Question for you ladies. Would someone you know well recognize you while en femme? Assuming of course that they were unaware of your CDing. If not an absolute yes or no, then what percentage? Just curious.
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Question for you ladies. Would someone you know well recognize you while en femme? Assuming of course that they were unaware of your CDing. If not an absolute yes or no, then what percentage? Just curious.
Hell-o Iris,
If you take a look in the pic gallery section, in the stickies
at the top of the page there is a boy/girl mode thread.
Judge for yourself how hard it might be to recognize one of us.
Much Love,
Kristyn
Hello Kristyn, Thanks for the tip. i will check out that thread. Kisses to you too!
-Iris
I think 50% for me.
I am tall and have big thighs.
Plus my voice, wish I could change it.
If I stayed in the back and did not stand 10-20%.
Prene
<1% chance of being recognized. I dressed up as a Pirate to a party once wearing a wig and people couldn't figure out it was me.
Aside from that I have been cursed and blessed with a nice butt worthy of being stared at.
Though being a tall "girl" with no breast would likely give me away as a crossdresser though there probably isn't too much correlation between body growth to chest growth
This is a pretty common question, and IMO it has more to do with context than what you actually look like.
If it's a crowded street, I bet I could pass friends in boymode and they wouldn't even notice me. If it was a small pub that I frequented and they could clearly see my face, I doubt they would not notice.
As for girlmode, I feel like it has a little more anonymity as it removes that context. They aren't even thinking of you when they see a girl, or a "man wearing a dress". However if it was a location that you frequent, or you with with mutual friends, or worst case with someone associate with you such as an SO, then the chances of being recognised increase.
My daughter and son in law were 4 feet away looked my way and walked right on past me.
I'm 99.9% sure nobody would know me
I don't think anyone would recognize me. At least my fiancee states I'm not recognizable.
So I obviously cannot say whether YOU will be recognised or not because I do not know you, or your friends/family...
BUT I can give you some first hand anecdotes that may help you...
One memorable Saturday I was in the mall with my spouse. The place was PUMPING... In the course of one afternoon I walked past THREE work colleagues. I actually brushed shoulders with one of them, we were that close in the pharmacy. Not one of them recognised me.
One night when on business in Cape Town I sat down at a table in a restaurant. I ordered a drink and started sipping it... I looked up and sitting at the next table was a work colleague. Someone I was going to spend the whole of the next day with... He was facing me and must have seen me... He did not recognise me...
My spouse was catching up on Facebook on her iPad... My 4 year old daughter walked in and asked her 'who is that lady?' It was me... no recognition...
Finally we (my spouse and I) were at the mall last Monday morning. It was VERY quiet... Hardly a soul there. We were walking from one shop to another when we bumped into a former work colleague. One who we have entertained out our house and who we have socialised with a bit... I just carried on walking. She didnt even notice me I don't think, let alone recognise me...
So your chances of being recognised are low imho
My adult children see my Amy pictures, mixed in with family pictures all the time. They have never said who is that or is that you Dad ? I doubt if your neighbor saw you at the Mall dressed they would know it was you. Now here is a footnote to that statement.
Note: If they see you in your car they know, I am sure it will raise a question, as to who was driving your car. If you have your dog with you would be another give away. Be careful in these areas, because it does not take much for people to figure it out.
If anyone I know were to see me more than a passing glance, I'm guessing at about 99% certainty that I'd be recognized because I don't wear a wig.
they will read me as a man in a dress but not recognize me, I've had many experiences encountering people who know me in one mode and don't recognize me in the other. Lotta fun actually.
Depends on you, depends on them, depends on the environment, depends on the extent to which you dress (wigs seem to make you almost unrecognizable, maybe because people don't expect men's hairstyle and color to change,) depends on other physical cues you may have and to some extent depends on what you mean by the question. It's more probable that they'd recognize they're looking at a crossdresser than that they'd recognize the crossdresser is specifically you. I've heard lots of stories of people not being recognized while out crossdressed.
There's really only one way to find out. ;)
I think I would be pretty recognizable although maybe it's just me. When I look at myself in girl mode I don't get that OMG! moment, I still largely see myself. Maybe I'll post to the boy/girl thread and see what others think.
The only person who I ever showed a picture of Diane to, apart from on this forum, was a work colleague. She believed me when I told her it was my wife.
Unlikely. My femme self looks 15 to 20 years younger, and has a less ruddy complexion and no bags under her eyes. And a full head of hair plus female curves plus a confident female attitude and voice goes a long way to making the connection difficult to make.
A lesbian GG friend of my femme side that's known Ceera for over a year, and who had never seen me as a male but knows I am Trans, recently commented that she doubted she would recognize me if we passed on the street and I was in male mode. I showed her a pic of me in a business suit and presenting male, and her reaction was "Oh, hell no! I would have walked right by you! Please don't be offended, but my mind would have read you as 'straight white male' and I would have not recognized you at all."
A GG neighbor who had only seen me in male mode didn't realize it was me in female mode when I answered the door en-femme and invited her inside to talk about a fence replacement project, until we had chatted for several minutes in my home, and then she saw my daughter walk into the room and realized she wasn't talking to her male neighbor's daughter, as she had assumed. She knew that the male owner of the home was a widowed guy who lived with his daughter, so if the other person was that daughter, then the older 'lady' had to be... OH! (She was quite accepting, once she knew and we chatted about it.)
My sister found my female side FB page and put it together, but likely only because of the amount of information on that page. She knew the name as one I had used for a female gaming character, and the birth date and city I lived in matched. But I suspect that if she had seen me on the street and wasn't expecting her brother to be there, she would not have recognized me.
For most of us I think 90% unlikely. I went in and purchased a new wig, went and changed and came back dressed about an hour later and they did not recognize me until I spoke. Can't change the voice.
Mind you I 6' tall and almost 300lbs.
Sara
possibly..
Years ago I went to KMart store in the middle of the work as Jessica . I saw my next door neighbor(wife ) in the card section . She glanced at me for a second and continue on with her business . I walked pass her and she did not even give me a second look . She walked pass me when I tried a pair of pumps , again , no reaction from her . I don't think your friends or neighbors would recognize you unless they see you in a familiar setting , your own car , house , with your SO .
It would depend on how well I did my hair and makeup. I have walked right up to a co-worker once when dressed on Halloween. He didn't recognize me until I spoke, and even then I could tell he was unsure until I told him who I was.
Whether or not someone you know would recognize while en femme depends a great deal on your presentation. I have been seen many times by people who know my male self and have even spoken to a few and have never been recognized.
While en femme I was would say yes people would recognize me. However, I have had professional makeovers by good quality makeup artists and I did not recognize me.
Agree... quality of makeup will be the biggest factor in getting recognized or not.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mickitv
If I were talking and didn't see them first they might have a clue.
Otherwise I think anyone would be hard pressed to recognize me under my makeup and wig.
If I were out with my wife they would recognize her and that would clue them in, but we generally don't stay that close while shopping and have little signals should we spot someone we know.
When I came out to my sister in law, I gave her a picture like my avatar and told her it was someone she knew! She was totally stumped! I then told her it was me!
Recently my son came to visit, I was out to him verbally but he had never seen Lana Mae! I showed him most of my pics( various shots from the transformation!) and he said he would walk right past me on the street if I looked like that! I think the make up and the wig will make or break you! IMHO Hugs Lana Mae
My wife doesn't think so 😉 She checks me over and may make a suggestion or two. I follow her advice always. Sometimes, I like to dress a little more...makeup, heels, hose, etc., which we both feel would attract. We live in a small town where everyone's business is known. Discovery would not be good. We are careful when we go out, usually out of town to a shopping center to shop, dine and see a movie. I've seen a few people I knew...from a distance..so far, so good.
It's highly doubtful unless they would hear my voice. I look nothing like Rich en femme. :battingeyelashes::)
I'm a quite large hulking presence. I'd be unmistakable for anything other than a man in a dress, and my body type & size is past the 99th percentile. People recognize me from behind from a distance at flea markets, bank lines, from a block away, etc.. So, yeah, I'd be spotted pretty quick. While being huge is a definite advantage in some situations, when trying for anonymity is not one of those times. When I was at a flea market with someone, and she wanted to go look at something a bit far away, I told her to just call my cell phone when she was done, in order to find me. Her response, 'Oh, that's not necessary. I just look for one of the heads poking out from the top of the crowd'. This had never occurred to me before, as to me, I have to look through a whole crowd when trying to find an average sized person. But when looking for someone significantly taller, it's pretty easy to spot us.
I think more women would recognize me then men. No-one would think I Crossdress , so that would throw them as well.
Recognition would not depend upon looks, but giveaways would be voice, and body gestures.
jodi
Not so far in over 1000 outings. Of course I don't speak to anyone I know that would be a give away.
I don't think that I look that different, but we are our toughest critics. Twice when I dressed for Halloween once at a party and another time I went to another office at work. Both times it took people a couple of minutes to figure out who I was ( both times it was when I opened my mouth). Another time was when I came out to my accountant, she had no idea who was waiting for her ( she was expecting me not Nikki). All these situations were early on in my dressing. My accountant now says I am doing a much better presentation, which is encouraging.
Basically, when you add a wig, a little body shaping, boobs and make up, the cues are female and that is what most people will see. However your car may out you, or if you're with your SO then people may look for you if they see her.
The one time I ran into a work colleague while out and about, she recognized me instantly. (And wasn't freaked at all. We had a nice conversation.) I wasn't wearing wigs then but still trying to fake it with my receding male hair. I think it would be more difficult to recognize me nowadays, but I wouldn't bet the farm on it.
- Diane
It so dynamic that I would get that double take look.
Iris,
To me the answer is no.
I came out to some very old friends they thought my pictures were a lady I was having an affair with until I spelt it out to them .
Many people don't expect it so they find it hard to believe, OK it is very flattering when people don't know .
I've always believed nobody would know me unless they interacted with me close up. I don't 100 percent pass but I do look
just different enough that they might think I look like someone but I think maybe 30 percent chance they would know
I do not go out very often, maybe 3 to 6 times a year. i surely hope no one i know recognizes me, as if my brother and sister, and relatives on my late dad's side of the family, and locals found out, my life would be far more difficult, and i would have to move away.
Now I'm not so sure about my earlier statement about being really recognizable. I sort of had the reverse situation happen to me. I was in drab tonight at my favorite consignment boutique when in walked the makeup artist who has done makeovers for me three times, most recently was two days in a row about a week and a half ago. She has never seen me in drab before. She has seen me without makeup but otherwise fully dressed. She walked right past me within two feet and didn't recognize me at all, so maybe I'll do better than I originally thought I would when it eventually happens.
i doubt it. This has happened to me, and they never gave me a second glance.
So, recently I went to group therapy and a strange woman, very attractive, sat down next to me. In the discussion, it was revealed that I am a man. She told me that she thought I had. Better makeup than her and never realized I was a man.
Fast forward to the next week, different meeting and I'm in man mode. She walks up to me and says she met me the previous week at a meeting. I didn't recognize her, but she recognized me even though I was in man mode! Doh! That really upset me inside, but when I thought about it, my hair was almost the same, I'm 6ft 1in and broad shouldered.
I think if I had worn a wig I would have been less recognizable, but it has made me feel more vulnerable when out and about.
Yes I am quite sure those who know me as male would recognise me dressed as a woman.
I was at a club dancing enfemme. A woman I have known for 35 years was dancing just next to me. My SO was dancing about four feet away from me and facing the other direction. They have also known each other for 35 years. We are rather close friends. During a lull in the music my SO and our friend had a conversation that evolved in to laughter. I thought maybe I had been outed so I talked to that friend. She was SHOCKED that she had been dancing next to a 6'2" (in heels) CDer, wearing a color coordinated outfit and hat totally unlike any other woman in the place who were all wearing baggy this n that. AND that it was a CDer and ME! Yes I outed myself.
The thing is you do a good enough job drawing the focus to what you WANT them to see, and they will see just that. As long as you keep it short. Obviously if you had a conversation or ate a meal with them you couldn't keep up the ruse.
Iris. I am 6'6" 250 lbs. I stick out like a sore thumb in and out of femme. Now I have D cup breasts due to gynecomastia. A sore thumb is invisible next to me.
Oh and all of my heels are 4-7". As a joke my wife posted a sign on our ceiling fans "Caution low bridge".
I remember that I was at a gay club (CD weekend) and ran into two of my daughter's teachers, one that I knew well. I stopped and said hello and he had no idea I was until I threw in some clues. So I guess I do look different
The most likely way to get recognised is via your car, dog or partner. If you are alone and on foot most people would recognise someone they know by their hair, clothes, voice or walk and if you have change all four you are likely to be OK. I have been in the presence of people who know me and not rumbled. I think the most likely way to be rumbled is to go to a small function, with fewer than 20 people. First they will notice you are a man and then wonder if they know you and the slightest cue can remind them of someone they know and then they will look for more evidence. I try to avoid such gatherings because of this. On the other hand I have gone out to restaurants knowing a friend or colleague could be at the next table which carries a similar risk. But I now prefer going out and about as Susan far from home - the preference is in the build up rather than the reality - I find that once I am completely dressed I am also completely relaxed in public - it is the thought of going out and getting past the neighbours in bulky outerwear and make-up that I hate, as well as the final transformation in a laybye. Once my wig and lipstick are on and my baggy trousers are off I am flying.
This is a question with no possible answer. Walking down the street, if someone I know walked or drove by, I am confident that they wouldn't recognize me. Sitting in a restaurant eating a meal with them across the aisle for several minutes, there is a possibility that they would eventually recognize me. So, the direct answer is; "It depends."
When I was younger I'd say 60/40 odds they wouldn't, maybe even 70/30. Nowadays I'd say 50/50 at best, maybe worse. As others have said, a lot depends on context, circumstances, etc. My outings are always in a nearby city and the chance encounters with acquaintances from home have been in clubs, with only a couple in stores. Some have recognized me, some haven't. One interesting thing I've experienced, people who had only ever seen me as Sherri clocked me immediately the very few times they've seen me in male mode, whereas I think people would have had to study me a moment in a vice versa situation. My SOP rule is if it matters, err on the side of caution. I've had to leave a club or store when I spotted someone I absolutely didn't want to clock me, but that's been rare. Usually if it's a gay person in a gay club I figure our secret is pretty safe.
Assuming I make every effort to blend:
If they are at my house, I would hope so.
Seeing me at a store or restaurant, maybe.
Walking past me at a major sporting event, probably not.
I've been told by friends that know I dress up that they would never recognize me all dolled up.
One main thing is that I wear glasses 99% of the time as a guy, 1% eye comtacts.
Those percentages are reversed when in girl-mode.
:)