Next month, I will be going out for the first time. Both excited and nervous.
Curious as to what activities you undertook your first time?
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Next month, I will be going out for the first time. Both excited and nervous.
Curious as to what activities you undertook your first time?
Unfortunately, I am only able to go out once a year. Every November we go to Maui for our condo association meetings. We spend 2 nights in Waikiki so I can be Dawn.
First time it was a food court in the Royal Hawaiian shopping Plaza. That was a mistake very crowed and bright felt like all eyes where on me. Then walked the shopping area that was less nerve racking. Now we do the same thing just go to restaurants and go window shopping.
Tri-Ess meeting at age eighteen.
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This was Not Halloween at fifteen.
This was not dressed up as a PowderPuff cheerleader in high school.
This was fully wearing everything that I went out to buy as my own.
This was letting others know that I was like them.
A man that completely dressed up as a woman in public.
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Very first time was a drive in daylight through town then out in the country and home! No wig or make up that time! With wig and make up, was downtown Asheville, N.C., to a wig shop as part of a transformation! Night time was not until Keystone 2018! Night time can be dangerous! Use care on picking where you will be! Best wishes Hugs Lana Mae
Hmm.. such a long time ago but the first time I ventured out was on a business trip in Little Rock. Just got in my car and drove around, stopped for gas, went through a drive through for dinner. Did that a few times and then gradually started getting more bold. I would probably stick to crossdress friendly venues until you are more comfortable. Gay bars are typically always safe, find a drag show even better or see if you can find a support group or social group in your area. I haven't fully dressed for a while but last time I had the chance I went out to the mall, got my makeup done at Sephora, strolled around, went to some drag shows. All very exhilarating.
I don't count semi-cloistered events like Tri-Ess chapter meetings. Don't get me wrong. I am an active member and happily support my sisters there, and to be fair, it wasn't that long ago that one committed a crime by being even that "out in public".
My first truly public outing was a busy Lad Vegas casino in maybe 1996. I don't recommend it for first timers.
My first time out was to go and see a drag show at a gay bar the place was packed I remember saying to myself I am not going in there well I did go in and had a great time
1st time out dressed was at a Halloween party.
Never been out at night (yet) - first trip was to Target, then the grocery store.
My first time in public was a Halloween party as a French maid but as Kelly said my first non Halloween even though it was close as in late Oct I went out an about in Las Vegas. Ate dinner at a restaurant and then to see a show. It was great but yes very nervous
First night out - not counting attending a support group - it would have been going to Diva's in San Fran in my skinny jeans and platform stilettos this year. I was nervous as hell as I walked from my parked car to Diva's. I wish I had more business trips to San Fran so I could go out dressed.
My first actually night out. I wore a long sleeve turtle neck shirt with a light purple mid calf length skirt and a black wig and hat. I drove through a McDonalds drive thru to get a drink. Then took a drive toward Nashville but stoppef several miled up the hiway to a rest stop. Where I got out, walked to a concession bldg to get a candy bar. Had no problems even though there were cars parked there also. It was at night but the area was fairly well lit with walkways. I was a bit nervous getting out of the car, but at the same time, exciting to get out and walk around dressed as a woman. I am planning on my next outing to go into a small store somewhere, dressed and get a candy bar or something. Still testing waters here. Mid tn. Is still very conservative area and we have many people who frown on any one who dosent own a pick up and or pack heat.
First time out was 1977 Hollywood ca never looked back after that
Susie
My first time out was lunch with the person who did my makeover. Small restaurant was supposed to be not too busy but it ended up being almost full. Handled it ok though.
If it is the first night out, I went for a walk around a college campus near my home.
Divas in San Francisco. I drove. I circled the block for twenty minutes until a spot opened up that was very, very close. I had one drink, and a couple of diet cokes, then went back to my hotel.
First time out .. at night .. I walked around the block in the middle of the night. It was very exciting and seemed like a perfectly good idea!!
First time away from the home area I got in the car and drove to the nearby town. Parked and walked down the main shopping street looking at windows .. at 2 in the morning! Again, very exciting and it seemed like a great plan! (right!!).
Those times, and many to follow, were fueled by a high dose of Adrenalin combined with a healthy dose of fear of being seen, but nothing actually happened.
First time out .. at night .. where I felt good and was among other people, was in London. We were at a weekend getaway with 2 other GG/CD couples and I went with one of the other CD girls to pick up dinner for all of us. It was all surprisingly uneventful and I felt really good about the whole thing. I dont think anyone paid us any particular attention and frankly, I dont think I cared much either. It just felt perfectly normal .. but it was still somehow very exciting.
First time out was with the GG who did my makeover and another TGal.. the 3 of us were dropped off just by Oxford Street In Darlinghurst Sydney on a warm night, the street was packed full of people, talk about a baptism of fire... a quiet bar to start, then a noisier bar, dinner at a Thai restaurant sitting outside with the people flowing past. Then off to a packed massive gay bar where we chatted to a few nice people. We finished off with a night-cap at a quiet bar.. for those of you thinking 4 bars how did you manage to stand up after? well i wanted to enjoy the experience to the fullest so my drink of choice was Diet Coke I just had a glass of red with my meal..
I had outing no 26 last week :)
I suppose my first real outing was with five other girls off to a dance after they had prepped and preened me and I had a new low cut dress on that threw anybody off the track that I might not have been a girl. :-)
I'm not sure it was actually my FIRST night out, but this is certainly on of my most memorable "first's".
A local CD support group I went to would go out to a local 'friendly' bar once a month. I'd never been there before, but gathered up my nerve, got all prettied up, and went...
Only to find out that the group decided to not go that night. I was the ONLY non-muggle in the place. I stayed around long enough to be sure that I wasn't just early, and to finish the drink I'd ordered. Then I retreated back to my car and drove back home.
Nothing happened - no snickers, glares, or angry comments. the guy at the door who was checking ID's on the way in, didn't have any problem with my male ID. The bartender didn't react when I ordered. All-in-all, it was a non-event in almost all regards. It was just that I wasn't confident enough in myself yet to be in such a setting, and solo.
And all this was 25+ years ago when the social climate was a lot less accepting than it is these days.
I've never been out dressed at night. Daylight hours only.
My first day out was during a pride weekend. I left home in drab and drove to a local university. There, I went to the drama department and changed in the bathroom. Once I was changed, I rushed back to my car and went to a park where a public event was taking place. I hung out for threes hours or so and got quite sunburnt. From there, I went to my favorite art store dressed for the very first time. I was quite nervous. From there, I went to work, where I arrived dressed, but as I was early, no one really saw me arrive. I changed into my work clothes and hummed a happy tune for the rest of the day.
I want terribly adventurous my first night out. I got out and gassed up mht car then I went into a grocery store and picked up something from the cosmetics aisle (I used the self check to pay) then I went to a department store near closing time and browsed the womens clothes.
I'm ashamed to say my only outings ( besides wearing panties full time) has been only on my own back porch where I have many plants I water, feed and take care of sometimes fully dressed. The only neighbor is over a 1/4 mile away and they are gone almost all the time so I feel safe there and just have the wind blow my skirt around a bit is relaxing to me.... I know this is not the out your asking about but it is my only out and about dressed.
First time was neighborhood halloween party (in a wedding dress). Second time (1 year later as Caitlyn Jenner) was stepdaughters halloween party.
Both times mobbed with people that knew me. Feedback was fairly positive and the negatives identified the jackasses in the room.
Still amazed how many men groped me. The first party "dude, do you realize you're feeling up a sock?" and the second party "dude, you do realize there's a **** up that leg you're grabbing?" Gave me an appreciation for everything that women go through their entire life.
The very first time I must have been about 10 when my parents were out of town and my 19 year old brother was staying with me. I knew he'd be gone until late at night, so when it got dark I put on a dress my (much older) sister had left behind an walked around the block. No makeup. I had long hair and I didn't have time to do anything with it so I just brushed it out an hid most of my face. Walked a few blocks out and back and that was it.
As far as serious full-on dressing as a woman, kind of depends on where you draw the line. I certainly nudged the line very often from the time I could drive at 16. I went out with elaborate hairstyles or with my hair in curlers, jean shorts cut off to the back pockets, shaved legs all the time, nail polish, makeup (rarely), peasant tops... everything but dresses, skirts, and boobs. I don't think I put everything together and made a full blown effort to pass completely as a woman in public until I was 20, married, and living in a new town. My wife was completely on board and encouraging back then.
The first time I remember absolutely throwing caution to the wind, we had been married for 2 months and I had to go to Atlanta for work for a week. With my wife's help, we packed 2 wardrobes. Male for work, and an entire female wardrobe for after work. I had my own panties, but everything else was hers. Everything from a jumpsuit to skirts and dresses, heels (we wore the same size shoes), makeup, curlers. We made falsies out of cut off pantyhose full of bird seed. It was a wonderful week of total anonymity, and getting to do this with my new wife's complete knowledge and support was so wonderful!
The first night I wore a dress and heels and walked from my hotel to a nearby steakhouse and right back to the hotel afterward. I ventured out to downtown and to random shopping centers the following nights. I stayed through Sunday, so I had all day Saturday, too. It was such a phenomenal experience to absolutely not hold back and completely immerse myself into being a girl, even for a short time. It was also wonderful to do this with the full knowledge, help, and support of my new wife, and to tell her about it when I got home and gush about how exciting and wonderful it was without having to downplay my excitement.
First time outside the security of my home or a support group meeting was to a diner for dessert after the meeting.
It was wonderful to say the least. The staff were incredibly nice to us and we were treated like queens ... the royal kind, not the drag kind.
My first outings were driving a car around my immediate neighborhood. I progressed to taking walks in the evening in a residential neighborhood at the other end of town. I had no interaction with humanoids. I still take strolls and drives when the opportunity arises. The only times I have interacted with humanoids has been on Halloween. The first time I was totally gussied up with full makeup and nail polish. Blond wig. Jade green and black floral print long sleeve dress, black heels and hosiery, and, all the proper undergarments. I bought some donuts at a Winchell's Donut store. The sole person there, the cashier, complimented my appearance. Yeah! My second Halloween outing I wore a knee length black dress and everything else as previously annotated. I bought some Coke in a Safeway. No comment at all from the young female cashier. Maybe she did not realize it was Halloween or she never encountered a man in a dress. There was a young guy buying beer who laughed his ass off.
I reflect back upon those outings and wonder why my wife never confronted me? She must have realized I was gone from the bed. These were not short trips, time wise. It took time to apply the makeup, and, now I know nail polish stinks. I did remove the polish before I came back home. It had to be the ostrich effect...bury her head in the sand it will all go away. NOT!
I have lost the desire to mingle with others. It's outside my comfort zone. It's now a private affair.
My first time out was almost 3 years ago at a Halloween concert/rave in Atlanta with my wife. About 4,000 people and I was dressed as Alice in wonderland, we had so much fun. It was a really good setting for my first time, no bad interactions at all and I met a lot of people.
Lynn,
First genuine night out was to meet up with forty or so CDers and their parners at a buffet and dance to celebrate their 4th anniversary . I drove the the thirty miles dressed in a full length ballgown . I knew it was right because I didn't feel nervous but it was till jumping in the deep end !!
My first time out was filled with trepidation. I dressed to blend in, with the exception of hose (my favorite), which are very rarely seen around here, anyway, my intention was to just drive around the neighborhood, but my courage grew, so I went to a park then to an out of town mall. I sat in the car for some time and finally went in. At first, I walked fast, rigid, head down, but finally slowed down, swung my arms more, took smaller steps. No problems. It probably wasn’t until my 4th or 5th time out that I felt more confident. I never wear what I really want to wear...too much unwanted attention.
First was a couple of evening drives, well after dark, just cruising through my neighborhood to get my courage up and make sure I could drive in high heels. Did not get out of the car, and only drove a few blocks before returning home. Was happy to note that of the few people out at that late hour, no one really ‘looked’ at the driver of the car passing by them. They saw me, but clearly were not trying to see me as an individual. But the first time intending to be seen and interact with others was a night out at a local LGBTQ nightclub, to watch a drag show, and stay for dancing and drinks. I scoped the place out the day before, in drab, to make sure where it was and determine if there was a safe parking situation, but did not get out of the car. Also determined I could drive virtually the whole way on side streets, avoiding traffic and crowds along the way, but still on safe and well lit streets. Then the next night I dolled up, had a small glass of wine to calm down, and at about 10 pm I went to the club. Everyone was accepting and welcoming. There were at least six other CD’s, not counting the obvious drag performers. Made several new friends, and danced a lot, with both men and women. Didn’t go home until 1 AM or later. I had a blast!
My first time out was in broad daylight to drop off some male clothing at GoodWill. (Making room for more femme stuff.)
My first night out? I don't really remember, because I had been going out for a long time in daylight. I think it was either to go to a fancy restaurant or to go to a Las Vegas show. I don't remember.
My first time out, was taking my dog for a late night walk. I was fully dressed, and I was scared to death!
My first what I'd describe as a proper night out was to a CD social group.
Nervous as hell I can remember parking a short distance from the venue, a small hotel, walking there in heels which as I entered the hotel sounded so loud on the marble floor.
Once I'd introduced myself to the group I was made to feel very welcome and any nerves soon disappeared.
My first real time out was with the help of another CD. We met at a CD club and both got ready for the evening. I was far from passable but all dolled up with just having my make up done and dressed up in a skirt, blouse, heels and all.felt great being out as we got a cab and went to a restaurant for dinner. I remember being very nervous and really didn’t eat much but everyone was friendly and it was a great first time out
My initial adventures were just driving around residential areas of my small city in the early evening. It was the fall so the hour was not late. I was fully en femme to include wig and makeup, dress and heels. After several trips of just driving I finally parked the car and strolled through the neighborhood. I still take those strolls when the opportunity arises. I create reasons to out and about. I'll return books to the libraries night drop off slot. Or mail a letter. Or retrieve a free newspaper from one of those ever present boxes all over town. To make it appear I have a reason for a stroll I sometimes carry a cloth shopping bag as if I am returning from the neighborhood Safeway. I found the time for the least possible interaction with fellow humans is during a gentle rain. Fewer people out. Using an umbrella does offer a little privacy at obscuring my face and somewhat my six foot frame.
My only times out with an intent to be among the masses has been at Halloween. On those trips I went into Safeway to buy some Coke or into a doughnut shop.
First time I went out, I went for my second makeup lesson at a beauty salon. Everything looked so convincing I had to take it for a test spin. If I was ever going to do it, now was the time. It won't get any better than this. On the way home I stopped at one of the busier malls (on a Saturday afternoon) and spent about half an hour mingling with the masses. Went really well. Hardly an odd look. Scared shitless though. It does gets easier with each outing.
My first time I just went outside for walk around the block late at night, I was fully dressed and wearing heels, it was pretty exciting! Eventually I got the courage to go to a cd friendly bar, had some drinks and met guys and other cds there, fun times!
Though I initially drove en femme, my first true outdoors event in full girl mode was meeting a forum sister for coffee outside a Starbucks. What a thrill, and I soon became fully at ease with her, though people continually walked by us. Nary a negative reaction by any one. I had to pee, and did use the lady's room, a first for me!
My 'sister,' who became my mentor, said to follow her. We ended up at a supermarket. She said, "own it" and we went inside. I got a cart, put my purse in it, and we walked around the store, and were seen by many including some fraternity guys doing charity work outside. Again, nary a negative. I'll end here with this thought ... It's so much easier being out with a sister. Contact one in your area.
I went to a gay bar where there was a few CDs.
The very next afternoon went to the mall and had a blast.
Actually fooled a SA while looking at skirts.
Really, the best fun I ever had was in the women's section of
a department store, just walking around and looking at all the
wonderful bras and slips.
Most fun I ever had in my life.
My first official night out is happening right now. I'm in pub, about to take part in a pub trivia game. One of my friends just asked me what name I'd like to be called. I'm having a great time.
Patience, Good for you! Can’t wait to hear how the evening went. Crissy
Have fun. Let us know how it went.Quote:
Originally Posted by Patience
I did a lot of drives, but the first time I went out and was around people as a girl was when I went as a girl to a drive in movie with a friend so we could be in a contest. Everyone assured me that no one would know I wasn't a girl. They were right. From then on I went out often. More than I did as a guy.
You can read the full account of my day here. Thanks for your interest.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lynn Sealy
I went out to a mall I was so bad at my dressing it didn't go great. Then I would just go to friendly places gay bars . I have gotten a little better in my blending prestation I can go to a mall now and for the most part get away with it.
I went the Holiday Inn and walked around, age 15. Shortly thereafter, age 17, I started to go to show bars
I was five years old and me and my girl cousins went outside to play. they had me fully dressed. this happened often...as a teenager going to high school parties, later as an adult dress parties, but the local PHX cd bar is where i go. its a dive bar but safe chill and fun.
My first time out as Ellie was just a few weeks ago in Denver. I had told myself for weeks that if I did nothing else, I would go out as Ellie. I got dressed in my hotel room. It took me nearly half an hour to step out the door. This was around 6 o'clock in the evening, the sun was still shining so I put on a pair of sunglasses where I could look at people looking at me without making eye contact. I was pleasantly surprised that I didn't get a second look from anyone! I parked a couple of blocks from a hopping area downtown. Once again I was able to walk around without any laughing or remarks. As nighttime came I went to hamburger Mary's. There was a drag show and the place was packed. Two GGs at the bar offered me a seat next to them. They were wonderful.
I can't wait for the next opportunity to go out as Ellie.
Very reassuring and inspiring. So glad you had a wonderful time.Quote:
Originally Posted by EllieOPKS