The real you?

That's a great question. I do feel that I would be pretty much the same. The way I am as a person (in a general sense) is very much the same in my boy mode and my girl mode, which doesn't mean I'm a "total guy in a dress" more the opposite (according to my wife) I am quite girly in my boy mode, the only difference apart from my clothes is my mannerisms and voice are somewhat more emphasized when dressed.

I'm very careful to present as a normal genetic male whenever in public. When in private or with a female friend, I do let myself relax a bit and let the girl feelings come out a bit, but nothing blatant, no voice or gait changes. They do notice the change, though it's mostly in discussion manners and what we talk about; I've tried very hard to avoid stereotypical male mode problem solving discussion patterns when talking with women, and try to listen without picking apart what they say.

I think I would be the very similar if I was a GG. I've been told numerous times that I'm quite feminine. It comes out naturally and automatically. I think I allow my feminine side to surface significantly more when en femme. Recently I'm finding more of my feminine traits to be invading my male side. Some of my feminine mannerisms, body language and vocal inflections are starting to show up more frequently when I'm in male mode. I also on occasion have to stop myself while in male mode from complimenting a woman, who is a stranger, about her shoes, dress or some other aspect of herself. This is something I do in girl mode, but it would often be taken the wrong way if in boy mode.

I consider both my female and male sides to be the real me. They are just different parts of the real me. I merely adjust which side predominates depending on the gender I'm presenting.

I don't know what it would be like to be a "real woman," but I do feel that the "real me" shines through when I'm dressed as a woman. I think I'm the same person when I'm dressed or not. I definitely feel that being a cd/tv is part of who I am. I haven't been out around a lot of people so I don't know how I would act, but I would definitely have to be a lot more confident and maybe more witty! :)

Hello Denise!
I believe that I'm the same personality and exude that same traits no matter how I'm dressed. The only difference is the voice and mannerisms.

As others here have said, I'm am who I am no matter what I'm wearing. I think that when I wear girl clothes I may present a more honest, accurate representation of my "self" because I tend to leave most of my insecurities and hang-ups in my pants.

The "pressure"is on [in my male world] to "get it done"...or succeed at the task,etc and "bring home the bacon". There is no time or place to"fix your face",do your hair,get pampered at the spa,or ask a male to fetch you something you could easily do for yourself. So,it is the power of the pussycat that I crave and the trappings that go with it that I crave and want a little piece of in my public adventures as Rogina.Just to be able to take things slower and be concerned with the trivial is a rest from my male world.I only wish I had been born a trophy wife with a working slave for a husband..lol

Veeery Intataresting queeeztion my dear. (Said with a Fruedian accent and a raised brow)


Am I exactly who I would have been had I been born a woman. No way. I have had way too many life experiences, some I wouldn't give up for anything, as a male. Those life experiences are bound to shape my personality. On the other hand I missed out on so many female life experiences that would have also shaped my personality. Things like getting asked to the prom, joining a sorority, bearing a child, getting passed over at a job for a man are all bound to shape who you are.

We also have the issues of the personality dimension brought on by different hormones. Lets face it I would probably be a lot more mellow and would have probably made some more rational decisions in my life if I didn't have so much testosterone coursing through my veins.


I do believe that my basic personality shines through no matter what gender I am. I am a high maintenance, smarty pants that loves to laugh and hates conflict. I believe I would have been the same in that respect no matter what anatomy I was born with.

If I were a genetic female, I think I may have a slightly toned down personality, since I wouldn't feel the need to be making up for a thirty year deficit. Overall though, pretty much the same, still as rough around the edges as I am now. I may carry alot less of the need for self-reliance than I do now, which would be a good thing for me. I hope I would have felt as though I "fit in" in more arena's of life, and would have allowed myself to be attached to more people.

You know, as I start to really pick at it, I would have been completely different! I put so much effort in my life twoards hiding this secret, and keeping people at an arms length. Once all of that was lifted from my shoulders and erased from my past, I can't really discern who I would be! I spent so much time seeking distraction, in opposition to dealing with myself, that those times shaped who I am now more than anything. Take all that away, and who knows!?:eek:

Both sides of the fence, I like colors, and like to wear flamboyant shoes. As a GG, I'd just have much more reason to have more than the one pair I do as male. My closet would certainly be roomier, not having to support two people.:D

What a trip it has been, joy, pain, emotional death and rebirth! Emotions from earth to the moon and back, when I set out on transition I had no clue but yearning to be who I always felt deep inside but could never present or embrace. Now with everyone knowing and no longer in hiding my real psyche is finally surfacing. Amazing to see is the lack of want to pretty dress. In fact lack of even putting on anything feminine, it just doesn't matter! I am me, feminine in its own right wearing mans jeans and tshirt or pjs. I am a woman in making from within encompassing my entire being. I though enjoyed feminine attire and presenting as such but now the need has penetrated much deeper, I no longer feel a woman just at the outer layer but must uncover this little girl beneath the rubble of what once was. I know for the fact that the closer she appears the less of importance cloth shall bear. As I have learned as well that acting feminine is also acquired as well as acting male is. Some characteristics are helped by skeletal differentiation and ligament elasticity but over all we mimic our pears, family and strangers whom we associate as same sex while in developmental stages of our life. I believe have I been born in the proper body I would have been just the same, shy, introvert, submissive, sensual, loving and eager to please.

I am basically the same person either dressed or not.

I am a good listener, or so I have been told.
Excellent problem solver.
etc.

Part of this, I think is that I do not see my self as guy mode vs girl mode.
I am me, and sometimes, I wear girly clothes some times I don't.

There was, however a time when this was not the case.
I had me mode, and then this other rather embarrassing thing I did.

I am happier not that I have integrated the two and come to terms with who I am.

Does that make sense?