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Hi Girls As you have probably noticed most of my pics i have posted don't include my face The reason for this is that i have very a good job and a lot of friends who don't know my little secret I am frightened of what would happen if people from work or my friends found out ! What do you think the chances of non cd's finding my pics on the web ? ( i have my face in my avatar but it is small and i don't think i'm recognizable in it )
I've posted thousands of photos and videos all over the web.... here and facebook for almost a decade and never had anyone that doesn't know find out.... more likely that the photos on your phone or pc will give you away vs ones posted here... imho
This is a very interesting issue... my advice is if you are not sure... DON'T!
Having said that... I don't look anything like my real self when in Kaz mode, so I am more relaxed. You also have to think about why any non-CD would be on this site? The only way they would find out is to admit to being here... ???
xx
i really don't think your freinds look at this website...and you are very pretty and passable...why hide such a pretty face??
wendy
If your friends or work colleagues are not CD/TG/TS/IS, why would they be looking here for you? Again, as has been said, if you are not sure or comfortable, don't
Kaz has pretty much summed it up. Here is relative secure but once you upload a photo to the internet you can never tell where it will end.
.......I agree with Karren,I consider this my safe haven..:brolleyes::heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
i have a teenage son, at his age he has enough on his plate without being confronted by the sight of his dad all dressed up. while i know the chances of this happening are miniscule, while the chance is there then its not a risk im willing to take. who knows, i could end up like this guy! http://www.cracked.com/blog/how-goog...-famous-moron/
also, to be honest, i quite like how my body looks dressed up and dont really like pics where my ugly mug spoils the effect!
in short, if a pic is ever taken of me where i think a) im totally unrecognisable to my male self and b) my face enhances the pic rather than spoils it, then i'll post it right away. promise
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Hi Anastasia. I understand your concern but I had too seek this site out, you have to be interested in crossdressing to come here, it not likely someone you know will a) stumble upon this site b) be here long enough to find your picture and then c) recognise you in your makeup etc. I think you would have to be a fellow crossdresser to come that far.
That said I am from Essex and I will be looking for you now lol
I'm going to post pics of myself soon, I'm just holding back because my SO wouldn't want me too.
I'm at a stage in my life where I'm ready to own what I do.
I don't worry about that. Any picture can be faked so easily now that you could take a pic of anyone and make it look like it is a man wearing a dress, or making love to a football. If someone I knew showed me a pic I would just laugh it off as some kind of joke. That said I do not have any pics posted anywhere but that is mostly because I just can't get the camera to make a decent picture of myself. I have to use either a mirror and it always looks like a funny angle or I use the 10 sec delay and it just looks so unnatural ....I will get someone else to take my pic tomorrow at my tri ess meeting.
I had the same concerns when I first got on here Anastasia. If you start getting some level of comfort, I would recommend only posting them in the pictures forum. A person has to be a member and signed in to see anything there where this forum doesn't have that requirement. But like many say, why would they be here anyway whether they are signed in or not? But the picture forum makes for a more comfortable first step.
I agree with you, Sue. This CD won't post any pictures on the public forum, and until I get my own camera, there won't be any pictures at all. I've consistently found that it's better to be safe than sorry with identifying information on the internet. It's mostly others' experiences, not mine, and I'm not willing to put myself in that position. That includes my avatar.
If people you work with saw your pics here I would ask them... "And why were YOU on a crossdresser site?"
Think about it...if you're here it's for a reason...what's theirs?
I'm hoping you are right Karren having joined the show and tell brigade. In part my decision reflects a degree of comfort now with my photos. (Thankfully taking digital photos is cheap.)Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
The chances of you being recognized are slim but if you are recognized from posting here or on another CD/TG site, chances are you will be asked for a date rather than being outed. After all, what was the person who recognized you doing, surfing this site
I'm expecting to bump into either one of you any day now :GD:Quote:
Originally Posted by becky77
I'm new to this and I thought the same thing that Jorja said,"why would they be looking here for you? Again, as has been said, if you are not sure or comfortable, don't". So, I posted my photos with my face. If a co-worker recognized me, then I bet I found a new girl friend.
But, do what YOU are most comfortable with. I figure if my wife finds out, then it was meant to be. If she looked, she'd see it anyway.
Chelsea
So, as noted... If someone sees you they are probably a friend. Btw, if you log out you can see some of the pages ar hidden and some not... So, if you are really worried, just post pictures to areas that only members can see. Then just mod your avitar to not be as clear. But, really if someone is looking on this site, they are probably a friend.
Hi there, this is a site for support but be wary of posting pictures if you're in both worlds, it might not be good to do.
All I know is it is easy to be exposed and then people look to blame some one when your out enough not to care by all means. Consider fem masks too they give you illusion. But do take pictures for your own improvement on make up and hair colouring it is better than a mirror because you can see what works and things that might need more attention.
Here is my advice, for what it's worth. Take a picture of yourself, in a pose that you have placed online and en femme, but this picture is in guy mode. Use the services tineye.com and images.google.com to do an image search using that image. If pictures of your femme self pop up, remove those images. If none do, you're good to go!
I do this periodically to manage my online image for both male and female images, and I believe that it is good practice to see what the internet says about you, just as a general rule!
I get into Essex as part of my work now and again, so I'll be looking for all of you! :heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Pexetta
If you are not wholly comfortable posting pics, I suppose the best advise is as Kaz stated, 'DON'T'. As with most things, in your own time is best. :)
Reb
well I also think that only members can access the picture and video gallery...
This forum is a comfortable place to post comments and questions. But if anyone has any important reservations about posting their picture, they should not do so. Anything posted on the internet you have to assume can be compromised, discovered and shared. Even with restricted site access, for example, if someone else in your work place or neighborhood is an unknown site member, you could be discovered. Most likely a very slim chance, but possible. Members might also want to be careful about posting personal information (location, employment, current military service) which could further identify them if they have concerns. Why post anything that you are worried about?
You don't need to post your face if you don't want to. Don't forget that anyone can see the forum avatars here without having to be a member, which is why I don't have my photo as my avatar. You just never know who might see it and make the connection. Slim chance maybe, but not one I'm prepared to take. At least, not at the moment.
If people are surfing over hear they are interested in CDing or they will get real bored real quick. If some one recognizes you you probably get a new friend out of it. I seriously doubt any one would see you. If they do they'll have to say why they surfed here in the first place. I post regularly on different sites and I am in the closet for the most part DADT situation I put photo's up and never ever has there been any one who as said anything I almost wish some one fromthe outside would see me and comment. BUt it just dosen't happen
I agree a PC pic or phone pic as a way bigger shoot at outing you
If you're worried, just make sure your avatar pic is safe, and make sure you only post pics in Members Only sections. You can't actually be worried about someone registering on this forum and then seeing something in a Members Only sub-forum.
The only thing you really have to worry about is doing something extra dumb, like posting incriminating things that could show up on a Google search. You don't want someone to randomly Google your real name or the company you work for or your email address and have posts from CD.com pop up in the search results.
I really need to get a remote wipe app for Android. Yesterday I was at a bar and couldn't find my phone, and I knew I probably just left it in my car, but I was still thinking, "What the hell? I've got all my logins to all my personal stuff on my phone!" Nevermind the fact that my ex took some pretty skanky pictures of me and then sent them to my phone.Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
Actually, if somebody started looking through my phone, they'd probably find it so depressing they'd kill themselves. They'd be like, "OMG! I found some weirdo tranny's phone, and the only things in the call history are bill collectors and therapists! And drunk texts to ex-girlfriends!"
Some very good comments have already been posted. I use a drawing for an avatar on here for that reason. On another site, I use a picture of myself with my hands cradling my face. This makes it so facial recognition software has a much more difficult time getting a match.
Ann
This should be safe...if you get recognised then you have a new friend...or rather share a "secret" ?
I want to be who I really am...pretending is catching up to me...qiuckly !!!
great post and thank you it has helped me a lot !! :))))Quote:
Originally Posted by Raquel June
I never really worry about no more, if they don't like it they can turn the other way, we all have our fanisty or what we want too look like , both male and females, huggs Tiffany:doll:
Even if someone was to figure you out, how do they actually know for sure unless you tell them? Even then, if they know, they don't know who else knows and who is watching your back. People will wonder why they are so interested in your life. You can also fight back with legal action if they harm your reputation or do something illegal. Its a small risk if you are smart about it. Nothing you post online is gauranteed to be real is it?
i post face pics only on here, cause if my friends DO find em it also means theyre looking into CDing as well cause theyll be on this site lol. nothing to hide.
Truth is an absolute defense to any suit for libel or slander in the US. Therefore, if you tried to sue someone for harming your representation by outing you as a CDer, and the picture was actually you dressed en femme and posted on a CD website, chances sre your suit would be thrown out. Of course, the threat of a lawsuit, before any outing may deter some, but not anyone with knowledge of the law and a penchant for being a d-bag!Quote:
Originally Posted by Chickhe
I posted a face pic a while back, then removed it again. I guess it doesn't really matter, but my face ruins most of my photos anyway lol
I do not think I qualify to give Advice. I do however know that once it is on the internet it is there forever !!
[SIZE="4"]I'm in the same boat but would have to agree that people looking at pictures here probably came here for a similar reason.
Having said that... I once did a Google search of something like French maid costume and was surprised at how many photos there were of CDs wearing them. And none of those photos were posted here. So one could come across pictures that were in more of a public forum without trying all that hard.
So if in doubt, don't... that's why I won't either. And just to repeat what someone else said earlier... once it's loose on the Internet, it's here forever.
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I am a bit reserved with my picture too.
Some of the girls in the photo section are so gorgeous that I am sure they defy recognition.
Now if I looked like one of them again.......
I worried initially, but to be honest now, I'll live with the outing should it happen.Quote:
Originally Posted by katie73
Damn and blast on both counts for me Katie.
Also, I like the signature quote.
I decree today that life is simply taking and not giving
England is mine, and it owes me a living
Is it from the official DSS website? :devil:
Rebecca
While I understand the whole concept of wanting to be loved and accepted by everyone, for who you really are, you have to decide exactly how realistic that is. A whole lot of the world is going to think you're weird, if not mentally ill. If you're really lucky, the people who are currently your employers, your co workers, and your friends and relatives will be wonderfully accepting of you as a crossdresser.
But I wouldn't count on it. Which is why I don't post pictures of my face on anything even remotely associated with crossdressing. I don't need any more negative drama in my life than I already have.
But you decide. It's your life. If you welcome drama, go for it all and plaster your pics with you as a girl all over the net. Then, there's no turning back, and you'll probably have forced yourself to wear your 'I'm a crossdresser and proud of it' nametag everywhere you go. Which is fine. If that's what you want.
Or, you can stay somewhat in the closet and only paste your pics on forums where it's required to be a member to see them. At least, you're giving yourself a chance to stay somewhat anonymous for a while, anyway.
Best of luck with your decision.
Hi All:
I can't speak about photos posted in he body of a post, but I have discovered an interesting fact about the "profile" photos and "Avatars".
On Google my Avatar photo will show up in a image search of my CD name. The photo may appear closer to or farther away from page 1 depending on the number of "hits"
However my Profile photo doesn't seem to appear under any circumstances.
Has anyone else noticed this?
Danielle:eek:
Danielle, this particular forum is public, which means that google can search it, and google's search tools can 'read' a post. Your name is part of the post, as is your avatar picture, so google can display those. The profile forum is private, which means that google is not able to search it, so your profile photo should not show up on google.
Deedee
PS After reading Danielle's post, I did a google search on me, and found out something interesting and potentially disturbing. I posted a story in a tv fiction site not long ago. I just ran a search on google, and find that another web site, one I had never heard of before, has also posted my story (without my permission...) and even attached an appropriate photo to it.
I don't think I mind this - I posted so people could read - but it is personal evidence, to me and from me, that anything posted in a public place on the internet is 'fair game'. So if you are unsure about posting photos here, do not!
Deedee
Deedee: I wrote three stories that appeared on "Crystals Storysite" about 10 years ago. One of them also appeared on another site without my permission.
I feel very safe on CD.com, my theory is if a friend or coworker finds you here there was a reason they were looking. I assume it means they are one of us and are in the same boat.
Over the years I've posted and taken off so many photos with face as have your same concern. I do not want to be outed to my family and think the likelyhood of it happening is remote but don't want to take the chance. That said I do want other cdr's to know what I look like as it's more honest to have a conversation. My wife doesn't know about this side of my life but has caught me editing my photos on the computer twice now over the years. I just couldn't close the screen fast enough so had to sit and let her look with my mind racing as to what and how I would explain. In both cases she didn't recognise me all made up, once in lingerie and another in a dress which was hers. She just thought i was playing around on the computer on the internet. Which I was. I do have photos of me online now in dateacrossdressr.com and flickr which show my face but only allow them to be seen by those who choose to chat and become a friend so I'm careful and so you should be too.
I just typed in Kalista Jameson in google images and my images came up first thing with link data to crossdressers.com. I'm not worried, but yeah, once you upload, there's no going back. If someone were to show me those pics, I'd look with interest and comment on what a hot chick she is and ask if she's single.
Cheers,
Kalista
i feel the same way.Quote:
Originally Posted by Erica Marie
My screen name isn't unique. Google turns up tons of links that have nothing to do with me. Still, I have posted my pics on several sites, and I've worried that someone will copy a photo and publish it elsewhere on the internet. In that case, someone would still have to figure out that it's me.