Crossdressers & Bi-women

Even before I figured out I was a CDer, and even before I figured out a name for my sexual orientation, I figured out I was TG attracted. Coming to terms with that, and going with that is the best feeling in the world.
Knowing you have a greatly increased chance of getting any TG person you have your eyes and heart set on is just awesome and does wonders for your confidence. The chances are increased due to the lack of out TG attracted people.

I still don't know my sexual orientation, but I do know it's the closest thing to bisexual. Before I was with Batty (Lol - cutie! xD +waves back+) I was dating, and even engaged to, a transsexual woman.

As a side note, since I am an out TG attracted person, I like to take on my responsibility to tell people who ask if I am gay or bi or what, that I prefer trans-folk. I then answer the corresponding onslaught of questions as honestly as I can, and educate people about transpeople. It's an awesome feeling when people nod in understanding, and tell you they haven't got a problem with crossdressers. (Sometimes they sugar coat it as not to offend you, because you've just told them you love TG people - but the underlying willingness to accept is there)

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EDIT: Some evidence to suggest that honesty is the best policy is the fact that, you don't really know who you're talking to. It could be a future boss, long lost family member or more likely a fellow transperson. I say this because, at my old job when I was so out about being TG attracted I realised later I was talking to a fellow CDer when she came out to me, and so far has only had the courage to come out to only me as she knew I was already accepting. This would've been last year, and still today I help her come to terms with the struggle she goes through and she's made phenomenal progress.

Honesty is always best! It's truly rewarding to know how helpful you are and can be, from simply BEING YOU and also admitting who you are. ^_^

hun if you had placed an ad starting you were/are looking for a BI female I would/would have walked on by .............. I consider myself a hetro female, and have never been interested in being in a relationship with another female at all ever. I am not only accepting but actively encouraging .. Debs may transition to some degree or fully in the future, either way does not matter, you see it is the person I love, not the gender or the sexual orientation :)

Acceptance comes from all sorts of people in all walks of life, I don't think Bi peeps are any more or less accepting as any other group :straightface:

Way to go Sheila. I think that's a very kind and true message to spread, that it's the person we love and not the clothing or gender! ^_^

I have to agree that you can't really expect bisexual people to be more accepting of something than people of other sexual orientations, because they're just people too with their own ideals and objections to things.

Ms Mira,

This is just a suggestion, but why not let the other person get to know YOU as a person before you mention your crossdressing. I mean, there is a whole lot more to you than just that, right? ;-) Well, show her that. But yes, I'd agree with others and do bring it up early on, absolutely! But perhaps wait a few dates and let her know that there is more to you than just your cd side.

Oh and you'll find people into BDSM or other kinky activities tend to be pretty open-minded as well.

Queen of Hearts

Bi women are just as likely (or unlikely) to be attracted to C/Ders. All women no matter their sexual orientation are different. I know my G/F is bi and she does not approve of my C/Ding. She has said that if she wanted to be with a woman, she would be. She preffers me to be a manly man. Bottom line: it all depends on the individual.

The bisexual women that I've met so far have all been attracted to feminine women and masculine men. While I'm sure there are a few out there that don't fit that stereotype, it seems they are just as rare as straight women who are sexually attracted to crossdressers. Very, very few indeed.

Just be honest about what you are when you contact them. Otherwise you'll most likely be wasting your, and their time.

That's been my experience so far, anyway.

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Originally Posted by Engendered

Most of the girls I've dated have admitted to being bisexual, and in my circles people tend to know about my female side before they know almost anything else about me. So, I always took it as a given that the CD/BI matchup was the most workable one, as these were the girls who drifted towards me.
(This is how I date. I wait for people to drift and I snag them in my net) :)

I'm not saying relationships can't work with straight girls. Obviously we have plenty of examples that they really can, but I do think things are more "likely" to work if your partner is Bi. It's more likely that they'll be encouraging, rather than tolerating, and you can more easily see that they're getting something from your CDing as well as you.

:hugs: to all the straight SOs here. My "likely"s and "easily"s may offend.

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I will have to agree with Engendered on this, in fact i always make it a point to discuss the past sexual history of my girlfriends and they always confess to having a mild attraction for one or two of their female friends.

I always ask them why they like me their replies are always centered on how sensitive, considerate i am towards them and almost all of them tell me they never like manly-men they prefer guys that are "smooth" or pretty or a bit femme.

Most of them tend to like alot of my femme attributes.

Yes you stand a better chance with bi-women.

Don't buy this crud about not telling a GG you are a CD till a few dates into the process. Be up front and honest from the get go! You can find a GG they are out there for sure. I have a good number of Tgirl friends here in Atlanta and they have GFs or wives. GGs into us are a very small minority...but hey we are rare too!

From what I observe the ones that really do well are the GG/Tgirl partners that met and knew from the get go what da score was!

Look around on the net and don't give up on the clubbing scene. Thats where I met the GG I dated for a while. She saw me from the get go out at the clubs enfemme. By the way for what it is worth she was straight. Really not into GGs but she luved Tgirls. So don't get too hung up on the bi issue.

One more thing, its going to be long odds meeting a GG at the gay clubs where Tgirls normally go, but not impossible. Try also alternative scenes, goth clubs, bondage parties and hey even things like Dragon Con. You are in a big cool town you should come up with someone special.

Good luck.