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Actually I'm pretty sure that CDs are vastly more accepted by women than by men. Accepted yes, desired as a mate, no. Sort of reminds me of food that you learn to like over time. We scare men, they're always afraid they might be like us way down deep!
Hi,
I think all roads lead to Rome on a question like this. Are _____ accepted by _____?
No matter how you you fill in those blanks, the answers will always come down to individual strengths and weaknesses of the crossdresser and the other person, as with any other type of person encountering another and how each presents themselves. Using the context of this topic, "Are CD's really accepted by women?", the answers will be:
Yes, no, and everything in between.
The question then ultimately becomes "Are people accepted by people?"
Yes, no, and everything in between.
Even when the question gets specific versus general, mileage will vary. Like, will people accept me as Kalista and not the male they may have or may not have known?
Yes, no, and everything in between.
Again, I think all roads lead to Rome on this one. Crossdressing aside, what is the sum package of what is being presented to a woman on an individual level? How are they presenting to us? When we think about all the traditional challenges every human faces to gain acceptance in one circle, community or social-economic group or another, it should bring us a bit closer to home in realizing that acceptance seems to come down to individuals in the moment of encounter and how we go from there. At least it seems that way to me.
That's why I'm working hard at Kalista's persona of appearing well presented, confident, laid back and happy. Smiling a lot and generally being non-threatening.
Will this work for me with all people I meet?
Yes, no, and everything in between.
Cheers,
Kalista
Although some women have romantic relationships with crossdressers--it appears to be the exception rather than the rule---many more women tend to "put up" with their SO's CDing but don't actually embrace it and you get the feeling that if they knew about it before the relationship began, it would have been a deal breaker---Many more women will readily accept cross dressers as friends or acquaintances but don't want their husband or boyfriend dressing.Quote:
Originally Posted by carhill2mn
http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...ss-Dress/page5
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Sorry Ive gotten lazy:heehee:
If your wife accepts you as a CD, then she would likely accept those CDs that she is no intimate with---the exception would be if she thought that you were intimate (or wanted to be) with the other CD--assuming your spouse is confident in her relationship with you, then she would proably have no problem meeting other CDers as friendsQuote:
Originally Posted by Lacy PJs
It was not my intention to suggest that people here should post pictures of themselves and their wives, girlfriends, etc., but rather to ask about their feelings of acceptance or tolerance or neither by the "general" female population. An answer to a question like that here has to be an opinion because we are all pretty much tolerant of CDs or we wouldn't be here in the first place... it would be kind of like asking people at Fenway Park if they liked baseball.
It was just something that came to mind as I noted that "most" of the pictures that I saw were of CDs and other CDs or by themselves. Seldom were there "mixed crowds."
Thanks for your responses but I still don't seem to have a general concensus...
Lacy PJs
I find that most women, once i actually meet them, generally accept me with kindness, and that I get a lot of positive attention from some of them. Those are the ones likely to become friends.
Well you know, doors close and doors open. In 2001 when I was outed to family, friends, and our entire small town, I did lose some friends along with my then-wife, but as I accepted the fact of being out there, I found new acceptance everywhere. I deepened my connection with some old friends and made many new friends too, including GG, men, and couples. While I don't ever swan around my professional world nor my grandchildren's world, our adult friends all know I am as likely to show up to a social event en femme as en drab and so is my wife, we are always appropriate to the event and sensitive to the other attendees, and while we don't ever ask permission, we do consult with hostesses to be sure we won't offend, and we generally advise dinner guests what to expect. I feel a lot of acceptance in our world.
My wife accepts me being Angie but she won't call my Angie. And i think she would accept other crossdressers. She knows its not a choice thing but a need within us.:hugs:
Angie
General acceptance is hard to gauge, until they are in that specific situation, someone can say anything.
In my life the three people who knew while I was in the relationship with them, two actively participated, one preferring it 100/0, the other preferring it in the bedroom about 25/75. The third... Well I blogged here about it.
In my circle of friends, my lifelong friend/ex gf I just came out to, said she knew all along and wants to interact with fem side regularly, and my BFF who knows is very pro for it.
So out of 5 people, 1 is tolerating, the rest are all for it.
Btw my BFF is newly single :-) maybe ill get her to start looking for a CD bf.
The only people who know about my dressing are a couple of my wifes girlfriends and her sister and all of them suport me.I dont go out dressed locally as I live in a very small town,but when we visit her sister who live closer to the city I always dress completly includin makeup.I love it when we go down there and people dont take any notice of me.We often go out for walks when down there,but I havnt pluck up the nerve to go shopping dressed yet.