Accepting but doesn't want to see or participate. She understands that it is part of
who I am and loves me so she accepts that it is something that I do from time to
time on my own.
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Accepting but doesn't want to see or participate. She understands that it is part of
who I am and loves me so she accepts that it is something that I do from time to
time on my own.
Participant. but she needn't be asked to initiate...I do that every morning.
My wife has known from the beginning and helped me out the door the first time. While its not always wine and roses I would have to classify her as enthusiastic and participating.
She is a participant that has established limits. I wouldn't call her enthusiastic except for what it has done for my libido, and the tremendous increase in intimacy and lovemaking that has resulted from my coming out. Just the ability to be open with her has been a weight off my shoulders and has brought us closer together. For me that's enough and I am content not pushing the issue further.
Would I love to progress beyond shaved legs, hose and heels to dressing fully with her enthusiastic participation, acting like girlfriends as she does my makeup and chooses dresses for me to wear? Sure. But the downside is she probably wouldn't view me as her husband or a man anymore, and that scares me.
my wife is accepting and a participant.....her only request, which for the most part, I honor is that if we are on base, no makeup (besides toes being polished), no overtly feminine clothes (if i wear a overtly feminine top, then i have to wear a jacket over it.....if we go out in town and we are coming back on base, no facial makeup or colored fingernail polish. I can wear feminine clothes, just have to wear a jacket over the top of whatever im wearing
Accepting,and participation at time. She shops with me most of the time, I still have a problem doing that alone except small things at CVS.
Tina started life with her complete participation, actually suggesting that Tina needed a dress the first time I was partially dressed. She thinks Tina is "sweet", in fact too sweet as we had a lesson about how a woman might be "less that sweet" at times. Tina and my wife are girlfriends (no romance involved) and it's fun just to have a "girl's night" every so often!
I an interesting couple of months for me:
Late November, tolerant and sometimes participating, to
Mid December, we might be separating, to
Late December, accepting, to
Early January, accepting, participating and encouraging (at groups)
Ahhhhh, the value of talking out your problems!
mine was in the dark for a long time. I slipped and she found some things and thought I was cheating. I confessed about it all and she freaked. We had a really rough time went through therapy and we are working on it. No she has asked me to stop completely. I am trying but its really tough. wish me luck (or not!)
I told my late wife that I was a CD when I proposed to her. She accepted me "as is," and was an active participant in my crossdressing activities We had almost 50 years together!
My wife is fully accepting of the fact that Rogina is part of the household. She is a pretty Venezuelan with the body and flash..My 11 yr old daughter is a combination of us..so,it is two and a half girls and a half boy living under the same roof..Gets interesting at times!
Actually my wife is in a slightly different category than the ones you mentioned (which, by the way, highlight the complexity of the issues we all face as CD'rs and TG'rs). Mine is more of an "Not Accepting that I do this; Acknowledging that I do, but NEVER wanting to see it or participate in or encourage it".
To me this is unfortunate, as these past few months, all I can think about is doing it! Just can't get this out of my system, and am actually not trying to, because I enjoy it so much! That's the truth of it, and I must be honest with myself as well, or the stress will come, and I don't want any stress in my life.
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Knows to a certain extent (limited by her choice, e.g. she actually says "I don't even want to know"), doesn't like it, doesn't want to know more about it, prefers to pretend it doesn't exist.
My fiancee is very accepting of me; she has me come out to the living room whenever I dress, so she can see me. (I give her a little twirl as I do, just for the full effect. :) ) If she knows I'm dressed, and needs me for something, she will sometimes call for me saying, "Oh, Amy dear?" We haven't really been able to do anything yet that would count her as "participating," but I plan to accompany her to Walmart one day...just two ladies out shopping. (They'd probably look more at her than they would at me...she drives an electric cart in Walmart, and is more of a traffic hazard. :) )
- Amy
I came out to my wife 2 years ago and she accepted me for who and what I am. In fact she was grateful that I would trust her with such an Intimate secret. I can not begin to explain the relief I feel since telling her
My wife is fine with it, she encourges me at every oppotuniuty, she buys me stuff and is fine with me dressing. However i struggle dressing in fron of her even though she is fine with it??? What is with that???
My wife found out by accident, something I was definately afriad of happening. But from that point on, after I had explained it to her she has beocme more and more accepting and supportive. We shop for both of us together and she has even bought clothes and jewelry for me as gifts. I'm so glad she found out! It's wonderful sharing with her and its made me much more comfortable as Roxanne since I don't have to hide her anymore.
My wife is totally accepting, comfortable and supportive. She actually prompted my first crossdressing experience and helped my development. She feels that my crossdressing is part of an intimate sharing that we have which has strengthened our relationship.
My wife is somewhat suportive but doesn't participate much. We have gone out twice with me as Jill. Yet, she bought me ear rings and a new makeup kit for Christmas. She has also borrowed some of my jewelry and some dresses, which I do not understand because she is so much smaller than me. Not fancy dresses and she only has worn them around the house.
My wife is simply wants me to be "cured". She now is convinced that a therapist will give a pill that will take away my urge to dress. I don't believe that to be likely. My hope is that she can become tolerant of my femme side.
my wife totally accepts me as i am.Almost every gift she gives me is feminine, i got a new ankle bracelet for christmas along with panties and two new dresses. She is fun to shop with and helps me with matching of clothes and acessories, she waits for me to try things on in any store we go in and gives her opinion on everything we buy so i will look my best. She bought me my first forms and paid 365.00 for them, so i wouldn't trade her for a new box of puppys. LOL
My wife found out, despite me trying to hide it. At this point, it's a pretty much DADT thing in my house.
Jamie, just a word of advice: you can't hint or divulge this secret slowly. If you are ready to talk to her and your relationship is strong, just sit down and talk to her. It will be the hardest conversation you ever have but the result will be freeing, regardless of the answer.Quote:
Originally Posted by JamieRobert
Accepting, participating and we shop together all the time and share clothing as well as style and makeup tips.
She's asked me to shape her brows as she loves how I do mine.
We go out together all the time and we both love it.
You hit the nail on the head; with the catagory "Accepting but not participating". Those with even accepting spouses often don't realize or appreciate what some of us only dream of.