Scares the hell out of me. Ever happen to you? Very afraid of the future.:sad:
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Scares the hell out of me. Ever happen to you? Very afraid of the future.:sad:
Holly,
I am so sorry for what has happened to you. Were I in your place I would have no idea where to go from here. I suggest having your closest friends near because I am sure they will help you through this.
Hugs,
Mary Jane
Would you care to explain Holly ???
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We are here whenever you need us :hugs:
No, hun, never happened to me! But I know it's a sad, scary thing...
Sounds like you need a mom yourself, now!
I'm so sorry, dear one, so sorry!
We're still here, though!
:<3:
Holy explane ??????????????????????............
ok talk to us, explain????Quote:
Originally Posted by Holly
Holly you've always been a rock -- time to lean on us now. :gh:
Love,
Mae
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Originally Posted by Holly
Holly,
Are you OK? What happened?
Been there before if you want to talk P.M. me I may be able to help you thru this somewhat.
Holly,
Has what ever happened to us? Who are you talking about? :strugglin
:hugs:
Talk to those who love you, sweet Holly...
when you're ready...
:<3:
I hope you are okay Holly but please tell us who is gone?
here is a big one of these :hugs: from australia
Whos gone? please explain
:hugs:
Hi Holly. She left you? Over the whole TG thing? Bummer. My thoughts are with you. Keep on keepin' on.
Hey hun are you OK Please tell us what happened We're all here for you....lacie:battingeyelashes:
Call me, I IM'ed and PM'ed my number to you. :hugs:
Karen Starlene :star:
Your mom? Your wife? Obviously NOT Holly, because she wrote the post.
PLEASE respond! You're scaring US NOW!:sad:
Holly, you are solid as a rock on this Board. I always look forward to your advice to the posters on here and I'm sure you will find the answers from within yourself.
I assume you have found out your wife has left you, with no explanation why. We can only wait here to help you and please know we all have your best intrest at heart. We all look up to you and feel your pain.
Holly, I feel for you. My Lady left me one day out of the blue. I had no idea where she was or how to get a hold of her. All she did was leave me a note saying she had gone and was not coming back, I was devestated to say the least. She even left her cell phone, I had noway of getting a hold of her and had no idea of how. By the next day my wits came back to me and I figured out how to find her and finally got to talk to her. She had left stae and came to Florida. All I could do was to talk to her.
Anyway, I am sorry to hear that, Have faith in GOD and Pray, GOD will help you. You also have us all here.
I know it's not nearly the same thing, Holly, but we are always here for you, as well as all your many other friends. Please take advantage of all of our love and concern for you and reach out to someone. We care. :hugs:
What happend Holly you can PM me if you need a friend hun. :hugs:
Angie
You have many, many friends, me included. If you need anything, just ask.
I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that Holly's wife has left just yet. I've spent several evenings with both of them and they were a very happy go lucky couple that have been married for like 40 years. Let's just wait and see . . .
what's going on hun please tell us :hugs: we are here for you
Holly, please let us know what is going on. You have many close friends here who are ready with a shoulder for you to lean on.
I am so sorry, Holly. :hugs:
Hi Holly,,
You have our attention and I can only hope we can help somehow
Hugs
Cindy
Holly, Whover you are talking about, a mate, mom, or your Holly side, I am empathizing, hoping you will seek support here, and elsewhere. Lucille
Holly, girlfriend...lets make a pot of coffee and talk...stay up all night...it's OK...
:itsok:
I too feel for you but would also like to know whos gone? when you feel like it please let us know. We are here for you anytime. You have been so helpful to so many with very good advice.
Holly, please respond if you can!! All your friends on this Forum are very anxious to learn what it is you are talking about.
If someone very close to has suddenly passed away, I can certainly empathise. My darling wife of over 49 years died in February of 2005, only 2 1/2 months after being diagnosed with cancer. I was in shock, depression, and scared almost to death for several months after that. But thanks to my GGF in Scotland, and some others, I pulled through. And so can you!
You are a strong, smart, and articulate person. Tell us what is going on and let us help! We are here for just as you have always been there for us!!
Please write!!
Stephanie (formerly Sissy/Stephanie)
Lady on the outside, but man underneath!
Holly? Could you explain? Do you mean your SO left?
Holly I'm awful sorry. I don't have any deep words of wisdom to offer.
But if you talk it out with people from the forum either in the threads
or through pms and stuff things will probably be OK. The GG I used to
spend the night with all the time who was my best freind like in Lou
Reed's "She's My Best Freind" died in 2005.
Hugs, Samantha
I don't know what you are referring to Holly, but for the likely choices, yes, I think I have been there, and I would drive down there tomorrow if it would help.Quote:
Originally Posted by Holly
:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Whoever it is I wish you the best!
Holly, If it helps at all, I was going to end my homelessness, on Aug 2nd, but, decided to wait one more day, staying in my van, and let my beloved beautiful cat enjoy the outdoors , before becoming an indoor cat. Well, i was late getting back to my van that night, and she never came home. The coyotes got her. I camped there a few more days, but she never came back. How i regret not moving the day earlier! I am still in some grief, but got two more cats, who are my family, but I still miss my other special cat, dearly. If you have great grief, you must go through it one day at a time, but please talk to us, when you feel up to it. If it is goodby to cding, you are accepted here alway, either way. Lucille
What ever it is Holly, were here when you need to talk.:hugs:
Holly,
My sympathy and condolences :hugs: on your loss, whatever its nature. You obviously need to absorb what's been happening, and that takes time.....you know best how you cope with these things, whether that be seeking a personal friend nearby to talk with, a counsellor...religious guidance....or sharing with your friends and "family" here....or all of those at different moments. But. as you realise I'm sure, you do need to talk.....then others can offer what help they can,
take your time, and look after yourself
:hugs:
Hi Holly, Sorry to hear the news.
I have the badge to this club to, however I have long since lost it over the years.
I Met the girl of my dreams when I was younger, told her about my dressing, she was cool with it, but threw it all in my face when I found out her and my best friend were having an affair (she was also up to her neck in trouble, so he was a get out) My life got tough, she was nasty, I got out, got away and made a new life for myself, spent seven wasted years doing nothing, and have nothing to show for it, I just did what I wanted to do, and went where the wind took me.
Seven years later, I'd done my own thing, recovered my pride, and decided to try again. I placed one advert in a lonely hearts, I got two replies from the ad first time I looked, first was a girl called mandy, (never left a number) the second was Raksha. We've never looked back, and I never rechecked the reply number again.
I thought my first wife was my sole mate, losing her was like losing an arm at the time, However Now I have Raksha, I know how blind I was, and how lucky I am. lossing her would be probably more than I could bare Shes my world,and stars, my rock, my lover, and my best friend. more so much more than the first ever was or ever could have been.
So just take your time, and think before you leap, you will not want to do thing you enjoy, and you'll blame yourself for things where there is no blame to cast, if you need to do crazy things, go do them, but don't regret them. but most of all, be true to yourself, and believe things will get better, because they do.
in my case, I regret most the wasted years, the ones wasted with my first wife, and the ones in the wilderness, finding myself again. however, had they not of happened, Raksha would not have been ready for me (she was still married then!), Nor was I ready for her. Our paths probably crossed many times before we were both married, and we both could (and do wish we had met then in later years) however out relationship is what we have through both having had a tough time, and therefore, but for our past lifes, we might not have what we have now.
I hope that make sence. thinks have a way of working out themselves.
I agree with Kimberly.........Quote:
Originally Posted by TxKimberly
A lot of people are making assumptions of what Holly is referring to. She obviously needed to post something to alert all of the fine members of this forum that she is suddenly in distress (but needs time to sort things through or whatever), but could not as of yet reveal what the problem is about. I'm sure that whenever she's ready to share/unload her burden with/on us, she will, and we will all continue giving her whatever support we can.
Holly,
When you're ready hun, we're here for you.
:love: & HUGE :hugs:
Alana
Holly sending you a pm:love:
Holly,
I hope it's not what I think it is but we're here for you as and when you're ready....just like you've always been there for us:love:
Has anyone heard from Holly? She hasn't posted on the thread since she posted it.
Holly, if you read this, please respond. Alot of us or worried.
Thanks for all of your concern. Everyone around me is alive and well. It's me. It's like Holly checked out and left no forwarding addrtess. I'm not particularly happy with what's left... don't think those around me will be either. Doesn't make any sense... been looking forward to retiring at the end of the year... loving wife and family... all you nice people... why did she leave? I don't get it.
She just went on a little vacation most probably, she'll be back you'll see :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Holly
but you're Holly?? Right?----so she is still with you when you want her---and I'm sure she will be back--Quote:
Originally Posted by Holly
That's the important part and I'm glad that nothing happened with/to any of them.Quote:
Originally Posted by Holly
As for why 'Holly' left, none of us that has our 'alter ego' leave quite knows the answer but one thing is for sure.......'She'll be back'.
:love:
More than most...you know it just doesn't happen that way.
Wax on...wax off! No way....
We'll be waiting, dear one...
Meanwhile, talk to those closest to you.....
:<3:
Holly, maybe she isn't gone, but just playing hide and seek with you, I lost the feeling, and grew a beard, for about 6 months, then all of a sudden Tina came back stronger than ever!
Plans to retire, and other pressures, could just be taking center stage just now. so don't fret, get on with other things, and sooner or later, Holly will be back!
Until then will be watching for your post, always love the advice you hand out, and we all need our unoffical Mom.
Tina B.
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Originally Posted by Holly
After reading your initial post that was my first thought. It happens sometimes but believe me, Holly will be back. Funny thing that you mentioned those around you won't like it, there have been short spells that I haven't dressed and after a few days my wife will ask if everything is okay. Usually it's because I've got too much on my mind with work or building something in my shop...nothing worse than sawdust down the cleavage....:heehee: You'll be fine!
:hugs:
That happened to me last year... for 4 or 5 months..... But I forced myself back into dressing again and it all came back.... :):):)