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i'm close to going for it myself, but its going to be a straight off the diving board into the deep end moment if and when i do it,
i'm not interesting in wearing a pair of leggings under my jeans and building myself up, when i do it i'm going to get completely dolled up and look my best and just go for it.
Years ago when we were new to the area and between jobs we went to some used clothes stores and a few church sponsored clothing stores. I tried on some jeans and found several that fit really good so we bought them. A few weeks later someone said I was wearing womens jeans. We had no idea. They said the pocket design gave them away. We did not understand the USA sizing here with all these numbers, some meaning waist like 30s and then some like 14s, for example. Like others said, I also do not really think anyone would notice and if they did they most likely would not care.:) Amanda
Thankyou all for the wonderful advice. I'm going to give everything you said careful consideration, be myself, and just do it.
My advice to those who haven't gone out in public: meet those who have.
My first experience was a Tri Ess meeting almost 3 years ago, and I found myself in a hotel bar full of military people, the hotel was near a military base. Guess what? Nobody cares.
Hi Trysha,
Back again. Just went shopping and decided to take the advice from so many who responded to Trysha's post, and bought myself two pairs of women's jeans - one straight leg and one boot leg. The SA's (one male and one female) told me that I was looking at women's jeans. I said I know, and that I want to try them on. I know they were surprised at my response, but I told them that I had heard they were more comfortable than men's jeans and I wanted to see for myself. I took two pair which I believed were the right size (and they were), and went into the dressing room. Both fit perfectly, and I bought them. Now that that barrier has been broken, I will wash them and give them a try this week. Hopefully they won't shrink and hopefully my newfound courage won't shrink either. :) . So, here it goes - come Monday, I am walking out that door! As many of you said - it's a small step, but at least it is a first step in public.
Di
And oh, by the way, they're 'just jeans'.... :) Couldn't resist the pun.
Only my fiance knows I cross dress and never have went out dressed in public.. Expect for... Womens jeans heh. I over past year or so ended up just wearing female jeans exclusively. There is nothing that really makes them stand out big time but I am sure someone has took note somewhere along the lines that I was wearing womens jeans. I live in very small town conservative area and honestly not a soul has said anything to me about it or even acted remotely different to me.
I honestly don't think anyone notices since they are just jeans. I think you'll find you won't attract too much attention with them (like I said far as I know none for me thus far). Just wear em out I think you'll be surprised how little notice you get.
Hey Di and Trysha,
I'm also in the same boat! I recently went out for the first time but only wearing skinny black jeans and heels and my upper half was male. I went to my PO Box late at night (lobby open 24hrs) and no one was there.... until I was almost on my way out! A guy walked in and totally did a double take and my heart started racing. I felt so embarrassed but I just minded my business. I got my mail, and walked out. It was a rush but I just ignored him. I agree with everyone else.... just got to jump off the diving board! I did and it wasn't that bad. Now I can't wait to start tying going out fully dressed.
Valerie