CD'rs, are you drawn back to male mode after being en femme for a while?

Hi.

Female, not T S

I never ever had a male mode never thought as one nore could any way the only way i see male is would be in the clothes, though i really did hate them with a real ...HATE... because of what they represented to me & Mom & i, Abuse total.
Yes i was percived as male to those who never really knew me though some did ,That was because i could not expresss who i was / am or express myself , in just being myself,

I could not revert to being male or female because of my being born different so male / female has no meaning ,

So this boy mode, is it only the clothes or how one is wired Psychologically . Emotionally thats where its very different ,
As female allways female, i thought i had some maleness about myself only my facial features , i even thought i understood males , got that wrong ,

as i got to know many dresser's on the forums , thier / your thoughts over the years, i found i knew nothing about what it's like being male, so my concept went out the door, so i dont understand how you males can go from being male & dressing like us women then back & forth , for myself id be insane trying , i could not do it, if it was only say a dress or skirt & top no issue other wise it would have done my head in, though i can do many things that males do work wise or other, though thats as far as i can go. Mentally im just a female, i may be different & weird ,.... still..... just a female,

...noeleena...

At this point in time for me, I am not drawn back to my male mode
but more forced back. I get a few hours on the weekends when I get Raychel time,
but when it is time to step out into the main part of the house it is all over.

I suppose if I was free to dress how I wanted whenever I wanted I would be somewhere
in-between as well, there are times when I really need to be in guy mode. Out in the woods with
a chain saw does not work well in a dress. Nor does fixing cars, or a lot of the other stuff I do.

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Originally Posted by Andrea J

So are you drawn back to boy mode or drawn back to comfort?

I suppose there could be the times when you go all out and the other times when you are just in comfortable lounging around the house girl mode. You wouldn't have to go all the way back to boy mode to lounge.

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Good question Andrea. I suppose its a little of both. But your other statement holds true as well. If I have the apt. to myself for a time, then I relax in my petticoats, or tutu, for a while. As long as I can get some cd or sissy time in, then I tend to be happy!!

Not especially.
I enjoy being out and about a great deal, would love to do it more than I can
(Story of life really)
I suspect partly because Tess isn't married, has no kids, mortgage etc etc
Also because expressing myself this way is something I've newly accepted about myself.
So, going back to the boy life is a real challenge. But an inevitable one, for me.

I agree with Rachel too.
Much rather tune the car in overalls, rather than a nice dress

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CD'rs, are you drawn back to male mode after being en femme for a while?

If a spell was cast that stopped people noticing anything unusual about the way you present, would you stay en femme permanently?...............

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No, I wouldn't. I have a wife, family, friends, and neighbors to think about. Besides, there are many things I do in male mode that females don't do and some would be impactical wearing forms and padded panties. That shaving the face twice a day and reapplying beard cover and the body shaving would get to be a chore pretty quickly.

Now if that spell changed me into a hot young chick instead of just causing people to not notice that I was an old man dressed as a woman, I would consider it. ;)

Less and less as I get older.

That's not exactly how it works for me. But there are days when my dressing urges are greater than others. Some days, I absolutely have to get into a dress ASAP, and other days I feel no inclination at all.

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Originally Posted by Kate Simmons

He does it, she does it, even birds and bees do it. Let's do it, go back to male.:battingeyelashes::)

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Cue for a song I feel :heehee:

Reb

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Originally Posted by Andrea J

CD'rs, are you drawn back to male mode after being en femme for a while?

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ABSOLUTELY NOT! If I could be a fulltime female, I'd give up the male in a heartbeat... women can tie their hair up, put on grubbies, and tackle whatever task is at hand... and still be women. I'd be female all the time, and never miss the male.

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Originally Posted by Andrea J

If a spell was cast that stopped people noticing anything unusual about the way you present, would you stay en femme permanently? (Though they might still compliment you on your clothes, or something similar, they wouldn't realize that they were unusual.)

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If there were any way I could have that spell cast on me (short of selling my soul to the devil :devil:), count me in!

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Originally Posted by Andrea J

This question is particularly directed at CD'rs, TS's are welcome to answer but it would be great if you would say you are TS so as not to confuse the thread. Thanks.

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Regrettably, I'm not a transitioning transsexual, merely a crossdresser who wishes she had been born female.

And based on a rough tally of the replies to your thread thus far (I've read them all... I always do before posting), Andrea, seems the majority of the respondents may have preferred being born female, at least insofar as if given a choice. Maybe that's just the way I read it, from my perspective.

I'd have checked the "F" box, for sure! :daydreaming:

As much as I like being en femme, I find it mentally tiring at times. After I've been dressed for several hours, I sometimes find myself looking to end the transformation. Now, I doubt I'd feel that way if I were female - a simple change of clothing might then be in order. Even after those times when I have grown tired of the feminine illusion and get back to male-mode, I find myself drawn back into it quickly, and I more often than not wish for femme time once again.

Yes, Probably the longest I can stay en femme is about 7 hours and need to re shave after about 4 hours and redo the make-up. Most importantly I like to stand up to pee. Jaymee

I enjoy 5 inch heels, tight corsets, shapers, and bras. I've lasted 12 hours or more at CD conferences, but I'm always glad to get out of all that torture gear and into something comfortable like bed! It's a little like having a boat. Fun getting into it and fun getting out of it.

I am very seldom fully male or fully female. When we go out for TGirlvnight at hamburger Mary's she does my make up, I don my wig and forms. But that's only one night a week. Twice on the first Saturday of the month. Other than that I don't really fully present. The only time I'm fully male is at night in bed. I sleep nude. Otherwise, I only wear ladies panties. My toenails are always painted. I also have a couple pieces I wear out and about without wig or make up. When I dress at home during the day I don't use the make up. But I always feel a little let down as I remove pieces of Rita.

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Rita

I'm usually drawn back to male mode when I have some very sweaty, dirty, and ugly things to do. Other than that a dress wins every time!

No, only if circumstances reqire it!

If we lived in a perfect world where nobody cared, I would hapilly satisfy both sides of my personality. As it is I am denied that pleasure so I end up looking at it like an addiction where I need to get a fix. After approx 4-5 hours I am happy to switch back to male mode. This may be due to the boredom of being confined indoors. If I could go walkabout I would probably stay dressed longer.
Shops should fight for crossdressing rights as there is a huge market to be had if only we could beat societies bigotry..Ellie

No, if anything I start getting up the nerve to say heck with it and go out. The longer I'm Dana the more relaxed I get and start to not worry about what the world might think when they see me. I think it's going to happen this fall after the kids go back to college.

It's just soooooo much extra work! I don't like to go at it partially... either all or nothing. And with a pretty full life already too much of a good thing sucks the joy out =(

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Originally Posted by Andrea J

If a spell was cast that stopped people noticing anything unusual about the way you present, would you stay en femme permanently?

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Yes ... totally! The more I do it the more I wanna do it.

I really enjoy wearing pretty things, getting my forms on and hanging around for a while. I never do hair or make up, so that's not a problem for me. Shaving my face is optional too, although I try to keep up with that lest my wife refuse my hugs... Being dressed just makes me feel pretty. After 2-3 hours my forms get sweaty and start bugging me, but otherwise I love to hang out in a pretty skirt and blouse. Stilettos are also inconvenient around the house, but I'm still a sucker for them. I am content to wear girl clothes any time i am home with the wife or alone. When the kids are home or I need to leave the house, the girl clothes stay in the closet. My brain is in Male Mode at all times. I don't really have a femme personality, I'm just a bloke in a dress.:D

As a cd'er, I can honestly say that I AM NEVER, NEVER DRAWN BACK INTO MALENESS AFTER BEING ENFEMME. I very much prefer being in female mode and would do so for the rest of my life if I could, and burn all my boy clothes (ugh ugh ugh).

Molly

no. i like being a guy, and am comfortable being a male with feminine tendencies. and, i would love to dress and act the part of the femme in my always, if it was truly accepted by society as a whole (as was suggested in the original question). there really isn't much that draws me back to dressing or grooming as a guy, expect for the fact, that it is easier. sometimes, i just don't want to upkeep of shaving my face all the time, and my hair grows too quick and thick there. i keep my legs and underarms pretty well shaved all the time, but at the same time, if i forget or feel lazy for 3 or 4 days and want to wear shorts, i don't feel obligated to shave, as i feel many GG's might. for example, i know my ex-SO would wear jeans instead of shorts or a skirt on 100+ degree days cuz she was being lazy on shaving her legs and was embarrassed to be seen with "hairy" ones. there is also the matter of tucking that, can become quite tedious especially after a day of physical activity, or needing to go potty multiple times (although, it seems to me, the "waterproof" tape i have been using for years, is less waterproof now than it was 5 years ago). there are days, were i would much rather be wearing a dress or skirt (such as the last few weeks here in LA where the temps have been in the 90 or higher, especially, to go to work, instead of a shirt and slacks. heck, i could even get away with shorts and sandals in my company's dress code, if i was en femme vs. male. there is very little motivation to maintain guy mode for me, except the genetics that have formed my body into a male form.

Were it possible, I would certainly dress for longer but I still enjoy both male and female presentation. It feels like a treat to get dressed up and I suspect it would lose that fascination if I did it all the time..... That is something I never want to lose!

I am an advocate of disclosure early in the becoming of a relationship. That .monkey would be put to read and you can then discuss your needs. The inner urge to express ourselves becomes quite strong and I would argue more so if we are denied that expression. Most of the fears we have going out dressed are mainly in our heads. The feelings of selfconsiousness and fear need to be conquered . Once those barriers are broken down we can then express our selves wjthou guilt.
You will know real quick if going out is right for you. I would not worry about labels. Talk to the wife, go out enjoy yourself.

No, its always makes me sad and depressed when I have to go back to male mode. If possible, I would go fem permanently!