Denying who they are...

Good on you for supporting your man. It sounds like you both have a lot on your plates. I agree a new job should be a priority, work should not be abusive. My man (he does not consider himself as a she), just enjoys being dressed & not having to be a hard ass. Dressing gives him permission to be softer & more sensitive. We both benefit from this. Keep communicating so he knows you are okay with her in the relationship. Maybe surpise with something pretty to illustrate you are okay with the dressing. Good luck to you both!

Wit all the problems I see here all I can say is gently prompt him an give positive indications that you would like him to dress just for you.
It sounds like a lie but his self esteem has to be raised

Tell him that you love him, and that you love him just the way he is (and tell him often.)

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Originally Posted by Iloveacrossdresser

Hi, It's been a long time since I have been on here...but I'm not sure what to do...I love my husband very much and even though sometimes I struggle with him cross dressing, I'm getting more and more at ease with it. What worries me is that he tells me he wants to dress sometimes, but that he feels bad and gross when he does so he is not dressing at all these days.

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Sorry that both of you are in a fairly bumpy place at the moment. Anyway, this is one of those Your Milage May Vary sort of things. Some people settle into the idea of crossdressing relatively easily and for others it is a protracted struggle. It can be very scary to see ourselves in a different way with respect to conditioning, family pressure, peer pressure, etc. Historically society has told us that there is something GROSSLY Wrong with us, else why would we want to do this? The thing is males are not necessarily completely male in our thinking. For some, those of us here, something got shifted. We don't know exactly how, but we do know that something made us different from most. Society chooses not to deal with us, so they label us all as gay regardless of what ones true position is. A lot of pressure is put on us to conform, whether overtly or covertly. This is what makes it very difficult for us to sort out our lives and move forward.

Good Luck to you both...