Alternate persona question

I actually had this discussion with my wife last night. I dont change at all while dressed. Still keep getting told to keep my legs together while in a dress. At least thats what i thought! Evidently my personality doesnt change at all, but evidently all my mannerisms change. Walk like a woman, even hand gestures. And even my facial mannerisms change to female! Who knew? haha I'm going to keep an eye out for this over the weekend to see for sure.
Like alot of others here, I really only use the name Jessica to make it easier for others. Its easier for people to ask wheres Jessica than it is to say why arn't you crossdressed. I still find it funny refering to dressing by a name, kinda seems silly to me but It does make things simpler.

Hi,

Allernate persona, i have no idear what that means never been able to do that, I have seen some people act it & some dresser's try, or do , for myself there is no act nore can be when i was born my life as to who i was started then it took 10 years to wake up because of things that took place in my background ,

What i am now is no different than has been all my life, what i could not do was express myself as i should have been able to so thats where my change comes in some 20 years ago. not as i changed just my doors were opened as it were, so i could grow , grow as a person & as a woman,

You see many here are male & think as one something i was not or able to do because of my difference yet thats been okay as it was to serve me well , so if you like my persona is female not changable nor will ,

I can look & see many from here how you dress & look afterwards, i dont compare myself to any here, as iv said id be embarrised, because you can do something im just not in the running, plain & simple from what i see you do very well & surpass myself,

Im just one of those women who is very comforable in myself full confidence in who i am & pretty happy over all. just when it comes to the looks dept. well yes....i missed out there, though i do make up for it in other ways, as you know from my posts, so its okay,

...noeleena...

For me, Kalista is just a name to match my look and such. I don't think my personality varies, as I am not thinking any differently. My mannerisms are more girly to naturally compliment my look. Beyond that, everything is the same, as far as my personality goes. I guess someone who knows both presentations would have to point out any differences to me.

Kalista

When I am presenting as Ellen Jo I am still me however, as such I am more able to allow my softer side to come out. I can shed the daily grind of being the "man" of the house and for a while I can allow Ellen Jo to go about her activities without all the stress that my male side worries about. I am the same person but I am able to slide into another position on the scale. My wife says that I am more attentive and a better listener when dressed and she enjoys my company both ways.

I love all of the thoughtful replies to this thread. To generalize, it seems that there is a range of feelings from, no you have no alternate persona, to its a role playing type aspect to your personality, to its completely hard wired, its who you are.

One thing I am more conscious of after reading some responses here, are the different "roles" I play every day as I navigate through various relationships and interactions, but I never "switch" into a female version of myself, as some do. I'm actually very fascinated by this concept, and perhaps I will try to imagine myself as a woman?

My CD BF and I are new to this so it might be helpful to you to know what I see through the GG perspective. He is himself, regardless of what we are trying and what he has put on. I went out and bought him his first dress a couple days ago. He put it on for me and I could see him turn into a softer more meek and shy kind of person. The dress was A-line and had a twirly skirt and he was trying to make it spin. It was still my BF, but a really feminine, exited, softer version.

Who knows if in a couple years he will see himself differently. But at least for now he is still him to me.

I become somebody else. I take the good parts of me along for the ride. I mix them with the good parts of Maria and that makes me a happy woman. The only good thing I leave behind is my wife and that is the main thing that stops me dressing more than I do.

Maria

With me, there are 2 different personas between male and female modes. Even my therapist notices the difference when Johnna shows up as to when John comes in. I am much less tense or stressed as Johnna and bit more outgoing than John is according to her. They are very much 2 different people within me and that has its plus' and minus'. But I work on keeping it balanced as best I can.

My alternate persona was something that has evolved gradually. At first, it was just a name to attach to me when I was dressed as a woman. And then not too long ago things started going further, and I changed my name along with the change in direction.

I'm now in the process of HRT to some extent, only anti-androgens at this time, and I'm seeing a therapist. My family knows and my closet and bedroom are much more Robin's than Robert's, so for me it's an evalution, though I didn't really intend it that way when I started out.

For me, my Diane side is softer, the feminine side of me. My speech patterns are different, even my reactions to certain situations tend to be more feminine than my Dave side.

You are not missing anything. You who who you are. Embrace it. Explore yourself. Love yourself. Be yourself. You are who you are.

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Originally Posted by AmyGaleRT

I have my male persona, and I have my female persona, the latter of which is named "Amy." But they are two sides of the same coin; no matter which one predominates and is outwardly expressed, the other one is still present.

- Amy

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I like this and I think I've come to the conclusion that I am more sphere like, or planet like. I'm still trying to figure out the name part because there are so many sides to myself. There was the everyday male mode dude, but there was this walled off country, the CD side of me, behind the iron curtain and that wall came crashing down a number of weeks ago. I'm trying to establish a free trading zone between the various country's of my soul. But there is this other country who keeps threatening to upset the planet by sending nukes to take out both of the previously described countries; and through diplomacy, i.e. therapy, i'm hoping to have a more content planet.

Kyle and Kylee are two seperate people. Each with their own likes and dislikes. As Kyle, i hate shopping but as kylee i love it. I know that is not a good example but the differences are extreme like that for me. Kyle is very outgoing, saying hi to everyone and never meets a stranger, where as Kylee is a bit shy and hardly speaks to anyone. But if i had to pick one i would say as an overall person my female self is dominate in that i am dressed about 90% of the time (the other 10% being around friends and family who are not comfy with the idea yet, so i dont dress around them for their sake)

I agree Paula, it is a little bit more nuanced than we think. For me Liza has a different personality not initially but over time especially since I spend more complete days as Liza, my outlook and perception change albeit very slowly and gradually. I don't think we can help it. It may be that society forces us to be that way but it is just the way it is.

Shifting personas the way I do can even affect things like how I treat my fiancee. Here's a recent example.

I've shifted to "relaxation" mode as Amy, wearing a black negligee and foam forms (both to give me curves "up top" and to make the gown a bit less revealing). My fiancee is sitting on the bed, wearing her own nightgown, complaining of pain in her upper back.

She: "I need you to put some Aspercreme on my back, but I'll either have to take my gown off or find one with a lower back."
Me: "I don't think you have one with that low a back. You can take it off. Ain't nobody here but just us girls."
She: "I don't want you to get all horny!"
Me: (indicating my outfit) "Not while I'm dressed like this!"

And so it was. She took it off, I put the Aspercreme on, and left her lying face-down on the bed for it to dry. And I made no comments about her exposed breasts. In short, I was interacting with her the way another girl would. Which she's OK with, because she knows, when I finally deconstruct Amy for the evening, "her man" is right back. ;)

- Amy

Joanne and John are two different people. One is a smart, mature businesswoman, softly but articulately spoken. The other is a fellow with a whacked-out sense of humour who can do just anything electrical blindfolded (note: don't try that part at home, folks). I become very relaxed as Joanne. I have no fear of going out as Joanne. However, John has a lot of tension. Joanne is his way of dealing with it.

I'm pretty much the same person however I am dressed I act the same just talk a little softer in girl mode a few registers higher is where my softer voice comes from.
In guy mode when I speak people figure I'm gay because my mannerisms are more female and my word inflection is more female.

I'm still the same person, but I'm just starting out. I'm about a month into cross dressing. I haven't gone out or even interacted with anyone. I feel calmer, but I don't know if my female persona is significantly different than my male side yet. I'll keep you posted! :-)

Dela,

Everyone has multiple personas. Some personas are more developed than others. Some personas are more developed/mature than others. Just think of a politician. Most have vastly different public and a private personas. Does your male persona change
1. when you are in church and when you are in a sports bar?
2. when your boss is in the room and when the boss is out?
3. when your spouse or SO is present or not?
4. when children are present or not?

When dressed and a gentleman holds the door open for you, it is second nature to thank him and sashay on in. Dressed, would you hold the door for a man walking in the door? For me, only if he were elderly or had his arms full.

Personas also change with group size. Sometimes a group mentality takes over.

Watch young children playing some pretend game to see multiple personas come and go. Pretty amusing at times.

My wife says I am the same person, but a different flavor.

I see it as parts of a whole, facets on a gem, if you will, each a part of the others. No one facet is complete without the others. The beauty shows out in the whole.

I asked my boyfriend about this after reading a thread on here about female names & being encouraged by posters here to talk to him about what he might want to be called. We had a long conversation about his gender identity and the difference between his male and female sides. He doesn't feel like male him and female him are two different people just sides of the same person. Sometimes he's all male, sometimes all female and often some mixture of the two where various facets of his personality shine through in different combinations.

So no, I dont think you're missing anything :)