a lady, and acting as a lady, then treat me as a lady.
Simple. I want to be treated as a lady, with courtesy and respect. In return, I will treat you with courtesy and respect as well.
Chivalry is not dead! Treat me as a cultured refined woman. I'll try to act like one. :)
If out at a crowded mall, grocery, etc. Just smile, say hello at the most and let me keep on doing my thing. Generally I am trying to blend in and not get noticed as being a CD/TV when out in public.
But I'm just a B- at that, too much chatting with my deep voice, or creating a scene where people start to notice my full coverage makeup, wig, hmmm pretty damn tall.....well the gig is up and they read me and I hate being a side-show. Well sometimes I am just a wild Tgirl and don't care, but i pick my battles and venues for that act.
At da club, come up say hi and we will have a nice chat! LOL
As a gentleman admirer who loves this lifestyle and who has enjoyed the company of many CD friends over the years, I have learned that respect and honesty are very important. I treat people as a whole with the same treatment that I want to be treated with. When it comes to CDs, especially those that are deeper into the CD lifestyle, it is usually on the level of a man entertaining and respecting a natural women. I enjoy making my CD friends feel the experience of being a women. In most cases, I have been told that after a date or a meeting, my friends always tell me that they never felt as feminine as I had made them feel. Thats how you make CDs feel.
Jerry
And I am generally in the former category. (Does that make me a trans-former?)Quote:
There is a difference between a man dressing as a woman vs a man identifying themselves and presenting as a woman.
As a Lady of course:heehee:
Wow Deidra you are a very beautiful woman. Look like a classy MILF. I appreciate the help you ladies have given me. I understand some of you are sensitive about these issues and I truly understand as society does not accept CDs too well.Quote:
Originally Posted by Deidra Cowen
just treat us as any other women,
yes.Quote:
Originally Posted by seanmuscle
:2c: Since I live as and present as a woman, I always want to be treated as a beautiful lady (whether you think so or not!), and yes, I DO like guys to open doors for me and do other sweet things, and I eat up compliments like candy.
(I'm TS not CD, but thought I might as well contribute my:2c:
Shouldn't that be .20 with inflation!
Yes, I agree with everyone else. When I'm dressed and trying my best to present as a woman, cut me some slack, even if I don't "cut the mustard" ... please, I would very much like it if you still treat me as you would any other genetic woman.
*giggles* I don't think you're all alone with this. Myself(also living as a girl full time), I love the feeling as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by Empress Lainie
Though I do admit that the "compliments" can be rather creepy sometimes like when a customer calls you honey.
PolitelyQuote:
Originally Posted by seanmuscle
and fem.
Like a queen ( regal, not gay slang ) :)
How would you treat a GG? That's what to think of when out with us or meeting us.
Isn't that why you got married?:DQuote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
Is that why you love hockey??Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
HI..
Well i m just a woman & i dress accordingly except when i m working in the building or doing related work . that s part of my background . & even now i still swing a hammer . so i still get the respect as a woman . & i can still pull rank .
As a woman i belong to a number of groups . & i am treated as any other woman . i have no problems at all . & even where we live we have a hard core group of guys & even they treat me as a woman . & they if it was needed would stand no rubbish from those who were inclined to treat me other wise .
So yes i have respect for who i am ....
For a guy some times you will find we as women do think differently . & do things differently . thats how we are wired . & what i would like to see is that we can walk down any street go any where . & not have to look over our shoulders to check. if some one is following us with intent of doing some thing to us .
That. is part of the respect we would like to see . & out alone at night ...
To open doors & say hi is nice . To have trust that you guys will not molest us would be so much nicer .
That is the respect we would like . so really this is to all men . not just those we know .
...noeleena...
If you don't like the way I look or what I do just keep walking but but when dressed up yes i do like to have the door held for me and treated as any women would be treated.:2c:
Well as for me. Since I'm not out. I'd say that if I were, that I'd want to be treated like everybody else. Make no difference with me or anyother woman or man you would encounter.. I'd just be happy to get to go out dressed....
Unless they're bi, and bi as in more interested in men than women, then no, it's one of the worst things you could do (at least in my opinion).Quote:
Originally Posted by cordgrass
Treat us like ladies, that is how we dressed.
Perhaps it might depend on the CDs perspective. If the CD views himself as a man in womens clothes, it's probably going to be awkward to be treated as femme. If, on the other hand, she is femme when dresed then she should be accorded the courtesies of a woman.
Oh, Karen, that's why I always carry personal protection when out in femme, and I don't mean condoms.:heehee: