For me my turning point was about 4 years ago when I told my wife about my desires to dress in womens clothes. Of course this was a dificult time in our marriage. And certainly not the best tiem to tell her this. Her father had recently been diagnosed with cancer. VERY poor timing on my part. But we did get thru it. And for the most oart she accepts this side of me. So This was a major turning point for me.