There's all kinds of ways people see themselves, even among those who crossdress but don't transition or go full-time, Andrea. Some will do it strictly as a fetish, because it arouses them or gets them excited, and will keep it strictly at home, maybe even confined to the bedroom. Some enjoy the feel of the clothes and the way they look in them, but still see themselves as male throughout, and are just "emulating" women; this is where you are. Some see themselves as having a feminine side to themselves, and dressing expresses the woman they carry within themselves; this is where I believe I am. Some actually blend the categories, mixing male and female clothing, embellishments, and mannerisms as suits them (this category is sometimes called "genderqueer" or "genderfluid").
Your wife should keep all this in mind when reading these forums. Some things that apply to full TSs or those seeking to transition and live full-time won't necessarily apply to you. Heck, some of the things that apply to me won't necessarily apply to you, because we're looking at ourselves in different ways, your emulation vs. my part-female soul. Ultimately, what Princess Leia once said applies to all of us: we have to find our own paths, no one can choose them for us.
- Amy
