Was told it was wrong, wrong, wrong...

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Originally Posted by Barbara Ella

Don't know the age of the kid, but he definitely doesn't appear to be mature enough to appropriately interact with adults. Sorry he was there for you. I agree, typically young children are non judgemental. I have a feeling the adults in his life have expressed views similar to what he espoused, but they kept quiet. Hope you can get back to your usual salon.

Barbara

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I agree completely with you Barbara.... the child was mearly showing the real feelings of his mother

At eight I'd say the child probably is building his viewpoint of how life should be. His behavior was not appropriate for the workplace. But, he's eight. He needs some direction in expressing his opinion. He needs some instruction on accepting others for who they are. My daughter when she was very young saw a bus driver with long hair. He was truly a man's man with a pony tail and a beard. She just could not understand why a male had a pony tail. The hair style was for a female. She never heard any family discussion concerning hair length/style or anything about gender specific attire, etc. My daughter turned out fine, and, is a staunch supporter of self expression.

I'd just take my business elsewhere, where I had been accepted previously.

Maybe the boy has some fillings that he don't under stand and that's why he over reacted.

Sorry you had to listen to that boy's rant, Kali.

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Originally Posted by *Vanessa*

Just read something on another site this evening;

Prejudice is not inherent to our nature it is something we learn from others.

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This is exactly correct. The only question is who taught this boy about the contents of his little rant. It might be his peers, and it might be his parents.

I might have had something snappy to say to the kid about driving away paying customers from his mother, and in a voice loud enough his mother would be able to hear.

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Originally Posted by Ashley D.

Maybe the boy has some fillings that he don't under stand and that's why he over reacted.

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Fillings? How does his dental work figure into this?

I would've walked out and let them know I would let everyone I know to stay clear of that place!

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Originally Posted by Kali

At 6'4" and not slim, I tend to stand out. But people rarely seem to care.

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A certain percentage will care, but will not confront you due to your size. I work in a female dominated profession; one that is routinely made fun of, and I know this, because I used to be included when jokes about it were told. Since I became 'one of them', no one says anything. But I'm aware that they simply don't say anything around me. When you're bigger and stronger than 99% of the guys around you, and can clearly break them in half, they're not going to confront you openly. What gets said behind your back is something else altogether, because I used to hear it said about other people until I was one of them. Still, that doesn't mean I want to be 'out' and have to fight my way through life like the proverbial 'boy named Sue' just to prove that I'm not gay.

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Originally Posted by sometimes_miss

A certain percentage will care, but will not confront you due to your size. I work in a female dominated profession; one that is routinely made fun of, and I know this, because I used to be included when jokes about it were told. Since I became 'one of them', no one says anything. But I'm aware that they simply don't say anything around me. When you're bigger and stronger than 99% of the guys around you, and can clearly break them in half, they're not going to confront you openly. What gets said behind your back is something else altogether, because I used to hear it said about other people until I was one of them. Still, that doesn't mean I want to be 'out' and have to fight my way through life like the proverbial 'boy named Sue' just to prove that I'm not gay.

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I have zero concern about what strangers say behind my back, and I'm not sure why I should be concerned if they thought I was gay; that seems like a bit of a nonsequitur. I just expect people to treat me with the respect that they themselves would wish to be treated.

Group mentality is one thing, individuals are another.

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Originally Posted by Kali

I have zero concern about what strangers say behind my back, and I'm not sure why I should be concerned if they thought I was gay; that seems like a bit of a nonsequitur. I just expect people to treat me with the respect that they themselves would wish to be treated.

Group mentality is one thing, individuals are another.

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EXACTLY,,, Hell let um talk about ME,,,, Then there leaving some one else alone that might be worried about what dummys think . BOO,,,, Ill make ya FAMOUS !!

It seems you handled it well. He was the one who made a scene and he'll have to deal with the consequences.

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Originally Posted by Kali

I stopped at a nail place I don't normally use to get a fill today. While the teenager who was removing the old polish from my nails did his thing, his little brother started asking me questions about why I looked the way I did. He was clearly confused and while I do my best to blend in, up close I am what I am.

He eventually figured out that I was a man and decided he needed to yell that. Then he started stomping around yelling "that's so wrong" over and over. His brother, and I presume his mother, eventually stopped him, but it was a strange experience.

His mother rushed through getting my nails done and did an OK job. I figured there really wasnt any point in complaining about his behavior; his whole family knew it was innappropriate and eventually dealt with him. The little kid was maning the register when I paid and wouldn't make eye contact; I have a feeling he wont have a positive view of the CD/TG community anytime soon.

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I would have paid maybe three dollars for the removal of the old nail polish, called the boy's mother over, and said,"I am walking out of this place, I'll never come back, and I will tell my friends to avoid your place of business."

You don't allow relatives to treat customers like that.

John

Ok i'm the newbie here, but in England it goes like this- the child needs a swift cuff around the ear, it will discourage him for next time, also lets all concerned know that we might be "different" but we don't take no s-it from no-one!

Next time get up on the spot and walk out the door. Say to the tech, hey I don't need this so I will leave.
Its too bad its not like growing up in the 70's, when you acted up and didn't quit making a scene, out came a belt or an orange Hot Wheel track and that was that.

Most of us were taught that it is wrong, and as kids, we zealously defend that. I agree with Doc, that most people even silently are uncomfortable or do not approve of it. We have to be like secret, or double agents, when in public.Most religion says it is wrng.

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Originally Posted by Kali

I have zero concern about what strangers say behind my back, and I'm not sure why I should be concerned if they thought I was gay; that seems like a bit of a nonsequitur. I just expect people to treat me with the respect that they themselves would wish to be treated. -----------------------------

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Respect? That's the LAST thing I expect out dressed, Kali! I'd be satisfied if they didn't belly laff and point rite in my face! Or would stop chasing me with pitchforks and torches! But then, I'm a little girl. So, no one is going to fear ME!