Originally Posted by almostalady
For me crossdressing was not more important than the marriage, that is why I kept it out of the marriage and didn't pursue it. My fear was if my spouse didn't accept it - and they wouldn't have - then if they knew the damage would be done even if I agreed to quit and never do it or speak of it again. The respect and the entire way she perceived of me would be forever shattered and the entire marriage would be changed forevermore. Unless there was some acceptance and no loss of respect the marriage would likely be doomed. My first marriage was over 20 years and my second was 8. Neither one had a clue and never will if I can help it.