sounds like you need to move or u will be miserable
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sounds like you need to move or u will be miserable
I understand how you feel, Cary. I've been living in my current building for 13 years. It's a 6 unit building that was built in the early 1920's. The floors are creaky and the walls are kinda thin so you can hear conversations of people standing in the hallways. So that kind of makes me self-conscious about dressing up sometimes. And worse I live on the 3rd floor and I have to make sure I'm walking very quietly, especially in the evenings. And I make sure the entire floor is carpeted. I even put a temporary strip of carpet in the kitchen so I can walk in heels without disturbing anyone. Just hang in there and try to insulate yourself against the outside world (neighbors) as much as you can. And if someone knocks, I just call out: I'm not decent! Can you come back later? It actually works!
-Audrey
I completely understand how you feel and what you are going through. I think an apartment complex would be the toughest place for a closeted CD, like you and me. You are going to constantly worry about interruptions, who will knock on your door, etc....
Wherever there are people (and that is just about everywhere) there is going to be a fear. Who you are surrounded by does matter though. What type of crowd of people are at your apartment complex?
It's true what I read on this thread that you (well me too) have to develop a "I don't care" attitude, that of course will not happen after you read this, happen overnight, or even by next weekend and once you feel that way you have to work at maintaining it. I've developed that attitude after working at it a little while and that actually got me outside walking around the block past several people (I was jogging so no time to pay attention) but then quickly retreated inside for a couple days and asked myself what the heck did I just do this for?!
The more you do it, the less you care about those details, it becomes like a 2nd nature.
I'm in the military, and all the neigborhood is military. My car could be easily spot etc. A guy I spent 6 months in deployment with lives underneath me and I never got caught. You gotta develop some "ninja" skill XD
In the winter, it gets dark pretty early when I live so I normally sneak through the back entrance. Which makes me a night CDers. Wait for the bat signal, and jump off your balcony lmao
Live your life as you would like to. Be friendly and most people will be friends. Loosen up! I've lived in several areas of the country in and out of the military. While in the military, 60s, I lived off post. I didn't know how well one could see trough sheer curtains. One day the neighbor mentioned that they saw a lot of interesting things at my trailer. Her husband was a career soldier and could have reported it, but I had always been friendly and helped them any time they asked. I'm sure they were not the only one that knew. I left the service when my enlistment was up.
Over the years, I've been discovered, outed, or whatever. I haven't lost any friends because of it that I know of. Very few embarrassing moments and some very interesting conversations.
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Originally Posted by Tyler_D
Now is a great time to buy a house. Make sure to get one where you can get out the front or back door without being seen. :D
I can't afford to buy a house at this time and I just resigned my lease a few months ago, so I'm here untill next year.Quote:
Originally Posted by Melinda G
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Originally Posted by Tyler_D
Hi Tyler, i am also from Halifax and in the Military my email address is
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send me an email if you would like to chat
Moving is often easier said than done but it is an option. It is a hassle to have to move everything and look for a new place. You often spend money in the process. I also believe that you have the right to your privacy and to do what you want in your dwelling and you should not have to leave just because some other people don't like you. My advice is to be very assertive with your neighbors and the landlord. You have the right to be left alone. Your laundry is a personal thing. Nobody has the right to touch it. Same with the garbage you throw out. Messing with other people's stuff is against the law in most states. A landlord entering someone's apartment without prior notice and for good reason is also illegal in many states as well. You may wish to put a "do not disturb" sign on your door. You may also want to tell your neighbors in a polite way that you appreciate their help but you prefer that they not help you with your laundry/mail/groceries. If they get worse you have the right to get demanding and order them to leave your stuff alone and threaten to take legal action if it continues. Sorry about your troubles and I wish you good luck.
I made a few do not disturb signs, that I put on my door and in my front window when I want to be left alone. I also had a talk with them and for now they have gotton the message. The knocking has stopped. They have my phone number and wil only call for emergencies. My garbage is untouched. I still shred most things for extra measure. I go to the laundrymat in the wee hours of the morning and I dress in femme almost every day. Life is good!:) Now if I had more closet space!:o
Just walk out fully dressed. As others are saying, either they'll accept you for being you, or they'll whip out a crucifix at you, and hang garlic around their doors.:)
Would it be the end of the world if thay know you dress It would make you life easyer. And maybe more interesting.:hugs:
Angie
These people's mouths are like trying to hold back the tide with a sceen door. Everthing leaks through. I don't care what they think, but it would get back to my family. I don't need that kind of hell at this time.Quote:
Originally Posted by Angie G
If things go on as they were, simply start fake sneezing when you seem them coming and mutter so that they can hear "I can't stop sneezing since my little trip to Mexico!" They'll soon have the fear and won't come near you! :D