The lady should have given you a chance I think.
See Christina, alright we have spoke a few times and you are really easy to get along with.
Problem with some GG's though is they are cool with our TG'ness one minute but quickly change their minds. Not all are like that but some are.
congrats yall both did the right thing ....if she could not handle you being a CD it was never gonna work out any way ....
oh well
Joann
I agree with the above comments - turning up dressed on your first date is too much. It is great to be honest and tell her upfront about being a CD but you should wait for her to meet you first en drab and then wait for her to tell you she would be comfortable seeing you dressed.
You need to arrest any fears she has that you might be a wierdo and best to make an emotional connection before taking things further. After all taking a picture of you dressed would have been more than sufficient for your first date if she was genuinely interested in your dressing.
Thanks all you for your kind worlds and ample advice. Next time I will meet the next girl in ( sigh ) drab!!! One day I will meet someone one day. I hope.
I'm not sure what to think.
On the one hand, maybe you did throw too much at her at once.
But on the other hand, if she has a problem with your crossdressing, it's better you know from the start, and good riddance.
You're an awesome person and I hope you will find someone who can appreciate you soon. :love:
I'm sorry for your disappointment, and I agree that meeting in drab might be a better first date if that's what she wanted...but...
Her words about your costume and acting don't sound like the words I'd want to hear. This isn't an act by all of us and it seems to me that she really didn't get it.
Maybe this was a good thing after all!!
tina
Well, there probably are women who will be willing to meet you in femme mode. Like I said though, you were really overloading her with the CDing stuff for a first date. She probably started to feel like that's all you're about.Quote:
Originally Posted by Christina Horton
I really hate this sentiment that some responders have had that her not wanting to meet you in drag would mean that she doesn't tolerate CDing. The girl I'm dating now didn't see me dressed at first, even though I'm out, and she has been amazingly supportive and encouraging and even playful with it, but she said that had I arrived for our first date in a skirt it probably wouldn't have been well received.
Remember that a first date is an emotional roller coaster time for both parties, there's a lot of pressures and expectations and nerves in there. You have to both do what you can to be comfortable. Consider this, instead of it just being that you are resigned to dressing in drab for all first dates, think of telling the next women something to the effect of, hey so I do this, and I think if I dress up for our date, I'll be more comfortable and relaxed and you'll actually be able to get to know me better, but i want you to be comfortable too, so if you'd prefer I come in male mode, I'll do that... Or something that basically makes it clear to her that her needs are important to you.
I was going to add that there are plenty of women who would be supportive of a CDing partner but don't know it themselves because they have never (knowing) dated one. Due to society's ignorance and misinformation, the first instinct of most women would be to decline the idea. Even many of the most accepting GGs here on this forum admit that previous to meeting their partners they would have turned down such a date.
So if your objective is to gain a long term partner, your chances of success increase dramatically not just be turning up en drab on the first date but also by not advertising your behavior at all. Wait for a few dates to pass and if you think the relationship may be heading somewhere then tell her. She needs to be interested in you to make her want to learn about it.