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does anyone else have fantasies about a really sexy man loving you and holding you while you're all dressed up? it's like when I'm in male mode I'm straight, but I get all dolled up and I just want me a strong, muscular, sexy man:love: does anyone else have the same experiences?
You may have a taste of bisexual in you.
I find some guys very attractive no shame in that.
I say, you like who you like :)
When I'm in guy mode, I love the ladies, when I am in girl mode, I still love the ladies. I guess in my case, I am a lesbian in a mans body :)
I have no interest in men but to each is his or her own I suppose right? :)
Before I let Rita out to play, I was having fantasies of being with another man. Julie and I discussed it and decided we would look into fulfilling that fantasy. The problem I found was, I'm not attracted to men. We saw male strippers, I got bored. We would check out guys together, nothing! For me I think it was just my suppressed desire to feel feminine.
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Rita.
No. Not even when über glammed up. I think when in girl mode nothing really changes.
A strong, muscular, sexy man holding me and making love to me ... heaven! :love:Quote:
Originally Posted by CDcutie3
I really jus t love being dressed. Haven't felt the urge to be with a man. I guess to each his own. I have felt some urges seeing the CDs on here and other sites have made me feel some urges but if they were in male mode I wouldn't feel it. Some of the gals on here are very pretty. I do still get aroused by dressing though...
When in guy mode, I like women. When in girl mode, I still like women. No change for me. Being in girl mode is arousing for me but that's always channeled toward my wife. If a guy would happen to find me attractive while I'm dressed as Alesha then that would make me feel good knowing I did a good job. :)
Oh yeah but when it's all over, he usually reverts back into the frog that he was.:battingeyelashes::)
Yes, the fantasy is always there. He needn't be muscular; he just needs to romance me.
Well that helps to complete the experience. For me I like to sample both sides of the buffet anyway so when being accepted makes the experience complete
Have a look at the following thread. Of the 170 or so respondents, 2/3 of them feel like you do:
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...boys-as-a-girl
I've thought about this a long time. I don't feel attracted to men, but yet, when dressed, I "could" have sex as a woman. I think we have a partial female sexuality, or else we'd be attracted to men enfemme or enhomme.
::flowers:: You have expressed my feelings to the exactly!Quote:
Originally Posted by alesha_cd
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Rita
.......................waiting for the "if you fantasize like that, you're gay" responses..............as they do every time this topic comes up.
I have been flirted with and (couple of times) picked up by men while en-femme. It feels wonderful. It think the ones of us who surrender to men's advances possibly do it as part of the overall transformation. After all, being taken, pampered, and spoiled is part of being a woman.
When I first started out I did have these fantasies.
Why not when you are all dolled up and looking sexy?
Not for me mon amie, but I believe my wife feels like that. So why is she with me? Damn,....now you've got me all paranoid. :heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by CDcutie3
On the serious side though, a big no for men with me, I'm definitely a girls only show. Oops, girl in the singular, aka the wife. As has already been posted too, each to his / her own.
Rebecca
Yes. I know exactly what you mean. Oh! Honey, I am getting hot flashes just thinking about it right now.Quote:
Originally Posted by Girl
I can't stop thinking about it!:oQuote:
Originally Posted by TonyaV
Hey CD girl. Sounds like a bit of deja vu here, which is what I believe Reine picked up on with the other thread.
We all have our preferences whether in girl or boy dress. Think we also have our fantasies. In either mode I have no desire for men. While dressed, the company of another CD (or two or three ;) is desirable. Just something special we share that men and GG's can not supply.
You have to determine what fulfills your passion and embrace it. Mine??? other Tgirls.
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No. Attracted to women at all times.
Not attracted to men much at all, but when ladied up, i crave the attention, like any pretty woman. Would still like to be with a GG though.
I never thought I'd ever cross the line with men, while en-femme, especially after having had few not-so-good encounters with men as a teenager. But, when the opportunity presents itself the right way - never say never. I am all dolled up, MAC makeup at Macy's, freshly shaved body (all over), a mini skirt, bare legs, the feel of the breeze up my skirt. Men hitting on me left and right walking along the Boulevard. After the first few come-on's I am totally flattered, but kept walking around minding my own business. But then, after few Margaritas and I am getting horny and excited with all that attention, there comes this hunk of a muscle-man (shhh - he's married), handsome, dressed nice, driving a German sedan. I couldn't believe he's stopping to chat with me. He was very respectable. We took a walk together. He held my hand. He kissed it. He asked me out to dinner and dancing, at a later date.... Long story short, one thing lead to another, he ended up giving me a ride back to my motel that same night, and "Ride" he did. Right, wrong, or indifferent, I don't get dressed up and go out picking up men. To the contrary, I am always in the hunt for a beautiful accepting GG. But then, something like this can't happen very often. I would do it again in a heartbeat.
I'm bi, and in an open marriage, so yes, loves me some big ol lunk of man!!! En femme or homme.. I only play with other guys, as my wife is more than enough woman for me!!!
I must admit that on one occasion I could see why women found a particular pop-star sexy .. can't remember who it was, though :doh:
.. but generally, no, I just want to relax with, and be accepted by, female friends when in femme mode myself ..
Not for me. I'm only interested in women when I am in my male mode or my female mode. But, I'm in love with my wife in both modes. (couldn't leave that part out) :).
Di
I have to agree. I have no interest in any man, only women, one in particular.Quote:
Originally Posted by Diversity
To each their own if it makes you happy...................It is kind of interesting to "poll the audience".
Yes, this is common and why I believe there should be a private locked forum on here for it, but then again, people have partners on here threatened by such a thing, so it'll never happen. Just search for threads on it.
This is the same for me. I don't get the opportunity to have sex with a sexy guy very often but it's wonderful when it happens. What I really love is that I've excited a guy and brought him to the 'finish of his excitement'. That's such an amazing thrill for me!Quote:
Originally Posted by TonyaV
Trust me, when you're getting a hot flash, the last thing you think about is sex. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by TonyaV
Did you mean you are feeling flushed when you think about having sex with men?
For me, no. BUT... it's an inescapable FACT that for most here, masturbation is at least a contributing component if not major one for the vast majority. Or at least WAS at some point. There are MANY threads that will back this up. Also, guilt and shame are common themes here. I believe most of it comes from the M component. It's not a giant leap of logic that IF others were to see "you" dressed and found "you" attractive, that would mean "you" are not crazy when you look in your own mirror and see something attractive. Obviously, it would be men that would find a "lady" attractive. I believe a lot of this is unconsciously done. Most people would be shocked to learn/know just how much of what we think, do and say is unconsciously controlled. NGC's BRAIN GAMES points this FACT out, week after week. Our brains can and will do all kinds of crazy things to allow us to feel better about things that might otherwise make us "uncomfortable".
I believe one major component of CDing rarely discussed is simply wanting/having the "power" that most females possess naturally. That of being "wanted or desired" merely because of their looks/physical appearance/presentation - call it what you will. I'd bet a years pay, that almost no "man" ever started CDing while he had a "willing" GG partner.
Wildaboutheels - "that almost no "man" ever started CDing while he had a "willing" GG partner." Can you explain this a little more please.
Are you saying that a man with a willing GG partner would never have the desire to CD? and what is "willing?"
I would imagine that even with a willing GG there would still be men who would enjoy wrapping their bodies in "female" garments!
For those who do have this feeling/desire/thoughts for men - is it only when you are dressed? Or do you have them when not dressed?
Is it something about the feeling of being fem that drives the desire for men?
Im wondering if one causes the other - and I guess that could go both ways!
I find the idea that this is seen as power really ironic and interesting. I'd trade it for real power over my life and my body any day. I'd trade this "power" for the power to take a walk at night without being in danger of being "wanted."Quote:
Originally Posted by Wildaboutheels
Muddy_May, you're new (Welcome! :)), so I just want to explain it is not uncommon for some CDers to believe they CD because they don't have an active sex life with a woman, which indicates that the CDing is sexual for these CDers. But, countless CDers who are or have gotten into relationships with women have also reported that their desire to CD still exists even when they do have willing sexual partners, and even when the CDing is sometimes sexual for them. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by muddy_may
The sexual aspect of the CDing also tends to dissipate with time and a CDer's age, unless of course he is a fetish CDer. The CDing spectrum is wide indeed, plus it does evolve for most CDers.
Me too. And no one ever mentions that not all women have this "power" (I assume that means the ability to wrap a man around her little finger?) The vast majority of us are quite average no matter at what age, and we don't live life having men fall at our feet. lol. In most relationships nowadays, the men do expect the women to pull their own weight financially and otherwise. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ErinSassyPants
Exactly - that's what I meant. In no way did I insinuate age-related Pause hot-flashes; God Forbid. LOLQuote:
Originally Posted by ReineD
Really? Since so many here swear they would never pass I find this statement strange. Women make less money, are often victims of violent crimes and domestic issues. They are outnumbered in "power jobs" 10-1 (CEOs etc). I think you are misunderstanding "power". Young women may be able to control men sexually but that isn't that common unless you have the right look. And then later in life they are often replaced by newer models. I believe the statement is totally wrong (and misogynistic)Quote:
Originally Posted by Wildaboutheels
BTW you would lose the years pay. There are several here who started because their SO dressed them. Away from this site I would say there are many more.
I think for me it's all part of the fantasy. I would love to experience a man, as a woman, but I am not a woman...and never will be. Therefore, I expect being with a man would be a disappointment, it will never live up the experiences I have played out in my head. I am not attracted to men in person, only the models in pictures. Fantasy world I know, but for me it's fun.
All the time....
Same with me. No interest in men in male or female mode. Just my loving, very understanding and supportive wifeQuote:
Originally Posted by Diversity
I am GG but I do get it!
You like a lovely lady you smell good,your outfit is complete your hair is styled your lips are colored and now all you need is a hot guy to appriciate you.snuggle up cozy and feel real good for a while!
Correct?
Let me know because I too am still learning this
Just the opposite. My fantasy is about a sexy woman, whether GG or M2F lez. As a transgendered lez I am never attracted to male personalities, no matter the stripe style or pretend. Nothing wrong with transgendered girls who are that way. It's just not me.
Only fairly recently and only in a narrow scope of activity. For years, nothing like that at all. But then there was an internet camera session moment that opened up some new opportunities. but to be held or kissed or hugged - nope. Bring on the GG's for that stuff.
Power? The more "attractive" a woman, the more "power" she has. Evolution 101. Not going to change anytime soon.
Hookers do not wear flats and granny dresses and neither do most women, out on the prowl, [probably w/o a partner] at clubs etc.] They are highly likely to wear tight, revealing, form flattering clothing. And heels. Not army boots, sneakers or flip flops. I posted a show and tell for flats and granny dresses at the pic and video gallery. With the expectant results.
ALL the choices that women have in clothing items, makeup, padding etc. is to ALLOW them a better chance/opportunity to be more "attractive". [to more men] MORE men to "choose from" means a better chance of finding a man who will be a "good"/reliable father for any offspring.
Men don't have such a wide variety of choices and don't wear makeup [there is a reason they call it makeup] because they don't NEED them. Spending so much effort on appearance for a man is generally a waste of his time. Which is why so few men will spend anywhere near the time, money or effort on appearance as women do. A simple REALITY check is as close as the nearest supermarket. Simply look at and compare the ratio on magazine covers at the checkout ... of women/men/couples. Women in general obsess over their looks and bodies because THEY compete for men based on their VISUAL PRESENTATION at the very least, initially.
Countless women in various professions have landed jobs often based more on their "good looks" than their job skills. Far less likely for a man to land a job based on his "presentation".
Power through the ability to attract someone with actual power is not power.Quote:
Originally Posted by Wildaboutheels
Are you saying that you believe that your average street sex worker (you referred to them as hookers)is in a power position in the world? In her life? Because it seems to me that you are making my point for me when you bring up women so powerless they have to sell their bodies. Of course there is small % of sex workers who have chosen that life but for the average "hooker" we are talking about someone so powerless they do not even have authority over their own body.
Women are not "allowed" more choices in order that they may have better tools to attract men, they are expected by main stream culture to go beyond being themselves in order to be attractive and told that if they don't succeed they dont have any value.
You think that people hiring women based on looks is an indication of power? So the truly qualified woman just got passed over, the one who got hired got hired so they could look at her boobs and everyone will have another chance to say "see a woman can't do that job she only got hired because of her looks." Where is the power in that equation?
I say the more a woman plays into the illusion that the more attractive she is the more power she has the less of her real power she is actually using. Are there powerful women who wear make up? of course, but they don't believe that is the source of their power.
NO NEVER.... I enjoy dressing up and sometimes go to the extreme of boobs and wig but thats it. Thats not to say it bothers me if others enjoy it - each to their own.....Love my wife too much...Ellie
I have that fantasy both when I'm dressed and when I'm not. But I'm a 50/50 bisexual in both modes so... I don't really count. :dance:
Hi Cutie, My fantasies run the other way to a real hot lipstick lesbian lover.
Wow. Your chauvinism is showing. lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Wildaboutheels
I do agree that generally, attractive people (unfortunately) have an edge over not so attractive people, all other things being equal (intellect, inter-personal skills, charisma, experience, etc). But, this holds true for both women AND men. Take a survey of this country's CEOs and you'll see more than your fair share of tall, attractive men.
Wild, could be right, I didn't have a willing partner when I started CDing, maybe that something to do with it, but then, I was only 6 years old, I didn't know what a willing partner was, unless it was the little girl that let play with her doll house with her, and I didn't even have to be the dad, she lost him, so I got to play with the sister doll, I love it!
But back to the original question, before we got derailed in to Chauvinism, while most of my close friends are female, I'm not sexually attracted to them.
And I have no interest in a man, no matter what I am wearing. I mean a girl wants what she wants, and that's fine with me, go for it, just not my thing.
And now back to the chauvinism, if mad about thinks women's charms get them so far, why do they make $.70 on the dollar, and if men don't get there on presentation, how is it, that it's been proven, a tall, good looking man, will get a higher pay offer, and will advance faster, than his short bald co-worker, and lets not even start on that poor fat guy they sit in the corner.
Now if some one will hold my hand, while I slide off this soap box in these heels, I'll get back to my reading some of this stuff in disbelief.