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Do u often / sometimes / or at least occasionally think and wish u could fully transition into the opposite sex.
If so. What are the major reasons that prevent u from doing it?
I just wanna know if all of the crossdressers experience this fantasies or only some of them besides the transgenders.
When I was younger I would have those thoughts. Now I know I would rather be a cd.
Today I went down to our heritage day festival in drab, nice silk shirt and shorts, but when I arrived, there were moments I wish I was able to dress.
The afghan women in their purple velvet tunics, satin green pants and lovely shoes, with a chiffon scarf wrapped around their necks looked lovely as did the Indian girls in very colourful saris. Then there were the girls in pleated mini skirts boots and a loose satin top layered over the bottoms... all looking great. Yes that was one of those days.
To be a girl on a day like this would be fun.
Hi Merkina
Not everyone who crossdresses has a need to transition
I am sure we have all considered the possibility at some time. It is not an easy decision to transition with many difficulties to overcome. Those who do have an overwhelming need as they were born with the wrong body.
Some will live 24/7 and still not transition this could be for several reason but the main thing is being happy with yourself
I myself have no desire to transition
I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have the real things - breasts, and "down there", but its more idle curiosity than a desire to transition.
Other than that, I'm happy being a CD.
I have not transitioned full time as a woman because I want to get my income to a healthy cashflow so I can live full time, I am not transexual and do not want the surgery, however I consider myself more female than male. I plan on living full time as a woman in the near future.
Interesting one. I think about dressing full time most of the time. I sometimes wish there was something wrong with the `old man` and it could be taken away. I feel more femm than male and it's only fear stopping me dressing full time. Would I transistion, have thought about it but still trying to find out who and what I really am.
Love
Steviexx
It might not be an option if you are in a long term relationship. I know my wife wouldn't be interested if I started transitioning. Sometimes life's choices are difficult.
Oh sure, thats a wonderful fantasy to think about, but for me, it just a fantasy. Most of the time I view myself as a male and happy to be. I always thought that a M to F TS was a female trapped in a male body, while a CD'er was a male who would love to be trapped in a female body (at least temporarily).
I do think about it, but it just costs too much. I also am careful about reactions in my environment
Transitioning?
Well years ago I didn't think I'd ever want to, as I thought I'd grow out of this over time - but the opposite was true.
Then it became a dream and a fantasy ~ but because of the following, I felt I could never do it:
Partner agreeing to the change
Being able to pass in public
Having young children who deserve a father figure
Being able to carry on with your chosen employment - as you're still going to need money, male or female.
But things can and do change:
My partner now agrees as she knows I can't carry on with my 'twin life'
I can now pass in public
Children have grown up and accept the changes
My employer and work friends are supportive
Now I can't imagine not doing this.
So TIME can change EVERYTHING.
What was impossible can become very possible.
for me, I very often daydream of transitioning, and the things that stop me are my age, my family commitments, my career commitments, not to mention the monetary factor. So this gurl has to be content with my "girl time" as is!!!! Actually it's not all that bad except for the fact I need a much"BIGGER CLOSET":D
:love: Mollyanne
I do not think I would fully transition. I would probably start on hormones and live full-time though.
What stops me? My relationship with Lori, who is too good to put into words. I would never risk loosing what I have with her. It's too valuable.
What keeps me from transitioning? I sometimes ask myself that same question. I do have a little over 3 years to go at work to max out my pension however most of the people I work with know of Karen, some have seen her, and there wouldn't be an issue there. I do see the day when I live 24/7 as Karen but transitioning with hormones and the like, that is something that remains to be seen.
My SO has been 24/7 for the past 3 nearly 4 years, before that it was when she got the time to dress. She has know intention on doing the hormones or surgery, why? because she is happy and content in just wearing the clothes, makeup etc. She doesn't feel the need to be a woman eg have the womans body.
Sure, I guess I've thought of it from time to time, but no intentions or desires to transition. I usually take a week each year and play dress-up/make up. At the end of the week, I'm more than happy to go back to being my regular guy-self (plus the panties).
I have often fantasized about it. But then I realize that I have the best of both worlds to play with. I'll never be a woman no matter what I do. I try to work with what I have and change what I can.
Now if you'll excuse me I have a date with a sandblaster...:battingeyelashes:
I've stated in other posts I would have transitioned if it wasn't for career and family. Those two things have always been my primary concern. I'm happy where I'm at with my life. But if I could do it all over again, then yes I would.
Huggs, Renee
I'm happy being a CD. No need for anything else.
I prevent myself from fully transitioning... cause I don't want to be a woman....
Loving my SO and family is what stops me from going down the transitioning road. I'm not prepared to lose that.
Sarah...
I went 24/7 about ten years ago when I got my first job working as an openly transgendered woman. I love living this way and couldn't imagine going back to living as a man or trying to get back into the closet.
Go further? I tried over the counter hormones for a few weeks a few years ago. I didn't like how they made me feel--I felt sick to my stomach a lot, and was beginning to lose interest in sexuality. I have no desire to get rid of my "manly bits." They do fun things and add a spicy edge to living as a woman. So I have no real interest in "going further" in my transition.
Many of the responses in this great thread are written by people who think about going further but are restrained by their inhibitions. Inhibitions are internalized fears that we learned from our parents and from society. As I came out of the closet and went full time, my inhibitions lost control of me. I became free of my fears, and began to discover how life really works. I experienced (and still experience) the exhiliration of freedom. There is nothing like it in the world! Daily life continues to be a "wow!" experience. I try to express that freedom and exhiliration in the way I dress. I like bright colors, flowing fabrics, and a bit of sexiness to communicate that freedom and excitement.
When we free ourselves from our inhibitions, they don't go away. They're still there, lurking in the shadows. I still have moments when I catch myself wondering, "Isn't somebody going to stop me from living this way?" The truth is, no one can stop me, because the only power they might have is the power I formerly chose to give them. There are still people who would try, however. When they become aware of free people like me around them, they become fearful and angry. They seek out positions of power and authority. They offer others a little freedom in exchange for fostering the myth that they invented that freedom. Since the freedom they offer is really control, I've learned that it is in fact counterfeit freedom. On a practical level, that means things like going full time is a lot easier when one is financially independent, i.e. retired. :heehee:
Another practical consideration is the fact that there are far more people in this world who are followers of various counterfeit freedoms, than those who are free. Would they want freedom if they were able to have it? I'm not sure. I don't think it really appeals to many people. There is a loneliness to freedom, in other words. So if you're going to be free, you have to be prepared to be alone until you find other free people.
When we're no longer guarded by our lnhibitions, we learn to listen very carefully to our surroundings. If we don't, the only way we learn is by trial and error, in other words, by making costly mistakes. I've made some of those! It's all part of the learning process.
Blessings,
Rikki
What's preventing me from fully tranistioning...Well you see the thing is...
Oh wait i have already set a few wheels in motion to start transitioning :D
i'm the same, i fell into thinking i could be 'comfortable' just as i am. now i'm thinking that i don't want to miss the opportunity whilst i'm still young, and i don't ever want to get to the point later when i cave in and regret my reluctance now. thats the thought that always wins it for me when i get scared about it, stand still in the stream and get washed into the silt or get out and walk around in the garden, pick some fruit, talk to a snake or whatever i want lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by Suzy Harrison
so whats stopping me is the time the process is going to take, which gives me ample time to put the brakes on if i have to. but my fear of not transitioning heavily outweighs my fears about doing it
but whilst i was being 'comfortable' what was stopping me was simply the idea that if i did do it i'd be chasing something i could never really have and there was no dignity in standing outside the door forever peering in at a party i wasn't formally invited to
x
The thought of transitioning intrigues me very much.. To be honest, I'd love to live full time as a woman. That would be amazing!
But my reality is, I have dreams and goals that wouldn't allow me to do that. Plus, I have a very serious girlfriend whom I love very much (and she will soon be my wife.. I've already got the engagement ring!). She puts up with the dressing, but I'm sure she would leave me if I went further and I wouldn't blame her. She signed up to be with a man, not a man who is turning into a woman.
So, no transitioning for this girl... I'll just stick to cd'ing.
xoxo
Ally
I suppose the answer may lie in the way we regard just what we do and any progress made. Most of us believe that we are on a journey. For me, my journey is towards perfecting my appearance - clothes, wig, makeup etc. I recognise that this is a superficial journey, but I dont know what else I will want to do after it. For others, it would seem that their journey is more specifically towards a more radical change - that of male to female on a permanent basis, either with or without surgery or drugs.
Perhaps, as in our careers and life plans we simply need to get to the destination in order to find out - call it kismet.
If I had the money I would probably do it. I would love to be able to live and feel as a woman but at my age it probably will not happen.
There's a saying: life's what happens whilst you're making other plans!
If things had been differant then maybe I might have, I know it makes me sad to think about what might have been so I try to accept what is. I think I need to think about this some more.
Amanda
The fact that I am a CD and not a transexual.
I've thought about it but i would never fully transform. There's too many risks. I would most likely lose my family and girlfriend whom i love very much. Im very happy being a CD.
I think of it every day. I often wish I started years ago as it would be all over now. The hardest thing for me is finding a way to keep my career going. A girl has to make a living!
Pretty much the same thing here.Quote:
Originally Posted by Karren Hutton
The only way I would do a full transition is that if I could go back to guy mode when I want or need to,plus I also love being a guy.But I know that can't be done, so I'm happy to be just a crossdresser.
Felicity :)
I would if I could but I can't so I won't!
Why?
The usual suspects, family + career = responsibility. My adoration of my wife & kids trumps my need to transition so I muddle through things the best I can.
I cannot help but think that had I known in my college days what I know now, I'd have transitioned back then. At that time, the only resource I had was the college library where all of the text on tg issues was highly clinical in nature. I was alone and the available information did nothing for me.
But...had I done so, I wouldn't have my wonderful family today so this is not to say I wish things would have played out for me to transition way back when. My life is what it is, all I can do is try to find balance and support.
Transitioning? No thank you because then I would miss out on the fun and excitement of crossdressing.
Babette
I would like to try. But, it's so hard now. Family, career, friends, mortgage. Geez, if I wasn't such a chicken when I was younger. I've always felt that transition is probably the best course. While attempting transition, I may have decided that I didn't want to go all the way, but I regret not trying.
Just happy as i am.The best of both worlds
In my personal case, I ran into a lot of problems at the CD'ing in public stage, including bullying and even feared for my life. Due to my personal living arrangements, I can't simply walk away from it all.
Now the issue is that I do not seem to be able to pass well enough to make transitioning feasible anyway. Some posts here from the CD's not interested in transitioning, have tried to devalue our concerns with not passing, but in fact, it is a major worry for those wishing, at some level, to transition. Would I be afraid to go out, except in the evening, and little at all in summer, when my masculine origins would not be as noticeable, if I transitioned? That would not be much of a life.
Oddly... if I could I would dress every day**, but I have no interest in transitioning. I like the combo as it is. I have had day dreams about it, but they are just little fantasies.
Charlene
** especially if society would just accept me as is... but they won't :( arrrgggg...
Ah, Ladies. Ah, Ladies.
I would transition in a minute.
Nothing holds me back (OK, money, a bit ;-0) except my obligations to people that I love.
I long to be the person that I am, and to love as and be loved as the person that I am.
I am just trying to set up the people that I love in a responsible fashion, and then go fulltime and wherever that leads. Because I embarked on a life and career before I truly understood who I am, despite my deepest longings, my moral compass will not allow me to exit one life and begin another without taking proper care of my family and co-workers. That being said, I am working aggressively to achieve my goal.
Never am I happier, or more content than when I express myself as a woman, and I hope in the not-too-distant future to have a chance to do so, all day, every day, for the rest of my life.
I would only want to transition for a few hours, the night, a few days or a week. Then transition back. So far they only seem to be able to do that in the movies. It would just be nice to have a more feminine body at times mostly when getting some more or full femme time. Otherwise I basically like who I am.
Nothing is standing in my way any longer....So you know what that means gurls? Yep, I'm starting on my path. Wish me luck gurls ;)
Well, for me what kept me from doing it was my own fear. And that fear was based on the limited info I had that let me believe that I would never be happy. But that's the fault of the popular media, and I bought right into it. I'm realizing that I've lived this male life in an effort to distract myself from accepting my feelings. Once I got to place's like this, and got out into the real world of Trans, and not the fetish side of it, I learned that there are many Transwomen who lead happy, productive lives, mostly becasue they are now in the right body for them. I have a lot of work to do to overcome the life time of deluding myself about my gender identity. It's not easy, but like one of the other posters said, I'm at the point that my fear of transitioning is being supplanted with the fear of a life not transitioning.
I contemplate transitioning all the time. A huge part of me wants to, but another part of me feels it would be better to hold back and remain a man, just one who dresses up as a woman often.
I'd love to live full-time as a woman. I'd love to be one of the girls, to be able to go anywhere as a female and not be hiding anything (or just go somewhere as a female for that matter - I've never left the house dressed even), and most importantly, to have the body of a female.
That said, I have a billion obstacles in my way. I have a girlfriend, career aspirations, a complete lack of any money whatsoever, a family who wouldn't accept me as a female (much less as a CDer), etc. It's just not feasible at this point in time, nor will it be feasible for many years to come.
If I had zero constraints on me, I seriously might transition, and I would want to start it soon, because I would love to be a woman while still in my 20s (I'm 19 right now). But that certainly won't happen.
It's something I think about all the time, and generally something that I seriously contemplate every single time I dress. But I know it's not happening, whether I want it to or not.
WOW.. I wish that:daydreaming:Quote:
Originally Posted by _Sarah_
How do u do that at 18 y. Did u convince your parents to finance u or do u already have a job?
I think about it often, but beeing husband, dad, and grandpa are too important to me. Hugs, Kathy
Ive always wanted to be female. But I never knew it was possable, when I grew up in the fifties and sixties. I now know I'll never be able to transition. With a loving spouse and two adult children, it just won't happen. I CD just because I know what I want, and know that I'll never be.
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Originally Posted by _Sarah_
I won't lie, I'm completely jealous! I really haven't heard of many people my age starting to transition.
Well, there's the little fact that as much as I like "being" a woman, I'm not a transexual......Quote:
Originally Posted by nekrina
Well yeah that's correct for some.Quote:
Originally Posted by TGMarla
But isn't it already worth transitioning just for the sake of having peace from the constant urge to CD?