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What happens tomorrow? You have a little fender bender, you going to quit driving? You stumble downstairs, you going to quit going downstairs? You find out Santa isn't real, you going to not have Christmas? (not saying Santa isn't real..just what if).
Do you see the lack of logic here? Did you really believe that you would never meet someone you knew? Especially if as you say you live is a small town. You are so willing to be miserable because something MIGHT happen. You went for support but yo are not willing to give support. You afraid of your stepson? The same guy whose best friend is TG, finding out?
OK so you join a new group and your uncle shows up one night....new group and your neighbor, new group and your pastor. When do you stop? Someone will find out someday but there is a way that will minimalise the damage you seem to expect ( I have never seen it happen but your mind has built it up so), Own it. It is YOU Own it, take charge, You have the ability to chose coming out before someone else does it to you, Proactive, not Reactive,
Or you could wuss out the rest of your life, worrying about something that won't happen or even if it does it won't be as bad as all the anxiety.
Your choice, hiding behind the cupboard while the rest of the mice feast. Isn't a support group supposed to build you up to accept your self? You don't accept yourself. Maybe not going back is a good thing since you don't seem to be getting any confidence, Maybe you just go fo the cookies. Yeahm better to go back into hiding that seems to work,
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Hello Melody, Interesting twist in what could be just a hum-drum existance. When I learn the secret CD-handshake, I will let everyone know so we can introduce ourselves to each other in private. Imagine where the writers of TV shows and books could do with this. Stay cool. I would like to say that I would try to talk to the guy/gal. You never know, you may become BFF's.
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Hi Melody.....
There is a lot of good advice here but you have to put yourself first.You need to live your life and protect it.This youing person needs suport and is going to the group and will get it regardless of where you fit in .You have everything to lose unless your considering coming out to your family.If you are than start with this young person and let the chips fall where they may but if you need to stay in the closet because of job or family or whatever tread carefully.A couple of beers between friends and loose lips start sharing secrets and your out .Sorry to be negative but it is what it is.
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I'm in the be careful, talk to your wife and then the leader of the group camp. I'm sorry that this happened and I hope that this will all work out for you!!
