What are you CD, TG or TS or somewhere in between?
Here is a pretty good link to help you decide since it comes up so often.:) http://www.transgenderlondon.com/wha...d_tg_or_ts.htm
There are also some other great articles on that website so check it out. The website owner deserves all the credit for this.:)
Oh and sorry Julia, IS is not discussed here.
Text version below:
The Transsexual Identity
First, let's figure out what being transsexual is not. It is not; dressing up pretty, putting on makeup and going shopping. The dressing is really a very secondary issue. Yes, it is a part of our lives but it is more likely to be jeans and a tee than a skirt and blouse, and makeup will usually take about 5 to 10 minutes tops; if at all. Being TS means we are going to be clocked, every single day until we are fully transitioned with facial feminization surgery among other cosmetic procedures. It means that we are putting ourselves out there as targets for ridicule and prejudice. It means we are risking our lives and health to transition. It means we are living constantly with anxiety that can border on depression and often it is debilitating. It means we are willing to risk our families and careers so we can be ourselves. It means we welcome the surgeon with open arms. It means that nothing else in the world matters as much as aligning our gender identity with our gender role and eventually our sexual identification.
Being transsexual also means living in poverty for many. Some of these women have to turn to the sex trade to survive. As I mentioned earlier, careers often disappear when the TS comes out, so ensuring a continuous financial support is as critical as having an emotional and social support system. The TS needs all three and in massive doses.
The Transgenderist
The transgenderist often identifies as a transsexual but for any number of reasons opts to not go through transition. This is a very personal choice and the reasons are as varied as there are people. Most try to live as "normally" as possible while still satisfying their core gender. This often can result in presenting as an androgyne or "metrosexual" if you will. Their dress may appear as "pop culture" or slightly femme. Their lives are no less driven for the need to transition but their resolve is not to do so; at least for that day.
The Crossdresser
"You can always tell the crossdresser by their ever present digital camera pointed back at themselves."
The crossdresser is driven to emulate their opposite to natal sex but what they have no desire for is to transition. The crossdresser accounts for approximately 95% of the trans population. Obviously they are also the ones who most question their gender.
This is good of course but what sets them apart from the TS or TG is that the TS knows their gender and sex are at odds. They know their true gender is not their birth gender. Sometimes it takes a bit of time, often with a therapist to figure this out, but it is truly something we know deep down. There is no question. The CD however questions this to death. This continual questioning often leads them toward anxiety creating other social problems that on the surface can make them think they might be transsexual. As I said, the TS knows and there is little or no question in their soul.
This doesn't mean that the latent transsexual is a myth. It is very much a reality and for those who do discover their true identity in later life, that realization can be earth shattering. Of course these people came from the CD part of the trans community. This only adds to the questions the CD will ask. I can only address this question like this; The latent TS will "hit the wall" and go crazy in the process. They dont understand what has happened or where they are going. This is a time of high risk for them on multiple fronts; social, familial, career, and last but not least, mental/psychological. The anxiety and depression that result from this awakening can be debilitating and often is. Frequently they end up in the mental health system where the first "working diagnosis" is that they are Bi Polar. Then the diagnosis will change to perhaps PTSD. This can go on ad nauseum until the sufferer finally admits to himself or herself that they are trans and then they have to come out to their doctor. Suddenly the whole picture changes as does the treatment protocols. Several years could have passed during this time. Coming out at the beginning could save a lot of anguish.
The Transvestic Fetishist
The TV has a different perspective on crossdressing. Here it is for sexual pleasure or gratification. For this reason, they are not generally considered a part of the transgender population, BUT they could also fall into the crossdresser category.
Summary
As I said at the beginning, there is probably a little of each of these archetypes in all of us, but the trick is to sit down and seriously and honestly look at yourself to see where you best fit into the spectrum. As you can see from the picture at the top, there is an overlap everywhere to varying degrees.
Confused yet? The Harry Benjamin Scale is used by professional health care providers
Transgenderist is omitted completely from these definitions used for treatment.
Dr. Harry Benjamin's Gender Disorientation Scale
Kinsey's sexual orientation scale
0 Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual experience
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 Predominantly homosexual, but incidentally heterosexual
6 Exclusively homosexual, with no heterosexual experience
Type One: Transvestite (Pseudo)[3]
Gender Feeling: Masculine [3]
Dressing Habits and Social Life: Lives as a man. Could get occasional kick out of dressing. Normal male life. [3]
Sex Object Choice and Sex Life: Hetero, bi, or homosexual. Dressing and -- more --exchange may occur in masturbation fantasies mainly. May enjoy TV literature only. [3]
Kinsey Scale: 0-6 [3]
Conversion Operation: Not considered in reality. [3]
Estrogen Medication: Not interested or indicated. [3]
Psychotherapy: Not wanted and unnecessary. [3]
Remarks: Interests in dressing is only sporadic. [3]
Type Two: Transvestism (Fetishistic)[3]Gender Feeling: Masculine [3]
Dressing Habits and Social Life: Lives as a man. Dressing periodically or part of the time. Dresses underneath male clothes. [3]
Sex Object Choice and Sex Life: Heterosexual. Rarely bisexual. Masturbation with fetish. Guilt feelings. Purges and relapses. [3]
Kinsey Scale: 0-2 [3]
Conversion Operation: Rejected [3]
Estrogen Medication: Rarely interested. Occasionally useful to reduce libido. [3]
Psychotherapy: May be successful (in a favorable environment.) [3]
Remarks: May imitate double (masculine and feminine) personality with male and female names. [3]
Type Three: Transvestism (True)
Gender Feeling: Masculine (but with less conviction.)[3]
Dressing Habits and Social Life: Dresses constantly or as often as possible. May live and be accepted as woman. May dress underneath male clothes, if no other chance.[3]
Sex Object Choice and Sex Life: Heterosexual, except when dressed. Dressing gives sexual satisfaction with relief of gender discomfort. May purge and relapse. [3]
Kinsey Scale: 0-2 [3]
Conversion Operation: Actually rejected, but idea can be attractive. [3]
Estrogen Medication: Attractive as an experiment. Can be helpful emotionally [3]
Psychotherapy: If attempted is usually not successful as to cure. [3]
Remarks: May assume double personality. Trend toward transsexualism. [3]
Type Four: Transsexual (Nonsurgical)[3]
Gender Feeling: Undecided. Wavering between TV and TS. [3]
Dressing Habits and Social Life: Dresses as often as possible with insufficient relief of his gender discomfort. May live as a man or woman; sometimes alternating.[3]
Sex Object Choice and Sex Life: Libido often low. Asexual or auto-erotic. Could be bisexual. Could also be married and have children. [3]
Kinsey Scale: 1-4 [3]
Conversion Operation: Attractive but not requested or attraction not admitted. [3]
Estrogen Medication: Needed for comfort and emotional balance. [3]
Psychotherapy: Only as guidance; otherwise refused or unsuccessful. [3]
Remarks: Social life dependent upon circumstances. [3]
Type Five: True Transsexual (moderate intensity)[3]
Gender Feeling: Feminine (trapped in male body) [3]
Dressing Habits and Social Life: Lives and works as woman if possible. Insufficient relief from dressing. [3]
Sex Object Choice and Sex Life: Libido low. Asexual auto-erotic, or passive homosexual activity. May have been married and have children.[3]
Kinsey Scale: 4-6 [3]
Conversion Operation: Requested and usually indicated. [3]
Estrogen Medication: Needed as substitute for or preliminary to operation. [3]
Psychotherapy: Rejected. Useless as to cure. Permissive psychological guidance. [3]
Remarks: Operation hoped for and worked for. Often attained. [3]
Type Six: True Transsexual (high intensity)[3]
Gender Feeling: Feminine. Total psycho-sexual inversion. [3]
Dressing Habits and Social Life: May live and work as a woman. Dressing gives insufficient relief. Gender discomfort intense. [3]
Sex Object Choice and Sex Life: Intensely desires relations with normal male as female if young. May have been married and have [3]**children, by using fantasies in intercourse.[3]
Kinsey Scale: 6 [3]
Conversion Operation: Urgently requested and usually attained. Indicated[3].
Estrogen Medication: Required for partial relief. [3]
Psychotherapy: Psychological guidance or psychotherapy for symptomatic relief only.[3]
Remarks: Despises his male sex organs. Danger of suicide or self-mutilation, if too long frustrated.[3]
Benjamin noted, "It must be emphasized again that the remaining six types are not and never can be sharply separated."[3] Benjamin added a caveat: "It has been the intention here to point out the possibility of several conceptions and classifications of the transvestitic and the transsexual phenomenon. Future studies and observations may decide which one is likely to come closest to the truth and in this way a possible understanding of the etiology may be gained." [4]
Benjamin's Scale references and uses Dr. Alfred Kinsey's sexual orientation scale to distinguish between "true transsexualism" and "transvestism". But the strict relationship between gender identity (Benjamin's Scale) and sexual orientation (Kinsey's Scale) was just a result of the researcher's biases, not his scientific findings.
[SIZE="4"]So maybe it's easier if we just a pick a number[/SIZE].:)
I'm SURE it's not just me! But, I don't seem to fit in ANY category!
So, WHAT AM I???:brolleyes:
When I started dressing about 16 years ago, I thot I wanted breasts and maybe a vagina.= Transsexual
Now, I seem to have lost all desire to become female and don't even feel I have a fem side. The chart says if I dress I'm TG. But, I don't feel like one! = ??
I finish most of my closet dressing sessions with sex.= Transvestic fetish dresser
When I'm out at conventions with other girls, I dress for a number of days and nites straight. And, sex never enters my mind while I'm dressed there! = ??
So, what am I????:brolleyes:
There isn't a perfect answer
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Originally Posted by
whowhatwhen
I'm a bit inexperienced with all of this so take this with a grain of salt, and please, correct me if I'm wrong:
Everyone is so vastly different and trying to fit into someone else's shoes is just going to stress you out.
If you're having gender issues you could be better off talking to a therapist than obsessing over trying to get the internet to diagnose you.
:)
I agree, I posted both articles for reference. The Harry Benjamin scale being the one that the medical professionals turn to for treating patients. Even if you find a number using the Benjamin scale there may be parts of the definition that don't apply to you. Point is even when it's explained it's still confusing.