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4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
not applicable as i live alone.
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
I dont think my feeling change they always have been softer than most males.
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
the answear to that is yes I never had complants.
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Originally Posted by Di
[I]I think I look at women in a different light than a typical man. [ at least the ones I know] I look at the whole person, and yes I love women! I don't see myself objectifying them in any way. I tend to walk away from that kind of banter from guys... [ Hey! would ya do her?] stuff like that.
I have several women on the block coming over for wine etc. to get my take on different things in their lives...they see me as one of the girls..at least i hope so[/I].:battingeyelashes:
Di, Thanks for making me think.:hugs:
4. I'd like to think so.
5. I can, and I do express my feelings, regardless of how I'm dressed.
6. I'm attracted to women like any heterosexual male, CDer or not.
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
I don't have an SO, but I think I'm above average at listening and remembering what women say. It's been my experience that women really don't give men much credit for this. When I try to accomodate them, they just demand more.
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
I think I could, I just don't get many opportunities. Male life is about confrontation, competition, and bravado.
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
I don't think so. With my buddies, it's always about T and A (mostly T). For me, a well dressed woman is much sexier than a naked one. Maybe because I grew up with Sear's catalogs? I don't know. I've always admired women for their completeness. "Something in the way she moves" is how George Harrison once put it.
Absolutely yes! Everyone needs a sounding board - a best friend - someone who really cares - a guardian of hope - a person who will stand by them with unconditional love and support.Quote:
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
To the opposite, I don't feel that way at all.Quote:
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
I going to presume how the universe of non-CD males would be and say yes.Quote:
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
Babette
I listen all the time, don't know if I hear all the time.
In my male upbringing, was taught to be tough (which I'm not). Boys don't cry sort of thing. When my fem side gets loose, the relief of being able to express my feelings, is a pleasant escape from "malehood". After a lot of years, this (expressing my feelings) is spilling over into my male side and I like it.
Been a CD as long as I can remember, but yes I love women, especially my wife. Look at women more now, thinking, "wish I could wear what she's wearing". Sexually, my wife of 44 years, is the only woman I'm interested in.
Yes I do Although she wont always agree I'm listeningQuote:
Originally Posted by Di
I do express these qualities most of the time but not always It can depend on who is involved in the situationQuote:
Originally Posted by Di
Yes, and beautiful women come in all shapes and sizesQuote:
Originally Posted by Di
4
I assume you mean it towards the dressing in which case it does not really apply to me as she has no worries or concerns.
5
It makes no difference in which way i am dressed just that when dressed i would be doing more relaxing things so would have more time to show it .
6
Difficult to answer as i have always been this way so would not know how to judge that but i would be inclined to say yes. But (always that but) there are times when i wonder if it is always the female or the desire to be the female that turns me on .
I don`t think that i have been entirely honest with my answer and it is bugging me , the desire to be that female far out weighs any other thought:sad:
Week 2
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
Yes 100% but wether i act upon it is anouther mater
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
I do express my softer side to wife all the time and she says i am dead sloppy
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
Easy one this 200% PURE HETRO ,and if GOD made anything better he's keeping it to himself
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4. That is a hard question after 32 years I think I do. However I'm still not sure we r on the same page 100%.
5. I do feel I can express my fem traits when in male mode. I don't see how you can't.
6. Yes I am, However I do look at all women some just attracted to what cloths-make up-shoes--Hair they wear and how they wear them.
4. Again, no SO.
5. I can, so there's no conflict there.
6. How exactly can we ever know how another person feels when getting turned on? I don't think there's any accurate way to answer that question.
4- Yes I do listen to my SO and I address all of her concerns and worries with honest and complete answers to the best of my ability.Quote:
Originally Posted by Di
5- I do express the same softer feelings whether I'm cross-dressed or not , it's who I am.
6- I believe I am , but I never asked a non-CD male that question.
Tomara
1. Yes
2. I can
3. Yes
Tina B.
4. Yes, in fact we have a written agreement that outlines the boundaries of my activities as Diana. It covers how often I dress, the seasons I dress ( I don't dress during the summer), and a couple other things. I never cross these boundaries. We have had it for several years and it works well.
5. I work hard at listening to her concerns and worries. Her major worry is the neighbors. I also do a lot around the house to help keep things running smoothly.
6. I have always been attracted to women and I don't think my dressing affects it.
Diana
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
Question 5 is easy. As a male child you were always taught to be rough and rugged and not show signs of weakness. Usually when males show softer feelings, we are viewed as weak or gay....No straight male wants that rumor going around about him, even though he does where dresses secretly.
Question 6: I dont think i'm turned on exactly the same way as non cd males. Non cd males do not admire the woman as a whole. As a cd, I admire everything about the woman, not just her physique. I notice how her clothes are put together, her makeup, and the way carries herself.
re week 2
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
Yes we speak often
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
Often I can express my feelings I just sometimes feel as if they are not the only way to communicate or necessarily the only best way to communiucate
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
I am a cross dresser and I find women sexually attractive so yes
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
If I had an SO, I would certainly want to listen to her concerns actively and try to work through them with her.
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
My old self has a reputation for empathy, sensitivity and consideration, he gets it from me. "In male mode", I am more likely to be treated like a big brother come confidant than a potential mate because of this.
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
Even when I was fighting my true nature, I was rarely "turned on sexually" by a woman. I was much more likely to want to get to know her and become a trusted friend. Now, I am just as likely to want to know where she got her outfits.
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
When she was alive, I would listen and try to ease the concerns. But if you would be able to ask her, she would probably say that the male side did not listen most of the time. I tried but did not always connect correctly.
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
Since I have retired from a very "male dominated" career where softer feels would get you hurt or killed, I have been able to express my softer feelings. It has been hard to let go of the macho side but boy when I do I feel much better.
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
Since I am not a non-CD male I dont know, I look at women and see the clothing, the hair, the way she presents herself, I am not looking at a sex object but a person.
#4 Yes we talk about everyday situations and discuss how to solve problems.
#5 It's easier doing it in a girl mode
#6 Yes. Girls always turn me on
Week 2
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
No SO. Not applicable.
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
Severe negative reaction by virtually all men and women. Simple as that.
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
Probably not, although I do suspect that I'm a straight TG, or at least bi (not as much into women). There's always been more of an envy than a raw animal attraction there. Maybe that's all it's always been.
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
This is not much of an issue in my home, since crossdressing is not an issue that we really ever talk about. I'm sure she has wrestled with some of these issues, but I keep my femme side pretty much under wraps, and rarely go out anywhere. Out of respect for her, I try very hard to be careful with my cross-gender activities.
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
Likely this is due to my programming from growing up in an America that virtually prohibits men from acting outside the macho box that has been constructed around the accepted male behavior pattern in Western society. Subliminally, we fear that other men will see us as inferior, effeminate, limp-wristed, gay, and subject to ridicule. It's a shame.
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
It's difficult to have a frame of reference, since I've never known what it's like to be a non-CD male. However, I'll say this: I am attracted sexually to women in the same way that any normal heterosexual male is. But in addition to that, I also notice, am attracted to, and am more positively sensitive to things like her appearance, her clothing choices, her makeup, her hair, her jewelry, etc. I have a greater empathy for her as a feminine being than do most men, and I feel this gives me an even greater appreciation of her as a woman.
4 yes
5 I can easily express my softer emotions no matter what I am wearing
6 Yes I adore women, I think I probably have a better understanding of them than non-cders
4) Do you really listen to your SO when she tells you about her concerns/worries?
Absolutely. Though having been trained as a male to try to "fix" everything, I have to make a conscious effort to shut up and just listen.
5) Why do you feel you cannot express your softer feelings (empathy, nurture, sensitivity) in male mode?
I can express those feelings in male mode, though it's hard as it goes against my cultural upbringing as a male in the American South. In some circles, primarily at work, it is socially risky to express softer feelings as these are not considered "manly" by some and are ridiculed by the more insecure males. It is somewhat easier to express those things in female mode, but that's not the reason I crossdress.
6) Are you turned on sexually by women in the same way that a non-CD male is?
Never having been a non-CD male, I don't know. I'm not sure there is a "normal" way to be turned on. I'm attracted to/by particular women, not all women. In other words, I have my criteria for what I find sexually attractive, just like anyone else.
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Originally Posted by Di
4) Yes I do. I may not always reach the same conclusion that she does, but I am pretty satisfied that she knows that I am listening to what she has to say.
5) I think I can express my softer feelings no matter how I am presenting. Yes, of course I have acted macho at points when in male mode, but that doesn't mean that access to the gentler emotions only comes while dressed. My most emotional moments with my wife have been all while I was in male mode.
6) Not living inside another person's head, I can't answer that with 100% confidence, but I would think so - I am definitely very physically and sexually attracted to any good-looking women (who can come in many shapes and sizes). And if she's wearing attractive clothing, so much the better. :)
Whatever that means!:brolleyes:
4. No SO.
5. I'm always the same, no matter how I'm dressed. I WISH I felt and acted more fem when dressed, but I don't!
6. THIS ONE I GOT!:devil:
After all, I was a non-CD male for over 50 years!:eek: I'm probably MORE turned on by the finer aspects of a GG's look now, than I was back when.
( Glad u didn't ask about "performance", tho!):o