Ever tried to quit?

I see that pretty much all of us had the feeling of trying to put this part of ours lives aside at some point or another but it just keeps coming back. Doesn't it scare you that you might be on a slippery slope and that one day it will be just too late to be the man you once were. Sometimes I feel that way. I can't explain the feeling that I get when looking online and finding something pretty or sexy and it scares the hell out of me. I love my male self and there is so much in my life that I am grateful for. So I want to keep that part but the pink fog seems all consuming. lol Been loving the feedback from this thread. You ladies are awesome!!!!

Been crossdressing since I was 13, and by the time I got married at 24 I just KNEW I would stop. Married a beautiful, classy lady, who dressed to the nines frequently, and catered to my every whim. Surely I wouldn't want to crossdress any more, so right before our wedding I purged everything and considered that chapter of my life closed.

Well, you all know what happens next. Maybe three or four months in I gave in to temptation and tried on a pair of her pantyhose, which were expensive ones I'd never worn before. Soon after that I graduated on to trying on a few of her clothes, even though I outweighed her by 100 lbs. That didn't work so I started buying a skirt here, a pair of pumps there, until I had my own modest stash built up again.

Seventeen years after we'd been married, she discovered my stash, and the crapola hit the fan big time. Too long a story to repeat here, but once again I tried to stop. As part of our compromise she agreed I can still wear pantyhose but no dressing beyond that. I actually kept me end of the deal for a few years, but sadly the temptation was too strong and here I am dressing as often as I can, behind her back. I hate myself for sneaking again, but I have a feeling she suspects it but chooses to remain silent.

Bottom line...as I move into my early fifties, I realistically don't ever see me stopping. Ever.

This is more or less a "me, too!" post, to say what everyone else said: yes I tried, no it didn't go away. I did it in high school, then tried to "quit" for twenty years. All it did was make me an asshole.

If it's not interesting you, take a break. Go where the feeling leads you. But don't think of it as "quitting."

Quit?
Are you real?
You have just said how you are enjoying life.
I suggest you find another hobby,.......


To compliment the one you already have.

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Originally Posted by Shelly117

Doesn't it scare you that you might be on a slippery slope and that one day it will be just too late to be the man you once were. Sometimes I feel that way. I can't explain the feeling that I get when looking online and finding something pretty or sexy and it scares the hell out of me. I love my male self and there is so much in my life that I am grateful for. So I want to keep that part but the pink fog seems all consuming.

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Cross dressing itself does not lead to transsexualism. Why does cross dressing make anyone less of a man? Being a man (by most forms of the definition) is about your biological sex and gender identity and not your gender expression. The saying "Clothes make the man" is not applicable. There is no damage to your testicles (unless your tucking technique is dangerously wrong, LOL), decrease in your testosterone level or shrinkage of your penis caused by cross dressing. Your brain and emotions to do not permanently change after wearing a dress, heels, makeup and a wig. Nor does your skin get softer, you grow breasts or start having a period. Providing you do not undergo surgery or take hormones, there is no permanent damage to your manhood, however you want to define it, by cross dressing. Do not fall into stereotypes and media created definitions of manhood. If your gender identity is male, what you wear or liking feminine fashions is not going to change your gender identity or biological sex. If that was the case, I'm 90% woman.

Hi Shelly, I've never had the desire to quit I'm having way to much fun dressing for over 65yrs. now.

I quit every day, when it's time to get ready for work. Then, start back when I get home. Came home today to new shoes that I had ordered. Love 'em.

I never thought of quiting . I have put it on hold for some time. It was hard coming out to my wife but I did almost 7 years ago And I've naver had it so good.:hugs:
Angie

I seriously quit a few times. I was even successful for a couple of years twice. The thoughts never went away, the stress from trying so hard not to do something so natural to me was enormous. The dressing always came back with a vengance. Of course I am now pursuing transition so your mileage as a CD may be different.

I personally know of one girl that quit for 15 years, as she said it came back with a real vengance. That does seem to be the repeating story here.

AnitaH

To paraphrase Mark Twain, cross dressing is easy to quit. I've done it dozens of times!

I want to cry when I think about all the fabulous clothes I've purged, only to eventually shell out more money to build my collection again. So yes, I've also tried to quit, so I decided to quit quitting. Just too expensive and pointless.

I have quit in the past when younger, was ashamed of my self, but now that i am older and have come to relize it is who i am, i am embracing it. However i notice the urge comes on at certain times of the year more then others. Winter of course becuase i shave my whole body, andf keep my toes painted, waking up every morining and seeing how nice my toes look makes me want to continue, i do feel sad when summer comes and i have to let the hair grow back and take the polish of my toes, but i dont have the urge during that time at all, but as winter approach i start to get excited.

I have tried to quite once, purged all my stuff and came back after 3 months to the tune of about $1000 to replace everything. I still have 1 skirt and 1 dress I really really miss. If your not feeling it at the time, put your stuff away, out of sight. Then go on your way. If you ever get the need again, then go back to dressing with no regrets. Being a CD (for me its mostly a hobby, means of expression of my other side) I take great joy in it and enjoy going out in fem, meeting people, telling my story if the ask, and just having fun. I've had minor bad experiences, but mostly been well accepted, and even welcomed heartily into other non cd groups. Good luck.

Yep! I did, and it failed. I purged and gave it up for 9 solid years, and it hit me back one day like a brick to the face.

I am what I am.

These days, life is good (....great, actually :) ) , I'm out & about, no regrets. I'm transgender, and I accept and embrace it.

I think most of CDs undergo similar experiences in connection with purging.
I attempted one major purging and several other minor purgings.

The major one came when I prepared for my marriage: as many of you said, I felt guilty for my CDing for my then-future wife. But my urge to wear women's clothing returned after several years of my marriage. After then, I tried several times to quit CDing but always failed after a short period. Now I am more deeply involved in CDing after I found out other CDers through internet.

Recently I found out about tape tucking through the internet searches and tried it. As I felt much more feminine when I wore pantyhose and a body-shaper/girdle over the tucked genitals, I felt much more feminine as I look at my flat front like a genetic girl. I appear to grow more and more addicted to CDing as my body wants to feel feminine. Maybe I cannot quit CDing any more: on the contrary, my CDing appears to lead to aspire to become a TS/TG.

Sort of. I didn't really have much of a collection when I was young, but I would get rid of everything one or twice a year, usually because of someone I was interested in. And then I went through a long stretch of workaholism where I didn't really do much outside of work other than read. Now, I wish I had a collection during that time, since it might have cut the stress.

Anyway, in the end, putting it off that long just caused it to hit all the harder. If you enjoy doing it and it doesn't hurt anyone, then enjoy.

As to "your manly self," well, it certainly won't transform you. Perhaps it will allow you to break free of things that forced you to conform. Seeing that the cd taboo is ridiculous will perhaps let you see other things are ridiculous as well. And maybe you'll change because of that. But really, if that happens, you didn't actually change; society was always trying to squeeze you into a malformed corset ;)

I have tried to quit before, but at the time I didn't have much to get rid of. Now I have alot of stuff to wear, and quitting would be a whole lot more serious. I still do think about quitting though. I love crossdressing, but it is still a bit of a secret (although not a total secret) in my life, and having it a secret seems to bring problems with it if you see what I mean.

Quitting is easy. I know. I have quit many times. The problem is staying quit. So I've resolved to quit quitting. No more quitting for me.

That s true RitaCD i agree with you