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A lot of good advice here. Mayby reading "My Husband Betty" would be a start for you and THEN asking your fiance to read it as well. The intersting thing about the relationships I have been reading here, it seems that the ones who disclose first mostly thrive, the ones who don't disclose tend to end up on the 'rough road to break up' . The good thing is she is'nt running , and you are being honest. Keep talking and we will keep our finger crossed.
Well I hate to say this but your setting yourself up for failure. I tried so many time's when I was younger to fight the urge. It really doesn't go away, we are stuck with this forever, maybe time will be the answer and don't push the issue but don't drop the issue either. The relationship is going to go through a big test and if there's true love there it will get stronger, but I would be fair to her and tell her that she can sit on this as long as she wants and explain it is not just going to go away. I wish you the best and hope you keep us updated and hope it's all good news.
Is dressing part of your identity or is it just something you do once in a while? If this is really a big part of your life, you have some tough issues. If its something you like to do, but don't have to and can go months without it, you re more likely to find some common ground. It sounds like eveyrthing else in the relationship is good, just dressing causing issues, so you really need to examine what you really need.