IMO, SRS isn't something one questions. Those among us who need to go through it will, and those who don't need to probably shouldn't. I think I would have a long talk with my wife and find out what she is thinking. Then I would tell her how I feel. This is not a small issue and should not be trivialized by any means.
She may think it is what you want. If she truly loves your male bits then why would she want you to remove them? I am at a loss to understand your situation.
Maybe HRT is what she really wants, but again, this is not a small matter. Good luck to you both.
