Would you turn into a woman if you could?

Hi all,

First of all thanks to all the people who have already replied my old threads and wil answer this one. I am going through a very consufing moment of my life and your support is gold.:)
I also apologize to the admin if sometimes I accidentally post in the wrong section.
Thanks to my wife I began to accept the fact that I like to crossdress and that it is not just a kink as I have been telling myself for years as an excuse. She said -I will love you anyway, no matter what you wear. If one day you will live as a woman full time I will be ok with that-
Now, I would have never imagined to find a person like her but this continuos desire of dressing up is confusing me.
To the question - Would you like to become a woman? -, my answer right now is -it is complicated-. Also the first explanation I give for that is that my family would never accept that and I could not easily find a job presenting myself as non biological woman.
Does this mean that deep inside I would like to if those big BUT were not there?
Have you ever asked yourself if you were transgender?
Do you think I am continuosly lying to myself saying that I am fine with dressing up once in a while at home?
I do not hate my male body. That should clear any doubt about being transgender or not ,right?
I know these might be heavy questions but maybe some of you went through similar situations.

Not if it was permanent, I like being a guy.

I know for myself i love dressing up and hoping i look or feel pretty! I would love to stay dress all day long maybe for a couple of days! But i still like doing my guys stuff too! I think am just about living the best of both world!

No, absolutely not.
Much as i enjoy dressing its part time only for me.

Gia,
You may need to speak to a counsellor to find some of these answers . I can undestand the question you ask as most of us have been through a similar situation . I was in a DADT situation so for years I had no one to talk to as the problem gradually became worse , In my forties I felt my head was going to explode , I couldn't explain the feelings and had no real answers to them . Counselling was the only way out , the problem was my wife thought it meant a cure .

It was a long gradual process so now finally in my sixties after 46 years of marriage I live a separate life happily as Teresa , I've socially transitioned and live life as a woman , actually being a woman would make very little difference to my lifestyle , I'm comfortable and found the right balance in my life .

You are well over half my age with so much to live for and also have a supportive wife , try and find your answers now , don't be frightened of therapy , it's there to help you .

Agree with Teresa, get thee to a counselor as you need to discuss this with more than just wife

Hi, Gia :)

Short answer: If I could completely become a woman, (this day and age, of course, anyone can have their gender changed), no, I would not. Why? Because of course, I was born a male, I've lived my entire life as a male and unlike transgenders, (or most of what I've read and heard), I am comfortable in my own, male body and I don't feel as if I'm a woman trapped in a man's body. Yes, I very much enjoy cross-dressing, but that's it..... I like to be able to easily take off any feminine things that I wear and quickly be back in "male mode". There is a huge difference, in my honest opinion, between cross-dressers and transgenders.

hello Gia,
I do not want to transition; I have accepted who I am.
But, it would be nice to be reborn as a woman when the time comes!
luv J

If you had asked me that question when I was 21 the answer would have been a resounding yes.
At this point of my life, as I live as a woman about 75% of the time I would say no. I'm happy with how things are.

If there is such a thing as reincarnation then I hope I come back as a woman to be able to experience life from start to finish as a female.

I am not sure if I would or wouldn't. I like switching back and forth and love dressing but I would never pass. I have considered a partial transition and think of myself in more of a non binary sense. Whatever we are I have come to understand that it's a long process to sort this all out and find peace. Yes, that appeals to me and I would have to answer yes based on my current understanding and place in this crazy world. That could all change but that is how I'm feeling right now.

Great question...In college, in one of my psych classes, we were asked to write a paper about how we think we?d be if we were the opposite sex. Wow.was I wrong. Over my years of dressing, I have occasionally pondered these thoughts. I?m a very curious, adventurous person...going back to that fateful experience when I, out of curiosity, tried on a pair of pantyhose. I love being a guy. Having said that, Yes..I?d like to be a woman, for a period of time, to experience a woman?s physical and emotional experiences...as long as I could switch back. This will never happen, so, I?ll never know.

I really never thought about it, because that's not possible (I mean becoming biological woman), but probably yes. Just to be able to wear heels, panties, pantyhose, skirts and makeup without getting ridiculed and pushed aside in the society.

Its really important to understand that cross dressing is part of the transgender universe. Transsexuals are people who very clearly know that they inhabit a body that doesnt match their identity. The remainder may enjoy dressing as a sexual kink, or to varying degrees feel the need to express femininity in their lives. Its perfectly acceptable for you to seek fulfillment of that need by dressing exclusively at home.

You have a supportive spouse and opportunity to explore. You don?t need to find all your answers today. Live in the present tense.

Lately I have been confused by all the questions and answers I have read on this site. Your question asks whether, if I could, transform into a woman. Another thread had the typical responses indicating people dressed to get in touch with their "feminine" side. Aside from the obvious, the genitalia difference, what is the difference between a man and a woman? What is a "feminine side?" I've always said if I was not born a man I would like to have been born a woman. I have always viewed the question as a trick question asked by someone who is waiting for a response that I would like to have been born as a dog. Then the person would jump on my butt because he or she would view my answer as "so your perception of women is less than that of a dog."

When someone says they are living as a woman, what does that mean? I cannot think of anything different that I do when en femme than what I do when wearing my male clothing. Wearing feminine attire does not make a woman. Wearing male attire does not make a man. If you're not of that genitalia.

I have to fall back on my usual answer to the questions asked by my wife. I do not know why I do what I do. I can only say how wearing women's clothing makes me feel. Maybe it's because I am aging (73) that I really do not think in terms of male chores and female chores.

If your questions is really whether or not I would want to go through life wearing only women's clothing if I could, the answer in "yes." However, I am a realist. It's not going to happen because of the societal norms and expectations will isolate me from too many activities. Still, wearing the vestments of a woman will not transform me into a woman.

My answer would be yes and I am on that journey as we speak...

But if you asked me that question even as little as a few years ago I would have said no.

Throughout my life "I'm just a crossdresser" has been my big lie, and I was lying to myself most of all.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Stephanie47

When someone says they are living as a woman, what does that mean?

---

To me it means changing your name, dressing 24/7 as a woman, and never again going back to "boy mode" for any reason.

People are still required to do this for at least one full year to receive SRS in most places. (Specially if you are trying to get insurance to pay for any of it)

I am definitely just a crossdresser. I like dressing & emulating a woman, but I will still use any towel in the kitchen no matter how fancy.
Sara :heehee:

With out question I would change an become a female if i could take a pill and live as a female the rest of my life

Stephanie,
You miss the important point of dealing with dysphoria , if you are born with a female trait then you need some means of being in touch or in tune with it . To the outside World it may appear to be just dressing like a woman but there is a more to it for TGs .

I would also like to point out that society does not exclude or isolate you from normal activities , that thought is more in the mind than reality , you only have to look at my avatar the see I'm not excluded by my painting group , I went from appearing as a man to appearing as a woman without any problems .

I would much prefer to turn into a complete man, than to turn into a woman.

But we all know that won't happen, so I try to make the best of my different sides.

Nope. CD. Like living in both worlds.

I quite literally appear to "turn into a woman" whenever I like using my female suit!:battingeyelashes:

That completely satisfies my fem desires, Gia!:thumbsup:
However, it took me over 12 years of confusion, guilt, and experimentation to discover that!:doh:

Attachment 314589

If I was 25 to 30 years younger, I would take that magic pink pill to womanhood. But now, too old. I satisfy my longing by dressing as much as I can, with lipstick.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by LIKETODRESS2

With out question I would change an become a female if i could take a pill and live as a female the rest of my life

---

Yep. What she said. As long as I could have the my wits, as they are now. As a woman, I don’t think I could have learned and done as much in life, especially starting from the middle of last century in the middle of the USA. I’d probably be dead by now from some stupid mistake, as a generic woman. Now, I’d know the pitfalls and use my femininity wisely.
❤️

Hi Gia :hugs:, At age 77 I am enjoying having the best of both worlds, >Orchid .oO:daydreaming:Oo.

Hi Gia, and welcome to the board!

To answer your question, yes, I would choose to turn magically into a woman if I could... BUT only if I could change back again at the flip of a switch! I expect it would be a fascinating and enjoyable experience, but that doesn't mean I could function permanently as a woman, and I'd never want to abandon being male.

That's the problem here: that some changes are simply not reversible, if we need to change our minds!

Have I ever asked myself if I was transgender? Not really, because I always knew I wasn't. But how about you?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Gia

I do not hate my male body. That should clear any doubt about being transgender or not ,right?

---

Does that mean in your mind that you're not transgender? "Transgender" can be a broad umbrella term covering a lot of things. I would guess it means that you're not transsexual, not in the sense that you'd want surgery (or even hormones) to change your body into a female. Besides, you're unusually lucky to have such a supportive wife who wouldn't even mind if you chose to live full time as a woman. I assume you have a good sexual relationship with her and would not want to alter your body in any way that would ruin that part of your relationship.

You may still be "transgender" in the sense of wanting to live publicly as a woman, either full or part time. And within the constraints imposed by a male body, there is no reason you can't do that if you find it suits you. That's not something I aspire to do myself, which is why I don't class myself as "transgender." But if you've been crossdressing since early childhood, as you said in your introductory thread, that does suggest you're transgender yourself. The fact that you enjoy masculine hobbies does not preclude this. Quite a few women enjoy "masculine hobbies" themselves. For instance, I recall an actress, singer and comedienne who said her hobby was carpentry.

Still, you have choices. You could choose to live full time as a woman. Depending on what kind of work you do, are you sure it would be hard to find a job presenting as a woman? I'm guessing you're German yourself (though your English is excellent and natural), and I don't know how most Germans today regard transgendered people, but as far as public issues go regarding employment discrimination, I imagine they're reasonably tolerant and enlightened, as much of northern Europe is. Alternatively, you do have the option of living part time as a woman, while remaining male at work.

All these choices are flexible. If they turn out not to suit you, you can always revert to being male, except for crossdressing in private at home.

However, what I gather is that you haven't yet even ventured out in public, due partly to your living situation, which you expect to change. That's a big step in itself, Obviously you will want to explore doing things like that, and interacting socially in public as a woman (which takes courage, naturally) before you can even know whether this is the right path for you, or whether it's more of a fantasy. So right now it's too early to tell, until you've done more experimenting.

But if it's troubling you, Teresa's suggestion of counseling is still a good one to help you sort yourself out. Good luck!

Like many of the others here, I'm enjoying the best of both worlds by being gender-fluid. If a genie popped out of an old lamp and offered me wishes, though, I'd love to try being a 100% genetic girl for at least a little while. My journey has opened my eyes to the details of how the other half lives, but some secrets just can't be shared. You had to be there.

i used to think no unless I could switch back, but now am saying yes.

I would love to become a woman. For an hour or two, or maybe an entire day. But I need, not want, that magic button that restores me to a man.

Thanks everybody for your answers!🙂

As there's not much difference in life from being a big, old homely guy to being a big, old homely woman, well, no. My GID isn't so severe that I need to do that. Even when I was younger, I simply didn't have the body that would make it a reasonable change. Well over six feet tall, barrel chested, size 16 feet and x large hands, no, wouldn't make for a decent life as a woman, it would be just a different sort of discomfort in life. It would just be exchanging one set of problems for another. I had sort of expected to become a girl when I was about 12; if it had happened then, I would have welcomed it, as that was what I had thought was supposed to happen.

This reminds me of my talks with my therapist, but cheaper.

If I could take a pill and not have all my family and work issues ... I would have done it.

If I could have done it when I was younger and have a more feminine body I would.

Wonder what all my pitfalls would be if that happened?

It's a hard question to answer. Maybe in my late teens, early twenties I wondered about it. I think it was mainly down to not having a meaning full relationship. Finding solace in dressing and wondering what it would be like going all in as it were.

I like both of me too much to give up being a guy forever. If I could become a natural woman for a period of time, the magic pill scenario, all day long I would do it for a bit. But would need to be able to switch back. Dream world stuff, switch places with my wife (who supports my dressing) since a place swap would allow you to experience each others feelings and not have you just "Missing in Action" while you become a woman for a day or a week or whatever...or I guess you could "just be away on a work trip" if you could swap your sex for a short period of time. That brings up the question...if you could swap your gender for a bit, what all would you do?

I have been dressing for over 55 years (64) Teresa is my heroine :). I would turn into a women in a heart beat if I could. I have been married for 43 years my wife and I have gone thought every aspect of a husband that cross-dresses. Support, DADT, 24/7 panties, support, stop or I'll leave and support. (you get the message) I'm not sure if a DADT isn't better then the swings we have had. I just can't leave my daughters 7 grand children would be crushed. Not so much missing me more dealing with the way the community would shame and embarrass the family. I own a business will know in the town.

I knew when I was about 5 that I was somehow different from the other boys. I did not understand it at all, but there was a feeling that I really didn't fit the mold of a little boy. By the time I was 8 I wanted nothing more than to be a girl. That was 1953 and such requests were generally viewed as "Something is wrong with this kid." It was about then that I started to explore crossdressing by playing with my mother's clothes and makeup. It made me feel so true to myself. But after being discovered I dove into the closet for the next 60 years.

Would I become a woman down to the finest detail if I could? Idealistically, absolutely. But idealism is not a very secure foundation to build upon and reality always seems to interfere. At this point and 75 years old it would be pretty pointless to flip the switch, but I would still give it a try if I first determined that the switch was a two way switch - on and off. As such a switch is not possible then the thought is nothing more than wishful thinking that evolves into a fantasy.

The fact is, I am now both, with or without the expression. I don't need the clothes, but they are nice. My identity is composed of both - naked or clothed. And, to me, it is our identity that defines us and that has little or nothing to do with whether you have two X chromosomes or an X and a Y. Your identity is derived from a bit of genetics and a whole lot of experiences for your brain to work on and find a combination of different traits and characteristics that fit the genetics and experiences and other aspects to create a constantly evolving identity or sense of self - the neuroscientists call it your Theory of Mind. The only thing I would change is to relieve the confines of DADT, to be free of all restrictions. Working on that, but my female-like side tells me to be considerate of my life partner's feelings - my wife and what she thinks and her needs to be happy in our marriage. The conclusion? Right now is pretty good, but far from ideal. But the ideal is idealistic, by definition. Really not practical, so be happy with the moment and let the evolution of identity work its magic to modify bits and pieces along the way.

Hi Gia, I would not want to start off from birth, from what I understand female puberty isn?t a great experience for some, but then again neither is male puberty. LOL I would love to know what ?feelings? emotional and physically being a woman would be like. But I would have to say ?No? this is my life, I will play the cards I'm dealt. At least for now! LOL Let me know when the temporary pill hits the pharmacy shelf!

GretchenM,
Your comments about your wife's acceptance says it for most people and I do understand that . SaraLin has raised the option in another section asking if you could take the little blue pill ( or perhaps she should have said pink pill !) would you ?

Tongue in cheek , no one has raised the question if there was a little blue pill for your wife/partner to attain full acceptance would you sneak it in her drink or sprinkle it on her food ?

Connie ,
Never considered myself a hero or a heroine but if I send you my wife's address would you like to put it in writing for her , you comment made me blush , I would say she might go a strange shade of purple !!

What I would do is going on vacation for a week and change into a woman for that week. Then I would rent a condo on the beach in Florida. Go buy a bikini or 2. I do have a friend who is a TG who would like to come with me in real life as well as this vacation. It could be alot of fun for both of us.

[SIZE=1]- - - Updated - - -[/SIZE]

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by nvlady

I would love to become a woman. For an hour or two, or maybe an entire day. But I need, not want, that magic button that restores me to a man.

---

Yes would need that.

Gia,

It seems to me that you have a supportive SO who's willing to allow you to dress freely.

Jamie's post above is something I've done, re holiday, for many years. I live enfemme 24/7 and it's something anyone who is remotely considering transition should do. Life is different in a woman's world. Set aside the daily maintenance, makeup, shaving, putting on tights without laddering them, wearing heels even modest ones, it takes work. Going out and about, unless you're brave enough to not care at all about being read, means you're having to work on your presentation every minute. True it does tend to become second nature but it's easy to let your guard down.

Don't get me wrong, I love my enfemme time but don't underestimate the work it takes in the real world. I'm like others, I enjoy having the best of both worlds. I'd like more time to go out but my life is what it is.

In the fantasy world then I think if I could be reborn female then yep I'd take that option. Of course on the proviso I have a figure to die for and a face any cosmetic company would pay handsomely to use on the cover of magazines.

If it is a straight question of do I want to become a woman permanently, the answer is no as to a large extent I crossdress because I have to rather than because I want to (which isn?t to say I don?t enjoy aspects of it but rather that it is urge driven rather than a hobby). My male side still has a part to play in my life.

If there was a hypothetical scenario by which I could temporarily borrow a female body then it would be interesting to have a more organic experience.

Have to agree with Cheryl T, if you had asked me at 21, absolutely.
As it is now, I would be a very ugly, and balding, woman, so I think I'll stick with the way things are.

Counseling helped me immensely in coming to grips with who and what I am, I also highly recommend it.

Good luck.

No, I like being a guy, so no, I agree with Judy-Something.

No way. I enjoy getting dressed up (you know, dress, heels and hose) which seems to be of little interest to most women these days.

No. I love being a guy

This is something that has crossed my mind on multiple occasions especially in the past few years. Technically if I wanted to do any type of transition I am young enough where it would be feasible, granted I don’t know how feminine I could truly become. Of course I have fantasied about the whole process especially if there was a magical little pill that could instantly turn me into a woman. If such a pill truly existed that might sway me more into a direction of yes (possibly heavily shift my mentality) but as of right now I sit on a fence. I know that true transitioning is a long, arduous process. And it is that process that keeps me on a fence. This may be both a good and bad thing. One thing I likely need to do but don’t really have the money for it is talk to a psychologist. It is likely something I should have done or been doing years ago.

Granted I would like to point out that if you asked me all this again tomorrow or the following day my answer might be completely different.

Not for me, as I'm satisfied being a guy who occasionally crossdresses. Even when I'm out fully crossdressed I'm a guy inside.

Nope. I find that my more recent style feels like an expansion of masculinity rather than a move toward femininity. A dress, a skirt, short shorts and leggings all feel totally natural to me as a guy.

I've done it been there for three months loved it 24/7 after 10 months of counseling my girlfriend was loving it her family was OK with it buuut my family never new they lived miles away so there was always that worry, so to keep things and family from turning into a huge heart brake I went back to who and what I was borne I still wear my cute undies just to keep jennifer at bay she she still digs and scerems to get out but the kids live next door so thats not happing but if there was a pill to change long story short hell yes I'd be first in line!! xoxox Jenn

If I turned into a woman it would take away the fun of crossdressing. I don't see myself being interested in men's clothing.

No I would not want to turn into a women but I would like to be able to be more feminine when I want to....yes, I want it both ways!