How many people here can honestly say they are happy blending their male/female selves?
For me, not so sure. To a point maybe it would be better if there were some in between gender.
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How many people here can honestly say they are happy blending their male/female selves?
For me, not so sure. To a point maybe it would be better if there were some in between gender.
I know what you mean. There are things that I would like to keep as permanent (hair, nails, shoes, etc.) but society just isn't ready for us yet.
Some times I am, but mostly I'm not
Almost as happy as being a girl.
There are advantages from both sides.
You see I like snogging girls. :)
They are the best thing since sliced bread.
Yes I am! Admittedly having the chance to go into girl mode every once in a while contributes to happiness, but but it's only one aspect of me, not the whole.
Yes, pretty much. Of course, I'd love more time as a girl but that's life!
And as Bev says, there are advantages from both sides!
Great question. Honestly, I'm very happy being a guy. Because, well, my girl side is the secondary personality. But, my other world as a guy does things to make the female experience better. Like staying healthy and keeping everything fixed, including finances. And when I'm Carla, I feel well taken care of by Charles.
I have to function in my business in drab, but to be honest I'd rather do it as a girl....NOT going to happen in this lifetime! So Erica, let's just say I do what I have to do but much prefer the feminine side of me.
Let's just say I'm happy being myself along with all the associated aspects of that self. For myself it's more than JUST male or female.:battingeyelashes::)
Hi Erica, I think that I have the best of both worlds and I don't want to lose anything.
Yes I am. Just about everything I do as a guy I enjoy,but some of the things I do Im dressed enfemme! I guess thats part of being a CROSSDRESSER and part of being me!
This is really one of the key differences between just crossdressing and being transgender. I'm not happy being a guy at all, I'm not happy with guy dress, expectations, interactions, etc...
But, I'm a transwoman :) So that makes sense :)
Yes, without a doubt. I like having a broad gender spectrum to traverse.
Hi Erica,
I have to say I enjoy being me whether I am in boy mode or girl mode. Both sides of me contribute directly to my whole and while I may choose to spend more time en femme or en male, I like both halves equally. Not wanting to sound to movie corny but "they complete me". As I continue my journey of self discovery, I am slowly realizing that once integrated and accepted both halves would be lonely without each other.
Hugs
Isha
I love my guy side and my girl side. Wish I could be girly more often but that's the way it goes.
I am most comfortable being in the middle. Sometimes I feel more masculine, other times more feminine, but mostly in the middle.
I used to be happy but of late I seem to be leaning more away from the male.
No attempt at side stepping your question, but I'm happy either way. I've talked about on here before, as I love being a guy, when I like and I love being a girl when I like. The bottom line for me is... I love being a cder, because I have the best of both worlds. That makes me happy, because many people are just one way.
Ditto exactly what Kandy said I love my manhood but feel a lot better being dressed. Just hard to work cattle in heels. LolQuote:
Originally Posted by Kandy Barr
I am very happy being a guy. I enjoy my time as Stephanie. I think I was raised to express sentiments that are more associated with the female side of humanity. Or, maybe those expressions came naturally. It really does not matter. I do love having the opportunity to be en femme. Stephanie has offered me the ability to escape from the world of men.
Over the years I've had discussions with many women who wish they had been born a man because of all the opportunities that were not available to women. And, the mindless drudgery of wiping butts of kids, staying home, etc.
For many it seems it is a case of the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. With all the opportunities offered to both sexes for the roles in life, it should come down to how you feel on any given day as to what you pull out of the closet to wear.
Not too much no o3o
I'm more or less just used to it now. I get to express myself through crossdressing and feminize myself so that I just look effeminate as a male o3o I think transitioning would be nice but at the same time I don't think I would be able to deal with all of the things that I would have to go through if I chose to. My girlfriend makes me happy being who I am and I can have extended amounts of time being fine with it so quite honestly I'm still confused about it. I'm happier crossdressed, and I identify as a girl. The one thing that makes it better for me is that even if I do or don't transition I know who I am and I will always know and so will the people around me who are close to me. So in a way i'm treated as a girl, not by everyone but by those who matter c:
I'm happy with being a guy. I like my guy hobbies and friends and I have a wonderful family. I love being "Dad."
I just get frustrated being forced to be one way most of the time. If I could choose at will, I bet I wouldn't present as female as often as I think I would. I do REALLY like women's fashion though....
I hate every minute of having to be a guy. Every time I walk past the mirror and see a guy looking back I think...if only I had the money needed to fully transition to a girl , I'd do it in a heartbeat and would never look back.
If I could just wear girly shoes, skirts&things with a little makeup and still be a guy . Oh I can . lol
To be really simple...no I am not happy being a guy. That being said I think that there are a lot of things about males that are really easy compared to being female, wash and go instead of the morning ritual to get ready is probably the biggest plus to me, but to me it's really not worth the emotional turmoil I hav been experiencing.
Erica, I love being a guy. When I dress, I am still a guy. I don't have an alter ego or anything, just a need to occasionally present as a woman (as odd as that looks to write). I never consider myself female, ever.
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Are you happy being a guy?
I most definitely enjoy who I am and wouldn't want it any other way. I only wish I was as outgoing in guy mode as I am in girl mode.
Yes, I'm happy being a guy. I don't really see any other choice but to be happy. I've often thought of what it would be like to be a woman, what my life would have been like, ect., but yes, I'm happy.
Part of me has been frustrated being a guy. The lifetime of no SO, the isolation, the agony of being sensitive like a girl, but being in a six foot six male body, of being rejected, having unrealistic expectations on my male self. But, also the isloation when dressed up as a lady. I am a loner.
Absolutley, otherwise I couldn't explore my feminine side. I like being able to go back and forth.
I am very happy as a guy. But when I dress I go all out and try to create the most female persona I can down to the smallest detail. Do I wish I could do it more often ? Yes ! Do I wish I could do the lexi thing when every I wanted ? Yes !
But I would always want to keep Lexi separate and secret. And I don't think I would ever want to make the change full time
Not me! I truly want to be a woman!
I'm very happy and comfortable being a guy. I wish I could indulge my femme side more often, but other responsibilities must take priority ...
Guy stuff like tools, motorcycles, welding, airplanes, boats, fixing cars, cussing, scratching, fondling my SO and more, tearing things apart, putting them back to gether, knowing how to wire up anything, building anything, being able to go anywhere anytime, grease and grit, the smell of gasoline and oil. Danged sure I like being a guy!
AND regularly I get to be like a woman without any cramps, media pressure to be everything that they think I should be, not subject to mood swings and rampant emotions, enjoying my femininity with all it's faults. I sure like being a part time woman.
Being a heterosxual male crossdresser is the best of all worlds to me. I am grateful to be just like I am.
For me, too, its a bit of a mixed bag. There are a few things that are OK about being a guy. However, I have frequently thought about, and used to wish for, about how life would have been had I been born a girl. All through high school I often "daydreamed" about going to my prom and homecoming as a girl and not as a guy. I remember wishing I was the one wearing my dates' dresses. I wanted to be a cheerleader, too, as stupid as that sounds. They had such cute outfits. I know life as a guy is much, much simpler notwithstanding any inner turmoil one be feeling about being that guy. I guess I wouldn't say I'm happy about being a guy. I don't think there's a choice in having to accept I'm a guy. Unfortunately, right now in my life, I'm not all that happy about a lot of things.
I would have to say yes I am. But that may change as I move further and further into the world of crossdressing. Up until now my only experience is dressing in panties and lingerie in sexual situations. But my excitement has grown leaps and bounds after finding and joining this site 3 days ago. I can't wait to get started. The idea of transforming myself is unbelievably exciting. I just need to hold back a bit and not go crazy and just take baby steps. Of course I want it all and I want it now LOL
I love the guy thing it makes it so much more fun to do the girl thing
With out question I am. I have always been perceived as very manly and have always been in careers that are seen as such. And I still participate in activities that are such. I'm comfortable in that role, yet equally comfortable when my other side is set free. Maybe it is because of my advanced age (71), but no matter who I am at any given moment I'm happy and comfortable.
Very happy being a man. I just like wearing women's clothes. I love the feel of the material against my skin and the look of my legs in heels. I like doing men's things and think I am a mans man.
Like the guy thing, luv the relaxing , soothing girly thing. A balance between the 2 would be nice... ;) hugs
I am no longer happy being a guy. While there are many things I like about being a guy, I like the feminine things oh so much more.
I am very happy with being a guy. I think most guys take for granted things like walking to the car in the airport parking ramp and not being fearful. My SO says my appearance as a guy is rather intimidating. There are situations where that is rather convenient! It would be nice to be able to "pass" in women's clothing and be able to toggle back and forth, however I have to play the hand I was dealt. I am not 5'8" and 120lbs, I am 6'+ and 200lbs+.
To me being a part time Crossdresser is as good as it gets. I love to wear womens clothing, I am still unsure of all the reasons why. Perhaps it is a break from the pressures and responsibilities that come with being a "man". Maybe there are other deep seated reasons I have yet to discover.
Today, I am me and I am enjoying all aspects of being me! Change what I can, and accept the things I can not.
Seana
Could you repeat the question? I guess for me is I'm happy when I'm in girl mode but I don't know if I'd be happy being a girl full time. Yes its a blast dressing up and I do feel alive when I become Valerie.
I love being a male. I love my wife. The way I see it is that every now and again I like to dress and be "Susie". Is anyone out there like me?
Susie
Some times I wonder.....when I was a kid in school it seemed like all the other boys were playing sports, boy stuff, and I remember not having interest in it, and feeling out of place. I remember playing hop scotch and jump rope with the girls and enjoying it, until the other boys started picking on me. On the other hand I like cars and motorcycles and woman, (well, one specific gal)! Since I was young I have had an interest in woman's clothing, mostly the frilly things, also stockings and heels. I still can remember admiring my mom's high heels when I was very young, maybe 6-7 years old.
I guess because I have little choice I live with what I am, and do enjoy most things in my life, probably nothing to do with being male or female, but sometimes I do wonder, but not enough to go the full distance like some girls here.
I loved BillieAnneJean's answer! I love all that "guy" stuff. I have a set of jeans that I only wear to get dirty when my guy self heads out to be carpenter, farmer, mechanic, etc! Wife's earring down the sink and my guy self rides in to the rescue with all the appropriate wrenches!
That said, I am clearly transgendered. Tina just adores being feminine. Dressing, shopping, makeup, skincare, figure, heels; and all with voice, deportment, and thought! What she can't yet do is giggle :(
The two of them taken together become ME. I need and want them both. They both have to compromise slightly, but some of that compromise is to their advantage! The guy me has some serious strength, which comes in handy when walking in very high heels (good abs really do help!). The beard hair is grey, which makes covering with makeup so much easier. Tina has changed the guy me in a man with younger-looking skin, has helped him lose weight, has him in better athletic shape, trimmed eyebrows instead of the unsightly bush that was across his face, better finger nails and toenails, no ear hair (yuck!), and a much better fashion sense (very few white shirts!).
Having both my genders is just super!!!
Mostly happy. But I don't relate to guys very well, especially groups of guys, especially groups of drunk guys. :)
I don't care about sports. I'm not macho, I don't drink much and I don't take stupid bets or make sexist jokes. So I quite often feel like a fish out of water amongst a group of guys.
It's ok with me, I just love being dressed enfemme 24/7.
I don't mind being male but I feel that there is a lot of pressure put on males to be a provider and to keep the family safe. like keeping the cars running. Fixing things in the house Ect.(at least in my household) that is why I think dressing sometimes gives me peace. I am able to just relax and I feel some of the pressure lift off me.
yep ... wouldn't have it any other way... only at times I like to be woman