Twenty Questions

Twenty questions

Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


1) When did you start dressing?

2) At what age did you pick your name?

3) why did you pick that name ?

4) Are you married, single ect?

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?

6) When did you tell them?

7) How did that work out ( the telling)

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop?

12)Have you purged?

13) If so did you regret it?

14) Any advice to new cders?

15) Do you do your own makeup?

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?

1) When did you start dressing? Not sure around 7 or 8 I guess.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 23

3) why did you pick that name ? My first GF name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? When we were still dating.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) no issue she is supportive just doesn?t want to see me fully dressed pictures are ok though.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have accepted it at a much younger. Age.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Not really.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? NA

11) Favorite place to shop? Pennys, Macy?s, Kohl?s.

12)Have you purged? Over the years yes a few times.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes especially older pics

14) Any advice to new cders? Embrace it

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) better at make up, go out and interact with others.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes some friends but wouldn?t end well.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? NA

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Recently had my first make over wonderful experience. Will do it a lot more.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? How important it is to me and how it makes me feel.

1) When did you start dressing?
Age 10
2) At what age did you pick your name?
Age 54
3) why did you pick that name ?
Always thought it was a pretty name (it's not Roberta)
4) Are you married, single ect?
Married
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes
6) When did you tell them?
20 years ago
7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Fully accepting
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have come out sooner.
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Modern trends
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
N/A
11) Favorite place to shop?
Torrid
12)Have you purged?
Yes
13) If so did you regret it?
Yes
14) Any advice to new cders?
Come out right now!
15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To blend
17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My Mom, I will be once we can travel again
18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
25th Aniversary
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
They all seem to understand and accept it.

1) In college
2) 40s (long story unto itself)
3) see 2
4) Married
5) Yes
6) a few years ago
7) Swimmingly
8) I would have taken dance lessons
9) haute couture of course. Ok more like punk couture.
10) I seem to be the representative Drag Queen of the forums
11) Fashion district L.A. Amazing fabric to make my own, or Santee Alley when I want something fabulous but premade.
12) Yes but not in the way you mean
13) No
14) oh my gosh, so much... first and foremost I’d say learn to do your own makeup
15) yes
16) just constant improvement
17) I’m not exactly hiding from anyone! Lol
18) not really
19) every time is a good time
20) N/A

1) When did you start dressing?
Hmm, age 8? I can't remember not desiring to be more feminine.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
When I signed up here, I was 40 something at that time.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I was scared about anonymity when I joined here.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Currently single.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
All, 2 wives, and every girl friend was told early in relationship about my CD. Almost universal acceptance although the unspoken communication gave me varying levels of comfort.

6) When did you tell them?
Early in relationship when I felt we both were committed to staying together.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Only on GF had negative reaction, we broke up a month later.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I do feel I never was honest to myself about where I see this going, therefore, I could not be totally honest with my SO.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I like to fit in, that means casual style most of the time.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
This site has given me confidence to be myself and get on with life.

11) Favorite place to shop?
JCPenny.com, they have good prices and large selection of woman's tall. I fear they will go bankrupt soon.

12)Have you purged?
Yes, during my last divorce, really was no need to. But in retrospect, much of my stuff was old and not my style, so it does not bother me.

13) If so did you regret it?
No, I learned to adopt a style and find places to shop, wardrobe is better than ever.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Read this forum, understand that the regrets of older CDers will be yours as well some day. The good news is, you can avoid those regrets today.
Also, get out of any relationship that is non-accepting if you can.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes, I know it is a personal item and I am reluctant to borrow.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
A more feminine look either if I am in drab of en-femme.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My family does not know, we are geographically spread, but I think my sisters would be fine with my gender expression.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only on GF was disgusted. I was quite surprised since she espoused a ultra-liberal social view on all things LGBQT. You

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
A vacation with a GF where we strolled a big city dressed, tourist sites, dinner and conversation with locals. Then out of the blue, she pulled me into a MAC store to get me a better foundation. So much fun.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I wish everyone could separate gender and sexuality. I am more sexually conservative than most people I know, but revealing CD often evokes thoughts of sexual deviance in folks.

1) When did you start dressing?
I was probably around 10 years old

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I was 45 when I joined the forum. I had played with a few names, but settled on
Raychel an extension of my guy name just like Raychel is an extension of me.

3) why did you pick that name ?
Needed a name for the forum

4) Are you married, single ect?
Separated for 3 years

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
about 13 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
She did not handle it very well at the time.
But she did accept it fine afterwards

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Oh Yes, I would have told alot more people when I was young

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Fancier dress, Mother of the Bride,
Business, Formal

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
60 years old, Had a struggle my whole life.
Was not very well accepted in school,
Had a very hard marriage for 23 years.
Now living by myself and feel incredibly lonely most of the time
Sure hoping to meet someone that can accept me for who I am and
enjoy walking thru the rest of life as happy as possible

11) Favorite place to shop?
My Favorite place over the years has been Dress Barn or JC Penneys. With Dress Barn gone now
I will have to check out some other places

12)Have you purged?
Yes, several times when I was younger, Never again

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes so much. Lots of wasted money

14) Any advice to new cders?
Accept yourself and enjoy life

15) Do you do your own makeup?
No makeup at all here, Just a guy in a dress

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To make everyday happy and better then yesterday

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I have told everyone that needs to know
I was afraid of telling my father.
But my wife put me on the spot about 6 months ago, I came out and told him
He was fine

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only my wife for a short while.
No one else cared at all, They know me for the person I am

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Went to Spring Fling in Massachusetts one time

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I just wish they understood that being dressed is really how I feel most comfortable

Started dressing in 8th grade.
Made my name in 8th grade, though at the time I only used it for video game characters.
The name was based on the name of a girl I liked.
I am married.
My wife knows.
I told my wife a little over 2 years ago.
My wife has accepted it.
Probably wouldn't change anything as I am in a good enough place now.
For myself, I love skirts (and pair them with anything) and some dresses. Though some styles I like on women I don't like to wear personally, took a bit of trying to figure this out.
I would like you to know we are always here for you.
I love to shop at thrift stores, tons of variety and great prices. Torrid is my favorite first hand retailer.
I purged a couple times in my teens and 20s.
I regret the purges a little bit.
Accept this side of you. Though most that are on these forums are most likely already there.
I have tried makeup and I don't like it so I don't ever wear makeup.
I strive to be able to dress as I wish always. Mostly there.
I have no one left to tell.
No bad reactions coming out.
Going out with my family and always being treated as normal.
I think my loved ones understand it pretty well. Initially my mom thought it was more like wearing kilts when it was more than that as she now knows.

1) When did you start dressing? Around 4-5 years of age

2) At what age did you pick your name? NA

3) why did you pick that name ? Didn?t have to. Kimberly is my given name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married twice, divorced twice. Total married time was 35 years

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Both did

6) When did you tell them? First time it just revealed itself in sex play. Second, before we were engaged.

7) How did that work out ( the telling). Initially, well, but I grew toward full time and that didnt work

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? More attention to my ex wife?s real feelings.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Everyday, business casual

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not really. Nothing special

11) Favorite place to shop? Used to be cold water creek

12)Have you purged? Several times

13) If so did you regret it? Deeply

14) Any advice to new cders? Practice, practice, practice

15) Do you do your own makeup? Of course.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? I try to look as feminine as possible

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not really.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? A night out with a group of lesbian and bi women. Nothing erotic. I was just so welcomed and included.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That it doesn?t change me...I have always been the same person.

Di,
Nice idea :-

1) It chose me at the age of 8-9.
2) I chose my name because I needed one for the forum , so glad I did as it's made things a whole lot easier.
3) Purely by accident as the forum accepted it , now I use Terri instead of Terry .
4) Married for 45 years now half way through the divorce .
5) Everyone knows now .
6) I came out twenty years ago in my forties.
7) OK for about two weeks then the DADT wall went up .
8) Tough question , looking back the damage was obvioulsy done when I came out so maybe we should have agreed to separate then .
9) I guess I try to be the girl next door , being full time to me means integrating into society , I also feel we need to consider age , to a certain extent .
10) I've probably worn my heart on my sleeve for too long , there isn't much left to tell .
11) I just love to shop face to face in retail stores , online does nothing for me , I'd miss the fun with the SAs .
12) Never purged , when the need is 24/7 there isn't much point .
13) N/A
14) Is there really a new Cder ? It's about accepting yourself which for many goes right back to being born ,for a man it's the hardest part admitting it .
15) I now do my makeup everyday , I don't mind as it's part of my identity now .
16) I assume it's goals and not a bucket list but my goal would be acceptance from my son as he's now one of the few who's never seen me along with my mother . Bucket list would be a cruise as Teresa .
17) No one left to tell , which feels good .
18) Coming out back in my forties lead to almost ending my life . Now I'm free to be Teresa over the last two years not a single bad reaction .
19) The best time must be rejoing my painting group as Teresa last September , that's when I really found normality .
20) Because I prefer not to appear male anymore , I wish they could understand I'm still a good person in fact I feel I'm a better person which they could be missing out on .

Thanks Di .

1) When did you start dressing?
10 or 11
2) At what age did you pick your name?
Never did (except for this forum in 2017 but that's utilitarian).
3) why did you pick that name ?
Forum name was I think a reference to Diana Rigg.
4) Are you married, single ect?
Married
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes
6) When did you tell them?
In 2019, after 36 years together (met in high school)
7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Very hard for my wife, she can't understand it (but tries very hard) and is turned off by the news. We are struggling, but there's love.
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Would have told earlier
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Straight/tight office or evening attire
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
The way I dress has no bearing over my view of women and femininity. I dress my way and women dress theirs, everyone is free and I couldn't care less!
11) Favorite place to shop?
Online. I don't go out so no brick and mortar for me!
12)Have you purged?
Never had much to purge, so, no.
13) If so did you regret it?
Not applicable
14) Any advice to new cders?
Don't be ashamed, it's just you. Tell your SO.
15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Nothing special, try to be myself, which includes infrequent venturing in female presentation.
17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My close relatives so my wife could vent. No need to bother friends with it.
18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only came out to my wife.
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Every time is special. First time standing up with heels was a shock (something to do with utter transgression or the fact I could not pass doors anymore).
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
My crossdressing doesn't change my love for my wife. When I don't I am (and enjoy being) 100% her man. And she's the only real thing as far as femininity goes!

1) When did you start dressing? 12

2) At what age did you pick your name? 36

3) Why did you pick that name? Not sure. It just felt right. (although Lee is my real middle name)

4) Are you married, single, etc.? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 2003-2004 (After I came to terms it wasn't just only a Halloween thing any longer; reflected on my youth & realized it wasn't going away)

7) How did that work out (the telling) At first she was okay with it 1-2 times / week. Then... out of nowhere, it wasn't. It was a "perverted" & "disgusting" thing I was doing. Enter DADT, although she does see when/if I dress on Halloween. (which she I know she hates)

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Buy stock in Amazon :D. See #17. Following through on the challenge a girlfriend laid out about coming out to my best friend/neighbor Halloween 2012... and seeing if she was right. :daydreaming:

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? A lot... but I'm a sucker for a retro style dress with a full skirt. :)

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? I identify as gender-fluid and pansexual

11) Favorite place to shop? Online, Express, Macy's or Penny's. If I were younger.. A&F, Hollister, Pac Sun

12) Have you purged? Unfortunately... pics, clothing and shoes

13) If so, do you regret it? Yep, Yep, Yep

14) Any advice to new CDrs? Don't purge, don't use cheap make-up, and just buy the good breast forms.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for (goals) Learning to contour and blend, develop a softer voice so that I can pass & hang out with friends outside my house.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? :whistling:Y Maybe.....

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not yet.

19)The best time (so far) you have had dressed? Having a girls night with my sister. Spending the evening talking, drinking wine, and modeling clothes & sharing clothes.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? This is part of my make-up/being. I can't change. Any attempt to do so only puts my mental health at risk.

1- age 15
2- n/a
3-love the name
4-married
5-yes sure
6-when I dressed in her presence
7-worked just fine, she approved
8-no
9-no. not really. I like skirts
10- Thinking I should be born different gender.
11- web and malls.
12- no
13- n/a
14- be yourself, you'll be happier.
15- yes
16- enjoy being me, dressing when I please
17- nobody elses business.
18- n/a
19- relaxing dressed daily.
20- wish everyone would accept us like we are.

1) When did you start dressing?
Earliest 11-12, seriously, 49-50

2) At what age did you pick your name?
49 although I mulled it over for about 20 years

3) why did you pick that name ?
Needed a name for a makeover. Meghan just popped out. First letter in boy name

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married 30 years

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
Hmm, a few times over the years, but not as completely as 50

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Challenging. She is NOT a fan.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Probably. The most important thing is to fully disclose before marriage.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
More than one, but classy and well dressed. Professional, pencil skirt etc. Clean lines

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
Love is important?

11) Favorite place to shop?
Lowe's hardware? No... Jungle Jim's international grocery

12)Have you purged?
Yes. But not in a while.

13) If so did you regret it?
Maybe a little. I did what I thought was right.

14) Any advice to new cders?
See number 8. And relax.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Of course! Unless it's a very special occasion.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To appear as much like an attractive lady as possible. To spread love and acceptance.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I've told most people that I would want to. There might be a few others, but it really depends on the reason for sharing.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Mostly my wife. I've not had another bad reactions that I can remember.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Vegas Transformation. Look it up. Million years.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I feel very complete and happy as Meghan. And Meghan still loves my wife.

I'm just doing this because I'm bored and happened to check the forum.

1) When did you start dressing?
I guess I was ten, unfortunately.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
N/A

3) why did you pick that name ?
I only use "Pixie" as a nickname on the forum, I like anonymity to an extent.

4) Are you married, single etc?
Single, and I have no plans to change that.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
None at the moment, but I would prefer to get rid of it if I were to be in a relationship like that.

6) When did you tell them?
N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Maybe not even trying to shop.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I have no idea anymore.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
My social enviroment tends to be not the best one for most of people's sanity.

11) Favorite place to shop?
None, I can't shop anymore.

12)Have you purged?
Many times, to be honest, and I'm considering it for the last of my "stash".

13) If so did you regret it?
I did, but I can't do anything about it.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Try to keep a low profile.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
I don't wear makeup, nor plan to do it.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Getting a job once I graduate.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Not at the moment.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
There were and that's why I looked for a "cure" for years.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
I'd say when I got some high heels, but that was an awful year.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I don't know anymore, I simply don't want any trouble.

1) When did you start dressing? Around 7 or 8 I think. It was a long time ago and really sporadic.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 45

3) why did you pick that name ? I’ve always loved Eastern European names

4) Are you married, single ect? Married. 2nd wife one kid

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? The day we reconnected. I knew her in high school, lost track, reconnected.

7) How did that work out ( the telling). First she thought I was gay. So far it’s worked out ok after that I guess.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have been more honest with myself at a younger age. But hindsight is 20/20.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Yes. I would classify it as modern chic

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I’m an introverted extrovert. I love people. I believe we as a species are capable of amazing things when we allow ourselves to.

11) Favorite place to shop? Nordstrom

12)Have you purged? Yes. Several times

13) If so did you regret it? Not a bit. My style has changed over time and I would have gotten rid of those items anyway. Some, not all where bought in haste, some where bought when I first started out and where gawdawful. What I regret is the wasted money.

14) Any advice to new cders? Live YOUR best life not someone else’s

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes. Not much. Once you figure out what you want to present it’s pretty simple to have a trimmed down supply.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be the best version of me I can be.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No. Not really. All the important people know already. Running around telling be now would seem pointless and self serving.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only to the pocket book

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Every time I go shopping with my wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Not that I can think of. Nobody has ever really asked me anything really out there or not been accepting that I know of.

1) When did you start dressing? The very first time that I fully dressed, was actually quite a few years ago, back in 2005, I think..... I was married at the time and really only did it that once because my now ex-wife did not like that at all.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 36

3) why did you pick that name ? In my honest opinion, Kimberly is a very beautiful name, (all female names are LOL), plus it also has a lot to do with my crush on the actress, Amy Jo Johnson, who portrayed the first Pink Power Ranger, and her character's name was Kimberly.

4) Are you married, single ect? Single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? N/A

6) When did you tell them? N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I only wish I could've started dressing a lot sooner.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Not particularly..... I like to experiment with different styles.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? N/A

11) Favorite place to shop? Walmart

12)Have you purged? Yes..... A couple of years ago, I was fully dressing but only at home and I did not get out dressed at all. Due to religious reasons, I purged EVERY bit of my feminine things, (wigs, clothes, shoes, makeup, etc.) except for my hosiery. I felt miserable after I did that and around Halloween last year, I decided to go back to dressing because it feels like it's who I'm supposed to be.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Be true to yourself.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Coming out as a CD'er to a few friends; I haven't done that yet.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Yes, a close friend who lives in California.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I went to see a movie before the pandemic, because that was the longest that I've stayed at one place at a time while dressed and a lot of people saw me.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A

This could be enlightening. Thank you for the opportunity to share and to learn more of others here, Di!


1) When did you start dressing?
The first time I remember was trying on my mother's panties. I'm not certain of the age, but I'd guess around 5 or 6.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
That came much later. I'd guess around age 40.

3) why did you pick that name ?
I wanted a female name for an online presence. Having such a female name has not been terribly important to me otherwise. I don't have much of a female persona - I simply feel compelled to express some femininity in my dress.

4) Are you married, single etc.?
I've been married since I was a teenager 40-odd years ago.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes.

6) When did you tell them?
I told her while we were dating in high school.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)?
At the time she said it "didn't matter," but some months after we married she decided that it did. She would no longer accept or tolerate my dressing. She has said that my wearing women's clothing was/is just "not right." We are currently in a type of don't ask, don't tell. Our relationship has undoubtedly suffered as a result. Admittedly, I have made some bad choices in seeking such acceptance outside of my marriage.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would not have married so young and would have asked her to work together with me to honor the "didn't matter" sentiment or to end the relationship. My own guilt and limited self-acceptance kept (and perhaps still keeps) me from doing this.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I am interested in 3 styles: clothing on the feminine side of androgynous that I can wear every day (almost all of the jeans, shoes, and underwear that I wear daily are women's), everyday dresses or skirt outfits for (exceptionally rare) trips out in public, and bedroom lingerie of silky / satiny fabrics. I have breast forms and a wig that I seldom wear.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
Several things: Like many here, my desire or need to crossdress has progressed over the years from primarily fetish as a teenager to something more - although the fetish aspect remains even as I enter into my 60s. I don't feel I was born in the wrong body and certainly don't hate my male anatomy, but it is obvious that I am not solidly of the male gender. I sometimes wonder if I would have been happier had I been born female, but perhaps I would have been equally comfortable (or uncomfortable) with my gender had I been. I'm somewhere in between on the gender spectrum. I identify as "straight." That is, I am attracted to women regardless of how I'm dressed, and am much less comfortable around men than women when dressed. Despite all of this, I consider my gender (such as it is) an important part of me and would not change it if I could.

11) Favorite place to shop?
I love shopping in person - especially in the company (and with the support of) of a f.a.b. friend, but by far the majority of my wardrobe has been bought online. Nordstrom Rack, Macys, and Dillards have great bargains on quality clothing during clearance events. I never pay full price for anything.

12)Have you purged?
I purged several times during my younger years - before I was married and around the time that my wife decided she could not tolerate my dressing.

13) If so did you regret it?
Absolutely!

14) Any advice to new cders?
Love yourself first, and find a partner and friends that value you and your happiness regardless of what gender you wish to present. Do not accept tolerance - it is important to find those who embrace every aspect of you. They exist! I have a few in my life without whom I would be lost.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
I don't do my makeup or nails enough to do them well. They are skills that I would like to improve.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I want to be accepted - and embraced - for who I am in all significant interpersonal relationships.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I've hinted to my grown daughters, and I suspect that they know... something. I would like to get that out in the open.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
The only significant bad reaction was the delayed rejection by my wife.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
My best times dressed were going out with accepting / encouraging friends - a female-at-birth friend and a couple. One was a shopping trip and the other was a Halloween party.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I wish my wife knew how important this aspect of my personality is to me, and how much her rejection hurts me and our relationship.

These are very insightful questions. I have learned something of myself by answering them!

1) When did you start dressing? - 12

2) At what age did you pick your name? - Do not remember.

3) why did you pick that name ? - I just loved the name.

4) Are you married, single ect? - Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? = Yes

6) When did you tell them? - 22 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) - Good after a few questions and tears.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? - Would have come out to my wife before I did.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? - Casual look

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? - I love my family.

11) Favorite place to shop? - Primark

12)Have you purged? - Nope, I am too tight to throw out things :daydreaming:

13) If so did you regret it? - N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? - Be who you are

15) Do you do your own makeup? - Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? - To be happy

17) Anyone you would like to tell? - Nope

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No to the two people that know.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? - Girly weekends away with the wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? - If they knew just to accept I am the same person before you knew I dressed.

1) When did you start dressing? 12 or 13

2) At what age did you pick your name? 22

3) why did you pick that name ? Name of my first girlfriend in 6th grade...also t's a pretty name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

6) When did you tell them? about a year after we were married

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Started out ok, but she believes it's an addiction that needs to be overcome

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? not really

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? no

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm kind

11) Favorite place to shop? on-line

12)Have you purged? yes

13) If so did you regret it? yes

14) Any advice to new cders? be yourself and be honest in your relationships

15) Do you do your own makeup? no

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? accepting me without lapsing

17) Anyone you would like to tell? no

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? yes..girlfriend used cross dressing to exploit me

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? 1988

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I love my wife and I value her more than crossdressing

1) When did you start dressing? - Started with Pantyhose back in Elementary School

2) At what age did you pick your name? Last year, it was just known as my "Alter Ego" previously.

3) why did you pick that name ? Closish to my name - yet far enough away to protect.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yep and fully supports

6) When did you tell them? Shortly into our relationship.

7) How did that work out (the telling) - Acceptance, started with my fondness of Pantyhose.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? - Gone out more fully dressed sooner!

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Dresses, followed by skirts.

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Online, Lane Bryant, Just My Size, Amazon, Long Tall Sally.

12) Have you purged? - NOPE

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself, be careful and take your time.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes - but Wife will help and has taught me along the way.

16) What things do you strive for (goals)?

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Some friends but not sure I want to risk that.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No

19) The best time (so far) you have had dressed? Several - both with and without Wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? N/A

1) When did you start dressing? 12? 13?

2) At what age did you pick your name? Hmm. In the last decade? Wavered between Kathy and Julia all my life.

3) why did you pick that name ? It's pretty.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? No.

6) When did you tell them? N/A

7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have told my wife about my CDing 28 years ago when we met.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Very feminine and classy.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I don't want to be closeted but have fear of rejection/humiliation. I'm a genuinely kind and curious person. I play in an online game where I can be Julia and have found a lot of acceptance there.

11) Favorite place to shop? Online.

12)Have you purged? Oh, yes. But not in the past 10 years or so.

13) If so did you regret it? Every. Single. Time.

14) Any advice to new cders? Own it with your spouse/SO/partner.

15) Do you do your own makeup? If you can call it that, yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be happy. Calm. Dressed. Sexy. To once go out with a friend, safely, dressed.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? My wife. My transgendered daughter. My son. Wife most of all.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? All of them. Spending hours in a hotel or AirBnB dressed and happy and content just hanging out. The ones with a pro makeup session most of all.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I'm not weird. That it's okay. To please not mock me. That I need acceptance, not just tolerance.

1) When did you start dressing? first recollection 3 rd grade 1st experience probably 16

2) At what age did you pick your name? I would say late 20's early 30s

3) why did you pick that name ? After a line in a Lou Reed tune"Sallee's got eyes on her knees". I have know idea why or what it means

4) Are you married, single ect? yes

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? yes

6) When did you tell them? probably 37 yrs ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Okay she took an interest whe went out together to support group and other outings

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? NO I don't think so

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual trying to look real but classy

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I don't get out as much as some may think once a month I use the term in the "In the closet but the door is open and light is on"

11) Favorite place to shop? Any mall or large department store

12)Have you purged? yes many years ago

13) If so did you regret it? Its to long ago to look back on

14) Any advice to new cders? There is tons of information out there. No one really cares so go out have fun, enjoy

15) Do you do your own makeup? yes but I enjoy makeovers they are lots of fun

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To accept myself more

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No just to be more open about it

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not really

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I was mistaken for a GG at a support meeting. The speaker thought I was some ones SO

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I wish she was more accepting

Here is my input.

1) When did you start dressing? 8 or 9. My mother used me as a dressing dummy for some of the costumes for Dance Recitals. I liked it then and have done it since.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 15 or so I guess. I was dressing when I could. Not full, just what i could get away with.

3) why did you pick that name ? It is the feminine version of my name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Divorced, and she passed away about 15 years ago.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? No.

6) When did you tell them? N/A.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) N/A.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Yeah, I would have done better with my weight and toned up better.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Skirt/Blouses. Girdles with Suspenders. No pantyhose. Skinny jeans or Faux Leather pants. At least 3 inch heels. I have some 4/5 inch, but only for certain occasions.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? single for so long it does not matter any longer.

11) Favorite place to shop? Amazon. Never been dressed and shopped out. May try that after the new house is built.

12)Have you purged? Oh yeah! too many times to count.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes. Not purging anymore. I am comfortable with myself and where I am in life.

14) Any advice to new cders? Take a chance. Don't be afraid of what others think. Tell your significant other you like to do it. if they don't want to understand then they are not the right person for you.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes, horrible at it.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Makeup perfection.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, I came out dressed at Halloween and was accepted by the peer group I am most respected in.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not at all. Lucky I guess.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I did a Pinup Photo shoot that was supposed to be part of a calendar. Photo shoot was blast. No Calendar.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? No. My son does not care, thinks it is funny. All the rest of the family in my home state, are very cool with it.

In closing, I think the only people that would not be cool/understanding with my dressing is my work colleagues. It is a male dominated environment. even with the huge number of people in the company, there were two people that I know of that transitioned and it was a big joke in some circles. I have no plans to transition. I love my male parts. I just wish I had bigger breasts!

1) When did you start dressing?
I have known from a very young age, probably 4 or 5 that there was something "different" about me, and I was experimenting with my mother's, aunt's and cousin's clothes starting at about 6. I was in my mid- to late-teens when I started dressing fully, and started to play with make-up.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
About 14 or 15, when I started to dress fully

3) why did you pick that name ?
When I was 10 or so, I asked my mother what my name would have been if I had been born a girl.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Divorced

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
My ex wife knew

6) When did you tell them?
About 18 months after we got married, in 1986. She found my stash of lingerie I started to accumulate after about a year of marriage.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Short term not well, lots of tears and yelling. She insisted I see a psychologist to be "cured." Long story short, after he met with her, he convinced her it was harmless, and I could not be "cured."

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Not get married, so I could have been free to explore my gender more in my twenties and thirties.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Professional, classic

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
N/A

11) Favorite place to shop?
Lane Bryant

12)Have you purged?
Yes, before I got married.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes. I had some lovely clothes.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Don't feel shame, own it.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes, and I get compliments.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Exploring my gender identity. I stopped identifying as a crossdresser about 10 years ago, I now identify as being transgender, and trying to decide whether or not I'll transition.


17) Anyone you would like to tell?
My daughter and my 2 best male friends. I'm not sure my ex knows how far I've come in exploring my gender, so I need to talk to her about it.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
Only my ex-wife when I told her. Everyone else I've come out to has been incredibly supportive. Even my ex came around and was supportive after she had a chance to digest it.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
A week spent in Duluth, MN fully as Elizabeth.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
That I am happier as a woman than I ever have been as a man.

1) When did you start dressing? Around 4 years old

2) At what age did you pick your name? My current name at age 50. I used another name from around age 23 to that time.

3) Why did you pick that name ? My current name is a fictional character in a stage play. I performed that part in several plays and the fictional character?s personality reflected my own quite well.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Before we were married

7) How did that work out (the telling) Worked out very well. We have had our ups and downs over it throughout our 50+ years together, but overall she is very accepting.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would not have told my parents. I did that when my wife and I had our first child. It did not go well with my parents and became a DADT subject. We were not living with my parents, so there was no real need for them to know.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Classic and professional (skirts and tops, dresses, hosiery and pumps)

10) What is something that you would like us to know about you? I accepted my desire to crossdress at an early age and have never regretted it.

11) Favorite place to shop? Department stores, thrift stores, eBay, other online stores

12) Have you purged? Never

13) If so did you regret it? N/A

14) Any advice to new cders? Come to terms with your need to crossdress and own it. You do not need to transition to be able to go out and be accepted in today?s world.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for (goals) ? Help others who are struggling with their crossdressing to find a way to incorporate it into their lives without destroying relationships or jeopardizing careers.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I would like to tell some of my wife?s friends, but my wife does not agree. I honor my wife?s wishes in this.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only with my late parents

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? There have been so many, it?s hard to narrow it down to one. The most memorable was over 20 years ago when I was in a community theatre group and first played the character Phoebe Reece in a comedy play. I was onstage fully dressed performing as a female character in front of friends, family, and co-workers - who mostly did not know I crossdressed off stage.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I would like my wife to understand that I would appreciate it a lot if she would participate more in my outings as Phoebe. I prefer her company over others. She will go out with me, if we are out of town and I have brought my femme things along. But that doesn?t happen very often.

[QUOTE=Di;4441398]Twenty questions

Thought we might get to know each other. No comments on anyone?s answer please just your answers . If there is something you do not want to answer or it does not pertain to you just put N/A


1) When did you start dressing? First time was about 13. Only my older sisters underwear.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 64

3) why did you pick that name ? I always liked that name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? There were hints 20 years ago. She has seen me in my girly undies before. I told her for real about 2 months ago, that I wanted to dress for dinner at home.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She told me that she married a man and does not want to have that picture in her head. And she said she was afraid I would be better looking than her. (Not even close).

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Started sooner?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Dressing? Not really. I like to look passable but it would not be the case. I am too squared in the shoulders.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? My exwife (Not due to this issue) anyway she called me Mr. Fun. She was sarcastic. But I am Mr. Fun.

11) Favorite place to shop? I do not have one. Bicycle shop? Motorcycle dealership? See, I am Mr. Fun.

12)Have you purged? Once.

13) If so did you regret it? Yes, I had a couple of nice nightgowns.

14) Any advice to new cders? Enjoy it and embrace it.

15) Do you do your own makeup? If you call it that.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Better at make up.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? My sisters (all 5)

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not out yet

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I realized I could do my hair too.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? How much of a kick I get out of it.

This is a great idea!

1) When did you start dressing?
15-ish

2) At what age did you pick your name?
42

3) why did you pick that name ?
I wanted something that could be used in either girl, or boy mode. Because that's how I fell.... a mixture of both. S, A, and M are my initials, but jumbled. I added the extra "M" for more of a feminine feel. (Like Jenn). Sammara came later.

4) Are you married, single etc?
Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes 100% supportive

6) When did you tell them?
A few months after we became serious. Before we married.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
She knew I was holding something from her. After a month of back and forth, we went for a long walk. She asked me (again) what I was hiding. All I could manage to say was "I like girl clothes". She paused, then laughed, and said "that's all?" She had the usual questions, but that was it. She wasn't even curious. She told me I was my thing. If I wanted to keep it to myself, I could. If I wanted to share it with her, that was fine, too. I was blown away.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
No
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I love my favorite boot cut jeans, boots, and a form fitting top.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
Besides the obvious? Not sure. But ask me anything.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Savers lol

12)Have you purged?
Twice, years before I met my wife

13) If so did you regret it?
Both times.

14) Any advice to new cders?
Yeah, don't purge.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
The "perfect balance". Easier said, than done.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I think about telling my daughter all the time. There's really no reason to at this point in time. Maybe never.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
N/A

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
It's a tie lol... The first time my wife saw me dressed (no forms, makeup, or wig at that time)
And that first "there you are" moment, fully dressed with forms, makeup, wig. With those favorite boot cut jeans, boots, and fitted top. Lol

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I don't expect anyone to understand this part of me. Sometimes it's hard enough to understand all of this, myself. I'd rather go for acceptance. Understanding can come later, I think.

1. Very young, but 12 was the first time that it was something more than playing dress up.
2. 52 when I joined this forum.
3. It's the initial letter of my given name, so appears on bank cards in that form.
4. Married, twice, lost fist wife to cancer in 2008.
5. & 6. Both first and second wife were full aware before we married.
7. With my first wife, it was always a part of our life together, may have helped that her father was an occasional cd.
With my second wife, she actually sussed me out early in our relationship, and to all intents and purposes told me.
8. Started ballet classes much much earlier in life, rather than at the age of 68 years.
9. Blendable, smart casual, with dressed to the nines when the occasion is right.
10. I also enjoy knitting.
11. Leeds City Centre.
12. Yes
13. Absolutely
14. Just be yourself and enjoy.
15. Yes
16. Just to be happy and to make those around me happy too.
17. Not really, most of the people that are important to me already know.
18. Just the one, and I dont miss them .
19. After that first time at age 12 when I saw the girl that was me, probably my second full makeover and photo shoot.
20. Everything that I wish that I could understand myself. But most of all, just how comfortable Kaye is.

Phew that was a marathon, took 4 attempts because I kept hitting a wrong button!!!!

1) When did you start dressing?
Mmm ? very young.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
In my 60s, specifically for this forum

3) why did you pick that name ?
Wanted a name which reflected the fact that I do not need or want a female name. A gale is a very strong and destructive breeze. Seems appropriate.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married for 32 years. Three subsequent relationships. Currently not involved.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Every person I was involved with knew. My wife was/still is very anti! All the others were accepting. Other issues got in the way.

6) When did you tell them?
How could I tell me wife? I had no idea why I felt the way I did or has the need to do what I did. Ignorance! Once I joined this forum and started to understand, I could explain the situation to the others.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
I?m divorced. To be fair, CDing was not the only issue. But it is the only issue preventing us from getting back together. The other relationships fell apart for reasons not related to CDing.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have remained single all my life.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Stockings and high heels are my thing. The other items, I can take or leave.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
No.

11) Favorite place to shop?
SHQ.

12)Have you purged?
Many times. Self-loathing and ignorance.

13) If so did you regret it?
Yes. Lovely lingerie and heels which I threw away and simply cannot replace.

14) Any advice to new cders?
There is nothing wrong with you. Learn and live. Don?t purge. Tell your SO.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
N/A

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
When Covid-19 is over, I need to find a job and a place of my own.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
No.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
My wife could never understand or accept. My reactions only made things worse. Repenting at leisure now.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Going to a themed event in London quite a few years ago. Underdressed as I had always wanted to.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
I wish that society could simply accept that clothes do not make a man or a woman. I hate the hypocrisy too many people hold about the LGBTQ community

1) When did you start dressing? 4

2) At what age did you pick your name? 41

3) why did you pick that name ? Just seemed right

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 6 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) good then bad then good then so-so and now great

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Laser your beard while it is still dark!

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Vintage 40s 50s - classic and elegant

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I met our prime minister while dressed

11) Favorite place to shop? Consignment & thrift

12)Have you purged? Many years ago

13) If so did you regret it? No, it was rather cheap lingerie

14) Any advice to new cders? Enjoy the ride!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To sew my own clothes

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not at the moment. People who need to know already do

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Initially from my mum but we just do not speak of it

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Front row seats at a Dita von Teese show and met her afterwards, then chatted with cast at a bar after

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? I think we have exhausted all the permutations

1) When did you start dressing? 5, behind the garage with Denise and Lisa and I remember the look, feel and color of the dress

2) At what age did you pick your name? 55

3) why did you pick that name ? As stupid as it sounds, it matches my actual initials

4) Are you married, single ect? Very happily married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Absolutely

6) When did you tell them? December 2, 2014

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Well

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Yes, I would have done it much sooner

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Yes, classy and stylish, always dressed as a lady

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm just trying to help a sister

11) Favorite place to shop? Thrifts

12)Have you purged? Duh!

13) If so did you regret it? Sure

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't believe the myth that the world is not accepting, it is quite accepting

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yep!

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? As much interactions with others as possible (which is currently no longer possible), the more people that see me, the better

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, I'm good

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not yet

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Way too numerous to go into here

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? My wife is good, that's all that matters

1. My teens!
2. about 64
3. A little girl who threw her dress over her head started it all and my mother's middle name!
4.widowed
5.N/A
6. Before we got married!
7. I repressed it for 34 years and 5 months of marriage!
8. As I have two loving children and if things were changed they would not exist-NO!
9. Casual comfort!
10. I am in the process of changing my name legally!
11. Cato-local and Woman Within-internet
12. When I was a teen and when married!
13. Yes some really nice black panties!
14. As most CD's are married, communication is essential with your SO!
15. Yes, I do maybe not well but I do it!
16. I am TS so to be the woman I really am! To be me!
17. I freely tell anybody as my family already knows!
18. I had none and am out to my family and everyone at work!
19. There are so many! I think one of the greatest times was at a GNO in Houston, Texas!
20. My children are fully accepting and understand and my SIL accepts but is a little shaky at times! She has not met Lana Mae in person yet! She wants us to visit her when this is all over! It will be Lana Mae and not Harry this time! LOL
There you are! I am an open book and will answer any questions!

1) When did you start dressing? I think about 10yrs old

2) At what age did you pick your name? My wife picked it and I believe I was 50

3) why did you pick that name ? When we would be shopping my wife found it better if I thought Maria would like a item. Instead of asking if I wanted it.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married 34yrs

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 1 week back from our honeymoon

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She asked the normal question and then she wanted to give it a chance and see where it was going.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Im still a 80s/90s girl.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Winners/Suzy Sheer

12)Have you purged? Yes a few times.

13) If so did you regret it? Definitely on one purge I threw away a vintage slip

14) Any advice to new cders? Months after I told my wife, she couldn't get over the fact that I enjoyed it so much but yet I would beat myself up with guilt and trying to figure it out. Her best advice to me was not to look to much into it and stop trying to figure it out and enjoy it because I was not hurting anyone but myself.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I go out with my wife dressed and we just spend the day with no plans and just doing things with the flow.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? My family is very opinionated and most believe it's a mental sickness and very wrong. I would love to tell them just so they can see that we are normal people and we were given this we didn't choose this. I'm a handy man and I help a lot of family members with many projects and most of the time I do it for nothing to help people out. It's sad because that would all be forgotten if it ever came out, nobody would remember the nice person I am. That's the sad part.

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1) When did you start dressing? I think about 10yrs old

2) At what age did you pick your name? My wife picked it and I believe I was 50

3) why did you pick that name ? When we would be shopping my wife found it better if I thought Maria would like a item. Instead of asking if I wanted it.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married 34yrs

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? 1 week back from our honeymoon

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She asked the normal question and then she wanted to give it a chance and see where it was going.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Im still a 80s/90s girl.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Winners/Suzy Sheer

12)Have you purged? Yes a few times.

13) If so did you regret it? Definitely on one purge I threw away a vintage slip

14) Any advice to new cders?

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? When I go out with my wife dressed and we just spend the day with no plans and just doing things with the flow.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? My family is very opinionated and most believe it's a mental sickness and very wrong. I would love to tell them just so they can see that we are normal people and we were given this we didn't choose this. I'm a handy man and I help a lot of family members with many projects and most of the time I do it for nothing to help people out. It's sad because that would all be forgotten if it ever came out, nobody would remember the nice person I am. That's the sad part.

Thank you, Di, It's a very well presented survey.

1) When did you start dressing? About 5 but seriously at 10-12

2) At what age did you pick your name? Long ago but changed it recently to my masculine one

3) why did you pick that name ? Needed for the forum

4) Are you married, single ect? single

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? n/a

6) When did you tell them? n/a

7) How did that work out ( the telling) n/a

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I thought that there are rules for transvestites: you have to present as a woman as much as possible. It took me many years to discover that I’m a MIAD and have no desire to look and behave like a woman. I should have done it long ago

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Normal business attire, pencil skirts preferably. Discarded business shirts work well. No women’s shoes for me.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I.m a MIAD and am the same person whether I wear trousers, skirt or nothing. My personality stays the same.

11) Favorite place to shop? n/a

12)Have you purged? Not in the usual meaning.

13) If so did you regret it? no

14) Any advice to new cders? Be yourself and pay no attention to being put down by other CDs who think you should emulate what they think is right.

15) Do you do your own makeup? No makeup for me

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To live openly as a MIAD

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Everybody

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? n/a

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Just about every day

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Too late now, they are all gone.

1) When did you start dressing? 4 or 5 years.

2) At what age did you pick your name? 16

3) why did you pick that name ? The feminine of my birth name.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Absolutely.

6) When did you tell them? While dating prior to moving in together.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)? She did some research and after that was OK with it.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have been more open to who I was earlier in my life.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Cocktail dresses.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm happy I found this forum.

11) Favorite place to shop? Macy's.

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't feel guilt for who you are.

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Dropping two dress sizes.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? None so far.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? The first time I went to a bar. Just felt so liberating.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Yes.

1) When did you start dressing? 7 or 8 years old
2) At what age did you pick your name? 20
3) why did you pick that name ? A Connie that I knew I loved the full name (Constance is so feminine) and the short version is cute.
4) Are you married, single ect? Married (40 plus years)
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes
6) When did you tell them? After we were married (mistake should have been before)
7) How did that work out ( the telling) 40 plus years so ok
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I wish we had the internet 50 years ago.
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?I love a classy look (weather a night out or casual shopping)
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I have 7 grandchildren.
11) Favorite place to shop? Anywhere that has women?s cloths
12)Have you purged? No
13) If so did you regret it? NA
14) Any advice to new cders? If you want to go out in the real world (just do it) Get a makeover at least once in your life.
15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes (always wish I could do better)
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Passing better much harder at my age (64)
17) Anyone you would like to tell? It?s too late the sister I wanted to pass away.
18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Haven?t
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Shopping with my wife we don?t do it a lot but I love it. Wait we went to the play Hamilton by far the best weekend ever.
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? After 40 plus years together, It?s a big part of me and it?s never going to go away.

1) When did you start dressing? Middle school

2) At what age did you pick your name?
Don?t have name
3) why did you pick that name ? NA

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? She knows.

6) When did you tell them? 3 yrs ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) very well

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Should have told her sooner, missed out time

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual dress-blouse, jeans, panties

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Not sure yet

11) Favorite place to shop? LANE BRYANT

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? YES!!!!

14) Any advice to new cders? Don?t purge and when you tell your SO don?t go all in at once. Start w panties probably.

15) Do you do your own makeup? NA

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To be as open w my wife as I can be, if I decide to go further (wigs, makeup)

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, just between wife/I

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No, She fully accepted everything

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? The first time after telling my wife.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your. No

1) When did you start dressing? Early teens

2) At what age did you pick your name? 51

3) why did you pick that name ? Wanted something different...and it is linked to my birthday and ancestry

4) Are you married, single ect? Living together

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? The full extent last year

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Great at first, not good anymore

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Stayed single

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Skirt suits, peignoir nightgown sets, 60's housewife

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I can write a thousand words but speak barely one

11) Favorite place to shop? Online

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Yes, can feel the regret now! : )

14) Any advice to new cders? Enjoy it!

15) Do you do your own makeup? I rarely do full makeup, wish I could

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Enlightenment, be loving and forgiving, and be able to change chords on the guitar!

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? I've only told 3 people...it has been or turned bad every time

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Putting heels on for the first time :lovestruck:

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It's not about you

Oh.....okay.......

1) When did you start dressing? 1st item when I was about 13 or 14. Fully dressed as me the first time at 17. Then not again until I was about 34.

2) At what age did you pick your name? I've gone through many names over the years. The one I am now legally (not my username here btw) I chose when I was probably about 42 or so.

3) why did you pick that name ? Okay, so..... I would go in to stores and try on clothes, when asked my name for them to write it on the dressing room door for me, I would say Nadine. They would never get it right. Never. I didn't know if they didn't understand me or the name or if I just didn't own it. I was preparing to go shopping once and I told my wife, I'm just going to use a super common name, like Kelly. I did. They understood me. And I felt like it was truly me, so I stuck with it.

4) Are you married, single etc? Yes

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? She has known every bit of my trans journey as I have discovered it. We met when we were 8, and began dating at 15.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) - Not always pretty, but we have always continued to talk, to learn, and to grow as a couple. I have fully transitioned, have GCS planned for a few years from now, and we are more happy together now then we have ever been

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Essentially no, as I like who I am now and I would not be this person without experiencing what I have. However, when I was real young, prior to puberty, if somehow I knew I was trans and was going to transition, and I knew that doing so prior to having massive amounts of T dumped into my system that I would never have lost my hair, then I for sure would have transitioned as soon as I could have, ideally taken puberty blockers and then changed my hormones. Then I could still have my natural hair, ooohhh, that would be fabu!

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Classic, timeless, clean lines, black and white, patterns

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? There is not much the online world does not know about me, if you have actually taken the time to read the drivel that spews forth from my fingertips........ how about, do you know that I have 8 cats? Yup, 8!

11) Favorite place to shop? White House Black Market

12)Have you purged? Yup, when I was about 30

13) If so did you regret it? Yes and no. It made me much more aware that this is a part of me that I can't just toss into a trash can and walk away from.

14) Any advice to new cders? You do you boo!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Hahahahahahahaha, well I am full time, so yes. At first my wife showed me how to apply it. Then I began going to get makeovers at Macy's and such. I would watch, listen, ask questions, practice, and I learned.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To be happy in being the authentic me wherever I may roam.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Everyone knows.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? I've lost a few friends along the way, but far less than I would have thought. Like maybe 2 couples that my wife and I no longer hang out with.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Going in to work, in front of my 7th and 8th graders, as the real me.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Nope as we still all discuss various aspects all the time. It is a learning process and we are all learning as we grow.

1) When did you start dressing? I'm not sure. Somewhere around 10.

2) At what age did you pick your name? only a couple of years ago and I'm not really settled on it.

3) why did you pick that name ? For some reason this forum wouldn't let me use the name I liked (chosen because of an advert I remembered) so I picked a name out of the blue.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? over 20 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling) She wanted to make me happy but didn't quite understand why I needed this.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I wis my younger self had understood more about this. i wouldn't have been so ashamed.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I love denim skirts & I like 50's style

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm really tired of being afraid all the time.

11) Favorite place to shop? Ebay. Marks & Spencers

12)Have you purged? Yes but not recently

13) If so did you regret it? I didn't have much then so not really.

14) Any advice to new cders? Be gentle with yourself. Try to be open with your SO if possible. It's OK to be you.

15) Do you do your own makeup? I've never worn makeup, but I'd like to.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? i'm close to retirement. I want to explore more.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I wonder about telling my daughter. I know she is fine about trans people but her dad?

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? only my own anxiety.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? when my wife bought me some shoes.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? There are things I'd lkike to understand about my dressing. it started out being primarily sexual but now it's much more than that. i wish so much I had been born a girl but I there is so much about my life that is good that wouldn't have happened I had been. I am really confused.

1) When did you start dressing? When i was about 41.

2) At what age did you pick your name? I didn't. I use my given name with a unisex spelling.

3) why did you pick that name ? My forum name, Krea, is merely a whimsical choice for anonymity.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Approx one year after i started CDing.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Initial surprise, but generally supportive and has progressed slowly.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual. Denim skirts with black tights. Vest tops.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I now identify as non-binary.

11) Favorite place to shop? Not ashamed to say Primark, coz it's cheap and therefore great for trying new ideas without ruining my small budget.

12)Have you purged? Once. A few items, very early on.

13) If so did you regret it? Not especially. It was a small purge, never repeated.

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't be ashamed of who you are!

15) Do you do your own makeup? I never use makeup.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Try to dress tastefully so my wife will be comfortable with how i look.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? The whole world! (except perhaps my in-laws:straightface:) However, that could be some time away yet.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? No, my wife was kind about it.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Going out (in mixed-mode) to get my ears pierced.:c9:

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That there's nothing wrong with being Transgender.

Hello all!! It's been a long time for me posting. Has been a rough year!
I know, I think it's been rough one for all of us, but more so with me personally, I'm recently separated from my wife and family.
Divorce seems imminent.
My dressing does not seem to be THE reason, but I'm sure it did NOT help my marriage.
But anyway, it just may be that life got in the way but we still LOVE each other and have come to the realization that we have grown apart.
And our awesome children are now old enough to understand that we will always...ALWAYS be much better Mom & Dad, than we have grown to be Husband & Wife.
It's a very sad coming to be, but we know we have both tried to make certain changes and promises many times over and over, but it just doesn't work enough to get where it works for both.
But the good news is we both hope for happiness in each-other's "new" life that will come on the other side of divorce.
No more fighting, daily frustration with each other, and no regrets with our children.
And thankfully, the silver lining is, that we are not looking to hurt each other any more, even though we never meant to, it just always seemed to happen, and we now want to offer each other support, without wanting to "kill" each other for stupid little things. :hugs:







1) When did you start dressing?
Very early on, probably 8-9 yrs old. Wearing my Mom's underthings whenever nobody was home.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
Just recently when developing an on-line profile.

3) why did you pick that name ?
Just liked the name, and it was available :happy:

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married 24+ years. Recently separated.

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes, very early on, I told her I liked feminine underwear. I tried to build off that, but she never really understood. Many years later, I told her I liked more than just underwear. She was "ok" with it, but didnt want to share or enable it. So it became another "secret" thing I did alone.

6) When did you tell them?
Very early in our relationship, and years later, a little more over time.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Harder for me to muster up talking about it, but she was really understanding and not hurtful or judgmental about it.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I would have been more honest to the level of what I liked and what I wanted to have happen with us.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Various from sexy to romantic to semi-elegant.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
That I'm not a bad person, that I know that I do have a very strong imagination, I try to expand my understanding of people's diversity, and that I like to learn about other people's mindset about what they like and what makes them happy.
Also, as I have learned from this site, that I need to better understand that my own dressing desires are probably more fetish-like right now as compared to many that dress for non-sexual related reasons.

11) Favorite place to shop?
Anyplace I can without fear of being caught or embarrassed. IE, thank you Amazon :battingeyelashes:

12)Have you purged?
Yes, several times over the years.

13) If so did you regret it?
Thought is was the "right thing to do" at the time, but later realized that I totally regretted it and was angered by the feeling that I "had to" purge to get it out of my life.
Total regret!!

14) Any advice to new cders?
Be VERY true to yourself, but also, need to be aware of other's concerns and feeling too, especially those that you care about too. Situational awareness is key. You can't beat someone over the head to "prove" something you like. Be open, but be smart.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes. But only wear it on very select times when I know I have a window of opportunity. And I had to build it up over time. Mostly all cheap stuff and I tend to look like a circus clown if I dont have the time to try to do it properly.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
To get a better understand of why I like it, and figure out a balance where it is not so hot/cold or obsessional.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
Yes. I'd like to tell everyone!!! :dance: But my circle of friends (and never my family) would really not understand it. So I am REALLY thankful for being able to "share" online and in relative privacy without much fear of being shamed or judged.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No bad reaction to my online-family, but my actual family, they don't know, and I don't want them to.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Not one particular "event", but love the feeling of being dressed and stepping outside the house, feeling the outside air, or sun, come over you and feel so much more "free".

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
Yes, everything!! I wish that it did not have to be hidden, or, something that must be guarded about. Obviously, I mean that for age-specific family members. Would never want to "share" that with anyone who is not an adult with a better understanding of human dynamics.

1) When did you start dressing? I do not believe just trying on my mother's slip because I liked the fabric constitutes dressing. I first wore all her clothes in my early teens.

2) At what age did you pick your name? When I joined this forum (2010). That would be age 63

3) Why did you pcik that name? According to my mother I was suppose to be a girl since the first born child was a boy. I would have been name Stephanie after my grandmother, Stefi.

4) Are you married, sing, etc? Married

5) Does your wife/girl friend know? Yes, although she has not said anything about it since the 1980's.

6) When did you tell her? If I remember correctly it would have been maybe 1983 or so.

7) How did it work out, the telling? Poorly. "If I had known I would not have married you!" "If I wanted to be married to a woman I would have married a woman."

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? I would have taken her up on her suggestion to find a support group.

9) Do you have a certain type of style you are drawn to? Yes, I only wear dresses. My preference is floral prints. Would never wear anything resembling pants.

10) What is something you would like us to know about you? No, I lived a fairly dull life other than being an infantryman in Nam.

11) Favorite place to shop? Ebay. JCPenny for dresses. Herroom for panties.

12) Have you purged? Never

13) N/A

14) Any advice to new CDers? If you're only a place vanilla crossdresser just tell you wife you do not know why you do what you do. Don't tell a woman you're getting in touch with your feminine side.

15) Do you own your own makeup? Yes, put hardly ever use it. Takes too long for such a short period of time.

16) What things do you strive for (goals)? No goals now other than it would be nice to have an appreciative wife.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Nope

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Only discussed my crossdressing with my wife. It did not go well. DADT since the 1980's.

19) The best time (s0 far) you have had dressed? When my wife went to visit out of state; daughter in Chicago and cousin in Arizona. Dressed 24/7 for 7-10 days. Able to hang dresses in the closet. Put undergarment in armoire draw. Shoes lined up

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? It was a hurdle to convince my wife (1) my dressing had nothing to do with any inadequacy about her (Why am I not enough for you?), (2) "I do not know why I do what I do!" (3) If we ever were to have any open and frank conversation about my dressing I would tell her as a young child (4? or so) I had thoughts/dreams I had been a young woman who was murdered. That image was of me laying in the dirt attired in only a white slip which is the women's garment which drew me into crossdressing. Prior life experience? And, dressing was a form of escape for me from the horrors of war, PTSD. Crossdressing is a refuge from those thoughts.

1) When did you start dressing? Probably like 6 or 7

2) At what age did you pick your name? I was in my 20s when I signed up here. It never occurred to me to have a name but once I did it all made sense.

3) why did you pick that name ? It matched my name

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Nope

6) When did you tell them? Didn?t

7) How did that work out ( the telling) NA

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? To experience more when I was as younger.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? I like professional chic looks. Like the office girl.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? That is a broad question but as it relates to my dressing, that I?m struggling with this daily

11) Favorite place to shop? Victoria?s Secret

12)Have you purged? Once and thought it was a big mistake

13) If so did you regret it? See above

14) Any advice to new cders? Have fun with it!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? As it relates to dressing? Lose weight and look better in more styles

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Not particularly

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? NA

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Multiple times in my 20s when I would make videos and chat with my girls

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That it makes me feel good.

I'm going to add age: 85

1) When did you start dressing? about age 8

2) At what age did you pick your name? 80.. I wanted one for this forum

3) why did you pick that name ? It's close to my given name, and is almost exactly what the foreign callers say.

4) Are you married, single ect? Widowed

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Wife did but hated it. Sister knows and is 1000% supportive.

6) When did you tell them? wife: 1990; sister 2018

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Wife threatened divorce if I continued. Sister, see above

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? No

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Whatever I think looks good on me. I do not dress my age!

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I'm TG, and wish to have experience as a woman with a man.

11) Favorite place to shop? On line and Dress for less stores.

12)Have you purged? Yes, once, 1990

13) If so did you regret it? No. It was necessary to save our marriage,

14) Any advice to new cders? Use the web as much as you can, you lucky people!

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes.

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? Being the best woman I can be when out.

17) Anyone you would like to tell? My sons. Never happen.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Yes, with wife, not with sister.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Nail salon for red mani/pedi and then shopping for the rest of the morning.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I'm still the same guy.

1) When did you start dressing?
My mother dressed me as a girl from a very young age. She stopped when I reached school age.

2) At what age did you pick your name?
I originally picked a name when I was 25. My current wife asked if I would mine changing it. I did around 35 years of age.

3) why did you pick that name ?
My wife picked it. It is her initials.

4) Are you married, single ect?
Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes

6) When did you tell them?
About a year before we got married.

7) How did that work out ( the telling)
We did a lot of talking and it was hard on her. But things worked out and for the first Christmas that she knew she bought me several outfits.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
Accepted myself without feeling the guilt that I had. Also moisturize every day.

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
Business attire.

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
How much this forum has helped me.

11) Favorite place to shop?
J.C. Penny tall sections and Hanes one place

12)Have you purged?
No

13) If so did you regret it?

14) Any advice to new cders?
Embrace this side of you. Explore it and enjoy it.

15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
I want to be as accurate as I can and experience what women experience.

17) Anyone you would like to tell?
I would like to tell my daughter and brother.


18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
It was hard on my wife but she got through the initial shock of it.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Halloween when my wife, my mother and myself all dressed the same and went out. We were all in black dresses and similar make up.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
That the person they like and love is does not change because of the clothing I wear.

1) When did you start dressing? Knew that I wanted to at 5 years old but didn't have access to my size clothing then (or any privacy). Did some simplistic dressing in high school. Wore a few things here and there now and then for most of my life. Really started dressing at 60, after I retired.

2) At what age did you pick your name? About 60. Had adopted the name Suzy before that

3) why did you pick that name ? Needed one for this forum

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes. She is the only one that I've told

6) When did you tell them? About 30 years ago

7) How did that work out ( the telling). She didn't understand (but to be honest, neither do I)

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Would have told my wife before we were married, kept my long hair from teenage years and styled it. Dressed and gone out in my 20s

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Casual

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?

11) Favorite place to shop? Discount clothing departments

12)Have you purged? Of course

13) If so did you regret it? Of course

14) Any advice to new cders? You be you

15) Do you do your own makeup? Yes

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?

17) Anyone you would like to tell? I would like to be honest and share this side of me with more family. However, my wife does not want anyone else to know this.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? Not bad. just difficult.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? I love to shop and be treated as a woman. I love to be referred to as ma'am or her etc. Hearing that puts me on cloud 9.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I'm the same person dressed or in drab and that part of me probably drives some of the behaviors that they like about me.

1) When did you start dressing? About age 8

2) At what age did you pick your name? 53

3) why did you pick that name ? Liked other names more but wife didn't want me to use them, they were school crushes.

4) Are you married, single ect? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? I didn't, she found out

7) How did that work out ( the telling) I paid the consequences at first. Now she is accepting and even helps

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? Be upfront and honest

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Anything feminine although needs to be stylish

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? I came out to the world last October

11) Favorite place to shop? Thrift stores, can find some unique things there

12)Have you purged? Many times

13) If so did you regret it?I regret it alot

14) Any advice to new cders? Communication with wife/gf. Be honest with yourself and others. Own it while dressed

15) Do you do your own makeup? Just learned enough to be out

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? acceptance as a dresser

17) Anyone you would like to tell? Came out to everyone in October

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? So far none, just a lot of looks and 1 compliment other than from wife

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Walking into Old Navy and returning something...I know pretty lame

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? That I am human. I have 2 personalities in my body. Both are special. Just because I am dressed as Nicole doesn't mean I want it 24/7

I?m in I guess
1) When did you start dressing?
Around 13 yrs old
2) At what age did you pick your name?
43
3) why did you pick that name ?
Back in 7th grade, the prettiest girl in class, miles ahead of everyone. I?ve shortened it to Joss
4) Are you married, single ect?
Married
5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know?
Yes
6) When did you tell them?
43
7) How did that work out ( the telling)
Good, then not so good, then better
8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now?
I might have charged in a bit fast after I told her. I would not do that
9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to?
I enjoy a bit on the glamorous side but don?t like to be rushed
10)What is something that you would like us to know about you?
I fear losing the desire to dress as much as I used to fight it before out to my so
11) Favorite place to shop?
Venus online, TJMaxx in store
12)Have you purged?
Never
13) If so did you regret it?
N/a
14) Any advice to new cders?
Try it all and find you....and learn what size you really are, not what you want to fit into
15) Do you do your own makeup?
Yes
16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ?
Perfect eyeliner and hourglass shape
17) Anyone you would like to tell?
No
18) Any bad reactions when coming out?
No
19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed?
Any time the makeup, hair and outfit all clicked and I got a picture
20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing?
No

1) When did you start dressing? 10 or so.

2) At what age did you pick your name? Had a different name for awhile, just started using this one recently.

3) why did you pick that name ? It's a name I've always thought of as a great name.

4) Are you married, single etc? Married

5) Does your wife/ girlfriend know? Yes

6) When did you tell them? Right after we got engaged.

7) How did that work out ( the telling) Awesome, she was glad I was confident enough about us to tell her.

8) Is there anything you would have changed knowing what you know now? About ...?

9) Do you have a certain style you are drawn to? Love vintage, 40's, 50's 60's and 80's

10)What is something that you would like us to know about you? Hi, I'm just me being me.

11) Favorite place to shop? Soma and a small business I found years ago.

12)Have you purged? Yes

13) If so did you regret it? Oh yes

14) Any advice to new cders? Don't purge lol.

15) Do you do your own makeup? I don't wear much but yes, with occasional help from my wife

16) What things do you strive for ( goals) ? To enjoy life

17) Anyone you would like to tell? No, not that I can think of.

18) Any bad reactions when coming out? None worth mentioning so far.

19)The best time ( so far) you have had dressed? Had a few, the best/funniest was when I was at the doctor and she had a few interns with her, spending some time with my mother in law going through clothes for donation and going swimming with my wife in a one piece.

20) Is there something you wished your loved ones understood about your dressing? Again, I'm just me being me. Clothes are just clothes, doesn't change me as a person.