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The gender lines of clothes are one of those rules I love to break. I often go about as a man in womens clothes. If iI like the look or am in the mood to just throw on a dress or skirt I do it. Sometimes I have on every thing male but feel the need to wear heels. We all have our different levels of desires at different times. I see nothing wrong with self expression.
I was with my Uncle a couple of weeks ago and he was saying that all of his Fem clothes were all outdated. My simple reply to him was. "It doesn't matter, It is what you feel most comfortable in" and I believe that apply to the whole package. If you want to just throw on a dress and the make you feel comfortable, then go for it.
Personally I have done just that for a long time. I now have a wig that needs styling and trimming. but once that is done, I will bet that I have it on most of the time.
Hi.
An other way to look at this is through my eyes . i m androgyn & i can see both parts to this .
For some of you , you are born totaly male & like the femm side, may be dressed to the nines . some just the clothes & not out in public . others still have that bearing of the male when out so as said dont pass , then others who need to go all out & be female .with s r s & all . or like our lady boys over in thailand . some & i would have to say its just wearing some clothes as said yet not look in any way female ,
we are all different . & even how we think . i have no problems as i have said i accept each one on the basis of being different .
For me i have both views & can see & know what its like from both sides , when you are in the middle & you know you cant be one or the other you , ether accept your self or you hate your self .
i accepted my self at 10 , 52 years ago . & i can live as to who i am, i am living as a woman & am accepted as one theres no pretence , i m not trying to be some thing that i m not .
Okay it may have been nice to have more female looks , its not going to happen , so its not a worry or concern as i said i dont have the looks ,
so what do i have is other attrbutes that come from inside of my self & that makes up for my other loses , thats how i get around my details , & allso how we are wired is a part of who we are ,
Basicly its self acceptance confidence & just getting on with our lifes & be who we are ,
I do . oh yes i still dought my self in many things & yes i have my down days . its just not all the time , So for me its that acceptance in our womens groups out & about & have a good time ,
...noeleena...
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Hi Jason,Quote:
Originally Posted by Jason+
There is no crime in what you are doing at all. The cross-dressing community covers a wide range of needs, motivations and expressions.
I have been out as a "man in a dress" and have even had some supportive comments from Genetic Girls whilst I have done that. My personal situation has moved on from there,but that is not to say that yours should or will.
If any of us here on cd.com have been less than accepting of you and of how you express yourself, then it is shame on us not on you. We, more than most, should know how to accept the other members of our community whoever they are.
If you are happy being a man wearing a dress, then that is what you should do and what we should support you to do.
Thank you for starting this thread and also for letting us see the photos.
Jason,
Obviously, I'm not against the idea of men wearing skirts and dresses as men, however since you are asking honestly about your look, I have to admit that even though it is of a similar philosophy to mine, i'm not a fan of it.
It's not the fact that you're wearing dresses and skirts a man that I don't like, it's that from an aesthetic standpoint I don't think the items you're wearing are flattering to your body. Skirted garments can look great on men and there are lots of historical examples to back that up, but many of the clothes made today for women are designed to highlight and play up the female shape in a way that looks odd on the male body. For folks that dress en femme, there are forms and padding to help adjust for this, but if you're trying to present as male, it can look awkward and bulky.
I struggled with this for a long time, and still have to do a lot of work to put together good looking "man in skirt" outfits, though I think I've been fairly successful with it. I've yet to really cross that bridge with dresses though. Typically women's tops and dresses don't work with my shoulders and lack of breasts. I found a shirt dress ad old navy last fall that almost worked but just didn't quite get there.
[SIZE="3"]If it feels good, Do it !
With me however, it is a case of "can't stand to wear male clothes anymore". Whether or not I am moustached at a given time, I stay mostly in dresses, skirts, lingerie, or obviously femme blouses at home with wig and usually eye makeup. But I am sort of a perfectionist, so I cannot stand to go out in public while moustached in those clothes and makeup (except for just cruising around at night or going to a drive-up ATM). Therefore I have to wear androgynous female clothes at those times. I still have two hurdles to get over with my wife; my right to keep my face clean-shaven at all times, and my right to go out fully dressed and made up as Michelle (in a remote city of course) whenever I want to. As to whether I will be successful in this, only time will tell ![/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]The line (or boundary) is that you, I assume, are a law-abiding citizen? Since you are here, you must have something positive to contribute. If you were stealing panties, flashing, or robbing banks (in drag), you wouldn’t have time for much else, would you? :heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Jason+
As far as being a hairy man in a dress is concerned, join the club. :eek: You use what you have and do what you can with it for the purposes of personal happiness (to each his or her own). I really don’t look too closely at my appearance, since I rarely come in contact with others. I’m only in competition with myself, you know! It’s enough for me to look down at my skirt, hosiery, and cute little shoes, all the while feeling the gentle hug of my femme undergarments. From what I feel and how I feel, I can fantasize about how I look and be happy, regardless of how I actually look…
Society expects weirdo transvestites, but look around -- you're among an iconoclastic group...:) [/SIZE]
Ill be simple and sweet. if it feel's right to you,then it's right. I think as long as your happy with your look then the girl's here will be happy for you :battingeyelashes:
For convincing, I'll let you judge the magic photoshop and daily makeover came up with. The one on the left is prettier but the one on the right is really me. I do my best to understand other points to better understand my own.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kaitlyn Michele
If I liked forms it's true a lot of my clothes would fit better. It's one of things that stops me from buying clothes from crossdresser.com, their fashions are cut for men but made to accommodate at least a C cup. I share the same problem with shoulders, and for the rest of the body like me it's a work in progress. :D At the risk of throwing my own thread off topic there is a sampling of skirts too.Quote:
Originally Posted by JiveTurkeyOnRye
Hey Jason, it's a sailor thing you know, what ever makes your boat float.
I will admit, as a teenager there was a time I might have stolen a pantie or two, but I have never robbed a bank, and although I love a great little mini, I don't even take pictures in my undies, much less flash anyone.
I do go all out most days, makeup, wig, and prostheses. but sometimes it too much effort, and I find I can be just as happy throwing on a skirt and tee. What ever helps make the day a little brighter, can be good enough. With your background I would say just don't over think it, enjoy!
Tina
In all of this cold weather would a flasher really wear a mini? Seems like the shrinkage would make the whole thing anticlimactic.
I have a beard and mustache look like a man walk, talk like a man could in no way look like a woman and yet I love dressing up "For Me" I love my girl things. If it don't hurt any one go for it.
Oh yes I have long blond hair that most girls would kill for. Don't need a wig.
My girl friend loves every part of me to:hugs: