Hi all really want to go out dressed en femme for the first time but not got the confidence to go to a club on my own.
Where did u go first time dressed and was you on your own?
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Hi all really want to go out dressed en femme for the first time but not got the confidence to go to a club on my own.
Where did u go first time dressed and was you on your own?
I lived in a very small town at the time - about 5,000 people - and there were no clubs to go to locally. I started by going to my local bank first, as I knew they had cameras running so I felt safer there. I later went farther to get to other places I knew had cameras, like Walmart and Target. Once I felt confident then I went to the local grocery store (yes it was so small a town they had only one.)
The 31st of this month is a perfect excuse to test the waters! I went out fully dressed the first time on Halloween in 1979, and I have NEVER looked back!
I went out for the first time back in '07.
Jean and I were in Atlanta and we were going to our first Tri Ess meeting.
Before the meeting, we went to dinner with another couple that we know that live near us and have been going out for a while.
Kandi is a member here and this is where we had our first contact.:thumbsup:
It was nerve-wracking and exciting all at the same time.:D
I think it was in 1998. I don't really count going to the gay club though, that is easy.
So basically I was overdressed in this black dress that was kind of ugly really. I went to the grocery store and also did laundry after at some laundromat. And of course like most say - I didn't get any comments or stares.
Just for the "first outing" or whatever outing, dress conservatively yet look nice.
During my time of figuring this all out, I learned the hard way that if you wear mini skirts and look like a street walker, that is what draws attention. You go out conservative looking, no one really notices. Even if they do notice the TS/CD, they don't say anything if you are actually covered decently.
Hi,
in 1958-9 , age 10+ i was dressed as a girl with 3 others for a end of year do for our church, some 80 or more came , so yes i was dressed full on & my Mum was there as well , so my first time was my Mum did dress me in my lovely clothes a cream dress just after i was born ,
Other than that not in the way you mean. tho im a woman intersex, my real dressing days would have been some 15 years ago. or the start of.
my interaction has been over the last 9 years with women & how im accepted , tho theres a lot more behind that,
Going out in our Village we have less than 5.000 & our next two Towns have 16.000 & 38.000 people & i just mixed with people to start with , the bigger malls are a good place to go. find a eating place & watch others see whats going on & if like myself i just up went shoping as tho there was no difference just like every one else nice clothes a little make up & just enjoy being there, with other people no dought you do that any way wether you or how your dressed wont make any difference , talk with the sales people , oh the voice , forget it who cares, no one really , dont put stumbling blocks in front of your self, or fear of the unknown forget it,
I mixed with some 200 people more if i counted every one. no drama if i can with my looks or lack of then you & others can .
I have mausculine features facial wise, that say so. yet im acceped for who i am by many people because i had the guts to over come many issues & one that has been my in my eyes undoing is my lack of looking female / woman. if i had allowed that to stop me i would not be where i am now,
Hey it would be lovely to look more femm what ever. well it wont happen not for this kid,
. so just go have fun enjoy your self & be who you are,
So what if some people look may be you have some nice clothes they like so people will look . no big deal.
...noeleena...
My first time out was a couple of months ago. I drove from West Virginia to Tennessee enfemme, stopping for gas and food on the trip. I was alone, unfortunately, but I look forward to going out again with my girlfriend real soon.
Danni
Hi there why would it be good to be my first time out at halloween. I am guessing u mean a witch
I always liked to dress as a Woman for Halloween as a kid because it felt very natural and i was comfortable. It continued more often as i got older.
Halloween 1976 (dressed as a nurse)
I would like to get out more but so far the only times I have been out femme is around halloween. The first time I went out was to a club called Trumans it was in Indiana.
About four years ago, we (I was with my partner) were on a long week-end break, and I was terrified. We walked out of the hotel and onto the sea front, I was positive everyone was looking at me, but my partner kept on telling me that no one was taking a blind bit notice, but I was not confident, and to be honest I was glad to get back to the hotel. When we did, it was then that I noticed that I had put my shoes on the wrong foot! The feeling was a mixture of fear and excitment, we have been out many times since, restraunts, pubs etc,. Whilst staying at a large hotel a little while ago, a gentleman opened the door for us as I passed him I thanked him, he said patting my rear "My pleasure" like most women I carried on as nothing had happened, but at my age I took it as a very nice compliment!
My best wishes to you all,
Lesley Ann xx
1st time ever? 1967 - I was 10 and we (aunt/cousin's) went to a local Krystal's hamburger joint, then the grocery store. I spent the following 3 weeks as the newly created Jennifer.
1st time I did it on my own? I was 15 and spent the day working for my Grand-dad at the Community Chest. He dropped my off that morning and picked me up that evening. I spent the entire day unpacking boxes of clothes. I spent most of the day in a maroon/velvet shorts set and go-go-boots (except for my "lunch hour" when I tried on several wedding dresses). I spent the majority of that summer as Jennifer after that (another long story). First time I did it and not at home? A trip back to Georgia before I went to college. I spent 2 weeks with the GP's and the aunt that created Jennifer. Within 2 days of being there, I had made the switch back to Jenn and then left there for college. I really hadn't planned on being Jennifer at college...the 2 week trip to the GP's and aunts was to be a final fling. BUT...when I got there, the dorm I was assigned to was kinda co-ed as the girls were on one end of the hall and the guys on the other. Seniors got the first rooms, then it went down from there. Since I was a lowly Freshman and late to sign up, I ended up with the last room of the guys before the girls rooms started...which within an hour became the last girls room before the guys started. But I digress...
Jenn
My actual first time was when I was 16... 1968ish.... Dressed up in my mothers clothes and makeup and took a stroll around town one evening. Really a rush and scared to death!
My first time out dressed was about 1 month ago. I met up with another CDer and a GG friend of thiers. We took seperate cars and drove to Mobile to a gay bar. Was an easy first outing with a couple of accepting people with me. Also, when we walked in, there was a drag show going on, which really put me at ease. I definately want to get out again while dressed.
Having CD'ed at home for several years, I decided to try a CD makeover specialist in a remote city. She dressed me up (From bra/forms to slip to garter belt) and made me up, selected a wig and even jewelry, shoes, purse, perfume and coat. Then she and her CD friend and I went out to a nice restaurant for a casual dinner. I felt very self conscious all through dinner and even when paying the tab and walking out through (by this time) a very busy place. My biggest problems were walking in heels and keeping my voice falsetto! Quite an experience!
There were several stages of my going out en femme:
- out of the house -- walking and driving but keeping pretty much hidden (so what was the point?)
- being seen in public - but only by strangers - so if read it wouldn't be a disaster
- going into shops (like wig shops) but still shy about it
- going into a tg-friendly club, where it was ok to be seen as a crossdresser
That's as far as it has gone for me. I don't have any burning desire to be seen as or living as a real woman (successful passing in any setting).
The first time for myself going out in public for any extended time was in 2001 when I attended my first Renaissance TG meeting. It was in a different city so I had to interface with a lot of different folks along the way to ask directions. Seemed to be a positive first time experience. Plus when I finally did get to the meeting I was treated with dignity and respect as it was at a UU Church and I had to ask members where the meeting was. All in all a good experience.:)
I'm honestly trying to remember my first time out. I think it was when my wife & kids were out of town. I needed some gas in the car, so I headed to a special gas station where only members could get gas. The station did not have an attendant, it was all on credit card and usually no one else was there when I stopped for gas. It was about 10 PM so I thought, I can do this. I put on a short tennis skirt (it was summer) and my regular T shirt. I cautiously got out of my car when I arrived. My car was between me and the main road, so I thought no one could see me well. About half way through my filling up, I saw a car go by and slow down. A minute later it came back, pulled into the station - with three young guys in it leaning out the window looking at me as they drove past. I was Scared! I quickly put up the hose and got in my car and drove away.
Now that I look back, that was NOT the way to go out first.
My first time out trying to be full femme, I got dressed up and drove to a near by K-Mart. I did not pass, but I was determined to do it. I got out of my car, walked into the store, feeling very nervous. I got a couple stares and a little laugh. I walked around for a minute and headed straight back to my car.
My how far I've come.
Other than dressing for a function at work it was shopping at Rose's dept store. The next night I went to The Lipstick Lounge in Nashville, its a great place where they make you feel welcome. Billie Jean
I was 15 the very first time. Went across the street, and bought a newspaper out of the vending box. I had to walk past the corner store that I we shopped in every day! What a rush! After that, I would get home from school, before anyone was home, and take walks around the neighborhood, getting bolderr every time!
Well if you count going for a drive en femme going out then for me it was back in '98. However, one time I had a planned out dress up day whereas I was forced to leave home due to an unexpected situation. I had no time to change back and was dolled up in a black pencil skirt, high boots and a black sweater. I had to stay gone for several hours. I just did it and went to a mall, get gas, lunch, and just spent the day en femme until dark. What a rush. Funny thing is, when under pressure, we fold or go for it. I went for it.
The first time I went out totally en femme with the intent to encounter humans was on Halloween. I wore a mid calf jade and black long sleeve print dress, black stockings and strap on heels- and a brunette wig. I had on full make up. I went into a Winchell's doughnut shop and bought some doughnuts. The young woman complimented my presentation. The second outing to encounter humans was also a Halloween. I wore a knee length black dress with black stockings and heels. I wore a blond wig and had on full makeup. I went into a Safeway and bought a bottle of Coke. An immature young guy cracked up and actually made an ass of himself. A third time I drove to a different Safeway on Halloween which turned out to be closed. It was the time before 24 hour stores. I was dressed in a knee length white sleeveless dress, beige hosiery, white strap on pumps, blond wig and makeup. A local cop pulled up next to me at a traffic light and looked me over. Although there was no reason for him to initiate an encounter, I nearly died.
If you're wanting to get a taste of being out as a woman, I'd go en femme on Halloween. There is an element of psychological protection to one's ego. I would forget the Halloween costumes and dress as the inner woman you are. And with Halloween on a Monday this year, there is the opportunity to start off with bay steps on Friday and work yourself up to full encounters on Monday.
I know my wife would not approve of cross dressing outside the home, so I'm stuck at home handing out candy. When I made my Halloween forays those many years ago, I could never figure out why my wife didn't miss me on my side of the bed. With hindsight I guess she figured it out.
Now I mostly take drives
The mall. It's one of the few places that a woman can go to alone and not be out of place.
I only underdress. The first time I went out wearing a bra and panties under my male clothing was to the grocery store. I actually forgot I had the bra on and left the house. I must admit it was a bit nervous about being discovered. Now I wear panties and a camisole with a shelf bra every day.
My first time was at a mall in the middle of the day. I was found out immediantly and laughed at by two girls. Since then I have only gone out at night.
Having been a crossdresser for 70 + years, I can't remember where I went out to the first time. I am not even sure that I can remember where I went out to last month!!! Since I grew up in Portland, Oregon I am sure it was somewhere in the downtown!! There were a number of large department stores there, and I always spent time in them!! Oh yes, I was most likely in my early teens since I started crossdressing at age 6!! I do know that I had a wig then that had belonged to a relative, and still looked pretty good! Don't remember if I got laughed at or not, but probably did!!
My first time was for a Halloween party in 1983.I didn't have a wardrobe to speak of, but was able to borrow clothes, shoes, and a wig from women I worked with. They thought it was a hoot that I would do that. I was wearing a nice pair of 4" strappy heels, and I remember hearing a woman say to another--he walks way too well in those heels. Opps!
other than that, I had a great time at the party.
Jodi
I went for a long walk, in a well light city. If was about 25 years ago and with my wife, at the time.
[SIZE="3"] My first time was alone, to a wig salon. I was 50 years young. I arrived fully enfemme with my male hair as fem as possible. I was treated very well.
I then headed out shopping wearing my new wig. I had a great time even though I got a few stares. [/SIZE]
The Cherry Blossom festival in Washington, DC. The weather was perfect and the lighting was very low when I took a stroll around the Tidal Basin at the Jefferson Memorial. It was about 10 pm and the walk was sparsely populated. I have no idea if the light was bright enough for others to read me, but the blossoms were beautiful, the air had a sweet scent, and the sense of calm was wonderful.
Liz
The first time? It was a bout 1990 and I was not totally enfemme, just a skirt and blouse that didn't go together, at a mall far, far from town. I didn't really do much after that for many years. Tried to repress the urge and purged. Dressed at home on and off through-out the years. About 3 years ago I started going out, walking around the neighborhood late at night when darkness hides a lot of flaws. I live in a very safe town, lucky for me. Just this August I shaved, dressed and went to a mall, movie and McDonalds in a town 100 miles from me. It was a good experience, no one laughed and I completely enjoyed myself. I consider this as my 1st real outing enfemme.
AnitaH
Mine was on my birthday two years ago. I went to an Ulta for a make-up lesson. So I went in with only foundation on which tweaked my nerves just a touch more. But it was a great birthday present and a good time. Was just too easy....
My first outing was at a mall , lets just say Ive learned a lot since then .Ive got way better at applying make up , wearing the correct fitting clothes and walking in my new high heels .
Halloween 1982. I went to a party hosted by a friend from work that was loaded with co-workers. Wore a mid-thigh denim skirt, turtle-neck, black boots with 3 1/2 heels, blond wig, makeup and three layers of tan tights/pantyhose (to cover leg hair). Immediately clocked as a CD from a Chicago couple who had recently moved to my no-where small town. The outfit was too well done, and that was a give-away to them. I laughed it off and most others enjoyed it without thinking too much about it, at the time.
I went out the first time on September 2 this year. I drove to the gas station about 11 at night and got gas. That went okay, so I walked into the QT and bought cigarettes. I went to Wally World a couple of days later. I went by myself both times.
Its going to be my first time in a couple weeks from now, I'll let you know how it goes. I'm sure I will get the jitters at some point because I'm going to stay at an expensive hotel in our city and I will have to walk through the main lobby and hang out the front for a cab. I won't be dressing down. Big, puffy, ball gown, fur coat here we go!
you are looking back now. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by erickka
If i discount my drives and my nervous walks, the first time i went to a public place was at uni. I think bravery must have come over me in waves that day, or i was in the frame of mind where i just wanted people to know or to see me, but anyhow, i went to the university library. Looking back it could have been really disastrous, the number of people i could have bumped into, but didn't. I tried to be confident but was terrified and was probably over made-up by quite a way, but there we go, im not proud of my presentation back then, but i sure am proud that i managed to get myself out there.
x Flic x
The first times (And actually only times, slightly sadly >.<), actually happened several times, that I would consider my "first" >.<
The very first time that I actually went out as Rhonda, I ended up walking with my fiance about halfway into town to visit our town's DQ (we lived a couple miles into the country, and had no access to the household car >.<)... and I was wearing a pair of shoes that hurt like heck about halfway down the road >.< It was pretty much a disaster because of the shoes... though we ended up laughing because we had turned down a ride into town from a few guys ;)
The next time was a lot better though... I had actually gotten a fair pair of high-heeled boots this time (I like wearing them, even though they make me self-conscious :P) and we decided to walk to the (MUCH closer than DQ :P) gas station to buy dinner. That time we walked, and everything went beautifully, if I probably was blushing (something that I've always had :P I did drama stuff in High School, and the director even pointed out that I didn't need blush on stage XD) the entire time that we were there :P
The last time that I've gone out in public, (I still consider it a first because I actually went somewhere, and it was in the daylight :P) we went over to our town's Wal-Mart for some random stuff, and we decided to just have me go en femme. It went fine, though I did notice a pair of girls looking at me oddly, which worried me, but the real scare didn't come until we were in the line for checkout. We got in line behind someone, and I noticed after a few beats that it was a teacher I had in grade school (I'm the kind of person who's friendly to people, unless they're blatantly rude to me :P), and at that point she turned and looked at me... Either I looked different enough between the last time I had run into her though, or she didn't connect the face to the female body, and nothing was said >.<, so it was a good experience :D
my First time out i went to burger king in a short denim skirt and white high heels and a white blouse :) it was a rush
I ventured out for the very first time - into my own front yard to move a sprinkler! I just couldn't bring myself to change back into drabs for a 2 minute task. Anyway, the world did not end. Within a few days, I'd mustered the resolve to get a make-over, come out to my hair dresser, shop at a nearby mall and get a few drinks at a gay bar.
Sounds like my story, I went out to a strip mall, and walked into a drug store, was instantly spotted by to young teenage girls that stalked me around the store, trying to get a better look, and giggling loud enough to be heard at a pretty good distance, After a couple of minutes trying to lose them . I gave up and headed for the car, I've never gone out again, and get a ball in the pit of my stomach just thinking of going out anymore. Even when I've tried going out for a ride in my van, if a car approaches, instinctively I put my arm over my chest, and suck my lips in, so the lipstick is not noticeable, then I feel like an idiot, and go home feeling miserable. I now live in a town, that I wouldn't go out in, even if I was not so bothered by doing it, so I guess it's no big deal anymore. Besides, the wife prefers me to keep it at home anyway, so it works for the best I guess.Quote:
Originally Posted by Vanessa Winters
Tina B.
Where was ur first time
it was on the hill behind my dorm at boarding school.......OH! you mean going out dressed as a woman....sorry!
I think I went to some 24 hour big box store.
After doing the driving thing, getting out in a deserted area and walking around for five minutes. First time went to a movie theater in La Grange, IL fully dressed as a female. So five minutes of exposure to the public going in and out through the lobby. :straightface: Guess really was when I went to a private club in Plantation, FL for a surprise birthday party for Terri the owner of Fantasies In Lace store in Hollywood, FL, about 1988. FIL store has been closed for quite a while but FIL has an online store.
My very first time was to a friend's Halloween party.
Other than that my first time "in public" was to Vanity Fair outlet mall in Pennsylvania with my wife.
Now I can't remember all the places I've been and things we've done.
Technically (whatever that means, lol), it was over 15 years ago, just before I filed for divorce. It was more for disguise purposes than anything else. It enabled me to go downtown and sit on a park bench directly across the street from the outdoor patio where my wife (now ex-wife) was enjoying another intimate lunch with yet another “boyfriend” (which she would later claim was a figment of my imagination, as usual).
That was an interesting period in my life…lol. The bright side is that it did convince me I was capable of successfully blending in with the pigeons when I was dressed.:D
:love:
1993....denim midi skirt, blue silk button down shirt buttoned at the top, a pair of 2" hoop earrrings (pierced), black knit hose, and mary jane shoes while at Coffee Connection on Newbury St in Boston, Mass. .....I went out solo, and frightened to death.
I think the large amount of people within close proximity freaked me out.
I did the walks in the yard or trips to the motel ice machine at 3 a.m., but those didn't involve a real possibility of being around other people. My first was a long walk in uncomfortable shoes from a Motel on Tropicana Blvd. in Las Vegas to the MGM Grand and back. Scared the bejezzus out of me and made me think I would never, ever go out in public again, it hurt my feet, made me realize I was over dressed in a poor style and I needed to improve my home made breast forms. So I when I got back to the room I changed clothes to something simple; slacks and a solid color top, more comfortable shoes and went to a different casino the same night.
I went for a ride in the car. I drove downtown, got wet feet and returned home.
My secon venture was again downtown. I parked, went for a short walk, then returned home.
My third outing was in the car on an interstate. I drove about 60 miles returning home.
Finally about the fourth time, I went to a club to meet another CD. I was nervous as a long tail cat in a room full of rocking chairs but I had fun. Of course the Amaretto sour on ice may have helped my fortitude to stay for more than a nano-second.