It went really well, she's so cool :D
Can't wait for our next session already :eek:
Thanks so much Kieron for telling me about her, you totally rock dude!
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It went really well, she's so cool :D
Can't wait for our next session already :eek:
Thanks so much Kieron for telling me about her, you totally rock dude!
Details, dude! Details!
YAY!!!!....im totally made up for you Poc....hopefully she will get some things resolved for you :hugs: and you will feel alot happier in yourselfQuote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
yeah what Holly said...we want details.....someone might be reading this and wanting to go to talk to someone but might be scared as you wereQuote:
Originally Posted by Holly
Hehe!!
Oh, well... lemme get a drink then I'll tell you about it... *wanders off*....
*comes back with hot chocolate*....
Well basically we went over the basic introductory admin stuff, and she told me some stuff about how she operates etc.
The actual talking was really interesting , it was so nice to be able to talk to someone in real life about these things. Someone unbiased I mean, not like a friend or family member who might resist all thoughts of me actually transitioning at all costs.. you know what I mean.
She made a point of saying that she is not here to push me one way or the other, but to listen and play devil's advocate.
She also said I apologise for myself way too much, which is like a lack of confidence thing, and that's something we are going to look at later on.
She was really open and friendly and unbiased, unprejudiced. The kind of person that you can talk about anything to and not feel too shy.
It was good talking about gender issues. Ahhh.
It made my eyes well up when she said she could refer to me as my male name and I would just be a boy/man to her (if I want).
There's so much I want to talk to her about and get off my chest and work through with her. I could have talked to her for 3 hours haha!!
To anyone reading that might be a bit nervous, like Kieron said... well I would say that if you get a good counsellor it is definitely worth making that 1st step... even if it's scary. It is good for you to know there are people out there that can help support you :happy:
*goes and gets a hot choccy just cos pocs got one*:D
........sits and reads......
cool!!!! im glad you are gonna work through stuff :).....
so are you gonna let her call you your male name???
you so gotta keep us informed with how things are going!!.....hey this can be like pocs Transitional Diaries or something lol
Haha! Mmmm hot choccy break.
Well.. I think so yeah. I mean, obviously I don't want to be pushing myself to act more male or more female... but I could hardly ask her to call me pocoyo now could I? :heehee: (although for a funny moment I did consider it ha ha!)
And my female name didn't feel right in that context (I often feel odd/awkward with it in general actually) so... and she put my male initial down in her little book. *little grin to self*
Hehe! Ok I will keep you informed.... lol pocs transitional diaries... getting a bit ahead of ourselves there aren't we? :heehee:
I almost felt like saying "Transitional diary....I WISH then!" but obviously that wouldn't be sensible. You know me... check, check, then re-check again... haha! Besides... I might just be *chokes*....female... yet... or learn to live as a boy with a female body... or be some sort of boy/girl hybrid... or whatever. The possibilities...! Ehem!
Eh... perhaps I'm just a tomboy, who knows?!
Kieron: "yes pocoyo, we know you're confused... hence the counselling mate" :rolleyes:
hehe!
I forgot to say that we also talked about stuff like sexuality and touched on hormones and how I feel about my body and stuff.
Also about my hair and "The Experiment" haha!
hey!! life is one BIG transition!!!Quote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
OOOOH!! what did she say about the hair and the experiment???
god im nosey!! tell me to shut up if i get too much!
Ahhh yes! Good point... I like your way of thinking sir ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Kieron Andrew
Oh well she was like "Erm.. if you want your hair cut, why don't you get it cut?"
haha... and I explained about how yes it is for my mum & family... but that it really is also for me that I am growing it. To see how it feels and stuff. OOH I just remembered one really big reason I'm growing it which I'd forgotten about! I will have to tell her that next time.
I didn't really get to explain properly about the experiment yet, and how I wear make up & try and be girly sometimes at the moment. She found it interesting how I present as male at work most of the time and wear a male name on my badge though.
She said that she bets when I have girly make up and hair I counteract it with really male clothes...
I was like "um... yes..." hehe
Pocopocopocopoco!!! :D Wonderful mate!!
I want someone like her!! :eek: Gimme gimme gimme...
Kieron and Pocs.. are you guys slowchatiing or what? :p
(Yeah I know, to much coffee. HYPERHYPERHYPER!)
are we what???:heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Evert
Slowchatting! Or am I saying something to Dutch? :heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Kieron Andrew
oh come on explain will ya....my brain is dead today lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Evert
EVERTEveryeverteverteeeff!Quote:
Originally Posted by Evert
It's so cool to see u on buddio!
Awww I hope you do get a lovely counsellor soon :D
LOL coffee-boy! Don't have a caffiene OD!
Haha slowchatiing?
see!!! Poc is even questioning it!:tongueoutQuote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
Btw Kieron I forgot to saw aww thank you very much, for that ^ and give you this :hugs:Quote:
Originally Posted by Kieron Andrew
Evert... are you saying we're just having a conversation on this thread? hehe :heehee:
lol its a word we use on the Dutch boards and means the messages are posted that quick it's almost like a chatbox. Slowchatting! :D
(Coffeeeeeeeee! Cafeine! I'm such a junkie.. :p)
Aahhh makes sense!! I get it.
It would be fun if sometimes we chatted live in a chatroom as well as forums!
(I do love forums though).
Haha, don't ever get me on caffiene.. once at college they were giving out free coffee... and I couldn't stop laughing for the whole of the next lesson... even in really inappropriate moments hahaha I'm laughing even now just thinking about it!
goofball!:tongueout :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
Quote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
1) We got one, didn't we? :eek:
2) We can make one... :heehee:
Hahaha Kieron!
Evert... whu wha? I know there's some sort of chat room that's not actually part of this site, somewhere or something.
Cool.. off you go then... go build us a cd.com chat room, there's a good fellow... *looks at watch*... I expect it to be finished by dinner! haha!
Join the room!Quote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
See I can do that much much quicker. :heehee:
Password is Evert :tongueout
ive created one as well ive posted it in the boys clubhouse same chat server lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Evert
Congrats, dude! Drinks all around :cheers:
Sounds like you covered a lot during that one session - how long was it? Maybe you should show her pics of boy pocs and girl pocs so she can see just how different you are. I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to talk openly for so long - that's very important. I'm also glad she can be so objective and nonjudgmental. Sounds like you found a winner - extra drinks for Kieron.
Evert, I hope you find a good counselor too. And pass some of that coffee over here. :heehee:
Keep us posted, Poc. :happy:
omg what are you 2 like?! Super-speedy or WHAT?! *grins*
I'm in Evert's room at moment.
Cap - it was an hour long.
Yeah that's a good idea to show the pictures.. and maybe even video.
She did see one picture of me girly. Oi anyway... I'm not that different... I hope... it's just me scrubbed up! With straightened hair and make up or whatever! Same person....
I think...
I hope....
Well parts of the same person at least.
Hmm.. it's something I will discuss with her anyway, definitely.
Yeah she really does seem nonjudgemental. She is gay so that makes me feel really comfortable for some reason.
I will keep you posted! Thanks El Capitano!
Woo :cheers:!
Okay :2c: while I flit in and out. I know it's female thing. Call me flighty.
Anyway Pocs, I am so glad the first session went well. It is usually just a getting to know you thing and gives you an idea if there is any chemistry with you and the counsellor. (I've met a couple I didnt like and dropped pretty quickly.)
Evert. Caffeine? We have this coffee shop chain here called Tim Hortons. Anyway they have 30 million Canadians hooked.... and it is moving into the US. Poor Starbucks... Anyway, I am on my .... oh never mind.... let's just say my eyes have finally popped open ...open.... open.....op...
:hugs: Kimberley
Oooops.... Hi Kieron *singing sweetly* I didnt mean to ignore you hon. :D
You're so flighty :pQuote:
Originally Posted by Kimberley
Awww thank you! I am so glad she's a nice one...Quote:
Anyway Pocs, I am so glad the first session went well. It is usually just a getting to know you thing and gives you an idea if there is any chemistry with you and the counsellor. (I've met a couple I didnt like and dropped pretty quickly.)
I found her most personable! I think she will be good to "work with" :happy:
What are you? Some kind of siren? :pQuote:
*singing sweetly*
cool im glad it went well :D
*strumpet blast!*
Poc the Brave strikes again!
Good for you, Poc. I'm glad it went well and you're comfortable there. :D
Hip-hip hoo-ray!! :worship:
Well done Poco for finding someone to help you along the way, then going in and opening up. Good for you. :hugs:
First step is one of the hardest babe. Still some bumps along the way but thinking it'll get better from here on out because you have made this decision [to get counseling].
dancin
:lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
Oh I dont know. Siren, muse... :tongueout Now take those earplugs out young man....:devil:
:hugs:
heya Poc,
So happy to hear you had a great time with the counselor. It was good to hear that you were comfortable talkin with her. Thats the utmost importance, BEING COMFORTABLE, otherwise, its a waste of time. I hope you get a lot out of it, and are able to figure things out better for yourself through all this!
Life is such a wonderful journey, no matter which road you take, and you will always learn new things about yourself. I know I am!
Take care and CONGRATS!!!
I'm so happy for you!!!
Nic
Hi Poc well done dude it sounds like ya had a good session and that's what counts :hugs: :hugs: xx Felix :hugs:
I'm glad everything went well for you Poc's. I know how scary it can be the first time you meet with a psychologist. I'm just happy that things turned out in the positive for you. :D
So glad the appointment went so well for you, Poco. *Does a happy dance and few flips just for you* Hopefully talking things over outloud will help you sort out your confusions.
Too bad Bi is on vacation 'cause that means we get no celebratory brownies. :sad: We'll have to settle for cookies.
One more nosy question: will you be seeing her weekly from now on, Poc?
Are cupcakes a good substitute for brownies? :D
I'm glad it went well, Poc. Hope you enjoy the cupcakes. :hugs: :love:
Woo-hoo! Chocolate (or pocolate) cupcake! :D Thanks, happyfish. Poccy, come and get yours before they're gone!Quote:
Originally Posted by happyfish
Good one on the session with your counselor. I have been going to counselors (and you can read that as being any kind of counselors) for years. There are good ones and bad ones. Sound like you got a good one. I know what you mean when you said you could have talked for 3 hours, but don't try to get everything in in one session. After all, good counseling may take years!
That's fantastic, mate! I'm glad you're comfortable and have found someone who you can talk to. :D
Kimb - :heehee: why, do you want to charm me? .... :D
CountryGal - thank you so much, that's really lovely *hug*
Felix - thanks sweet Felix!! *hug hug hug*
LMS - aawww thanks, yeah I was a bit nervous beforehand! :hugs:
Tristan - yay! *does some dances & flips too* *grin* Thank you cool dude.
Cap - Oh nooo, I loove brownies... hurry home Bi! Well I can't really afford to see her face to face weekly, so will be having some phone sessions with her (weekly at the moment) and then after like 2 phone sessions we'll have another face to face, or whatever... we will see how it works out.
Thanks HappyFish! - mmmm always pleased to have a cupcake :p :love:
Hehe I'm here cap... munching on a lovely cupcake!
Laurie - ahh good advice. Thank you very much!!
Abraxas - awww thanks buddio :hugs:
Thank you so much for all your sweetness people!
Wow... lucky pocs having such kind supportive caring friends!
:bighug:
The thing is Poc is that you totally run the show. The therapist is just a sounding board. It is interesting how sessions go, though. The point is you make all the decisions.:happy:
Sounds good to me Sal :happy:
:hugs: :love: Yay you Pocs!
I'm glad it went well and you like her. I think it will really help you to have, as you say, someone who isn't friend nor family, and who can help you sort out the different pieces. You're a pretty complex person, very creative, smart and imaginative, and I think the counselor will be helpful straightening out all the tangly bits you weave into your tapestry. :happy:
Sometimes having someone who is a professional helps validate things your friends may have told you :whistling: things you might think they tell you just to be nice.
So did you make another appointment already then?
Poc, I can't tell you how happy I am that your session went so great! (Wait, that sounds kind of stupid, doesn't it? I can tell you that I can't tell you, but I can't tell you what I can tell you I can't tell you. Ummm... *deep breath*) I'm so happy for you that I can't express it properly! (No, that's just lame. Hmmm. Ah, Ive got it.) :bighug:
I know you're seeing her for gender issues. But from what I know of you, I know where you're coming from. (Did she say it was "like" a lack of confidence thing, or was she a little more definite and you're playing it down a little?) When you start working on this, you'll find the world opening up in ways you never thought possible before. Not doing things because "it's too much trouble" or "I'm just not comfortable" starts to turn into "yeah, maybe" and "*gulp* what the heck". Oh man, when you start to see those possibilities, let's just say "profound" really enters your vocabulary. It just feels so darned GOOD to see yourself in a new light. My wish for you is you can start to see those possibilities.Quote:
Originally Posted by pocoyo
Glad things went well !!!!It was good to hear that you were comfortable talking with her. Thats is most important......doing happy dance:twirl:
Kerrianna - awww thank you. Hehe tangly bits... :p
Yeah I have a phone appt with her next week. I wonder how that will go, it will be strange not being face to face! Might be cool though. At least I have someone (professional) to talk to about it now!! Yaay!
And hey, I always appreciate my friends' input!! But you're right, I do sometimes wonder if they are just being nice. :heehee:
Casey - thank you!! hahaha, you sound like me, I get all word-fumbly sometimes.
Ahaaha, well I dunno, I THINK that's what she said but I wasn't totally sure those were the precise words, but I think they were. (That's why I threw in the "like" hehe.)
Ahhh being free to do stuff which I feel limited from sounds goood. :happy:
Thank you! *grin*
Di gg - hehe!! Thank you very much :D *does a happy dance too* :hugs:
Thanks everyone, you groovy people you! :love:
:bighug:
When you find you are doing things that you choose to do, Poc, I guarantee you will be much happier. It's so much easier just being yourself and when folks see that you stick up for that, they will respect you for it when they see your determination.:happy:
YAY POC! *HUG* *Hands out brownies* better late than never, eh?
Btw, Kimberly, we had a Tim Hortons here in A2, but it MOVED OUT! I'm so sad! That was the best cheap mocha in town too... :-(
Poc, I had an odd dream about you the other night, but no type to type it - dinner with exboy in a couple. Remind me about it and I'll tell ya another time. But I'm super glad for you that you have an awesome counsellor!
:D *kerrianna bends her ears to eavesdrop on the dream description*Quote:
Originally Posted by bi_weird
:p