I would have to respond "Yes". I often choose not to do some things as I do not want to give up my "femme" time even
though I am en femme more than I am not.
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I would have to respond "Yes". I often choose not to do some things as I do not want to give up my "femme" time even
though I am en femme more than I am not.
I´m not - I hope. But see my post on the thread "Why must you progress"
You only get on go around in this life, so it is better to find happiness. I do not think this is selfish.
I think I can be selfish at times I suppose, but who isn't at one time or another? About 4 months ago I transferred to working 2nd shift from 3rds at my job so that my wife, and I could actually see each other more than 15 min a day(she works 2nds). While I love that I get to spend a few hours with her everyday now, I find myself kind of wishing I could go back on 3rds so that I could dress more often(when she's at work, and such) instead of having to wait till she goes on a trip with her mother, and I actually get more than 2 hrs to myself at any given time. Oh well, such is life...
No kids, no wife, just me and Kandy........... and yeah, she is one selfish lady! Such are the pleasures of my life. I see you in pretty much the same situation Rebecca.
LOL! <golf clap>Quote:
Originally Posted by Lorileah
Like Kandy Barr, I'm single, kid is gone, wife is ex, and I'm retired. My time and energies are spent on me and those I care for. Totally at my descretion. I know there's this undeniable, powerful, urge to find a mate and procreate. Maybe it's not really the best course of action for all of us. I'm just getting over it now! Sure I'm selfish, I only give to whom I care to!
In a sense, exploring what being tg means to me is selfish, as it takes me away from those around me.
However, it is helping me to be a better person, too, so not all bad..
My girlfriend and I have only been together for nine years but she's definitely my soulmate. I would give up almost anything for her and I know she's wonderful because she didn't ask me to give up dressing, only asked me to be very discrete about it.
So, no, not selfish.
Yes, my CD activities are somewhat selfish, partly because of shyness (Moi??? yes, actually). As humans we all necessarily must be selfish in certain ways. My wife is supportive enough, but she too is selfish in her ways, and we give each other the freedom to be so within reason.
My sibs I'm sure all know I have figured out that I CD, but they probably do not imagine the extent, nor do they bring it up. I do discuss it with them, it really is not their business, if they really wanted to know, i'd admit it, but let them know they are not competent to understand the breadth of the issue, and i'm not here to entertain them. Do some research on the subject and show me a short summary, then we can talk... I'm not going to be put in a position of defending or justifying or explaining my TG aspects to them.
You want to learn an advanced psych topic- you have to do the intro class first- it's not rocket science.
I guess I am as well. But I think some amount of selfishness is inevitable when one's true self, the feminine side, is hidden, suppressed, denied for decades. When she is finally able to break through the prison walls, there's a whole new, previously unexplored world out there that needs to be taken in and made sense of. Right now, I stand accused of letting my gender pendulum swing too far towards the "F" side.
Refreshingly honest. I value enfemme time much the same as you, to the exclusion of those activities that reduce my available "girl" time. :thumbsup:Quote:
Originally Posted by carhill2mn
I read your referenced post regarding narcissistic activities, and my inference is that you have exhibited a marked preference towards placing your CD'ing high on your list of priorities... TBS, where do you see yourself in regards to being "selfish"?Quote:
Originally Posted by Amanda M
Christine, happiness is highly desireable... but are you selfish in the pursuit of same?Quote:
Originally Posted by Christine.Lolita
Nice reply, and I'll ask... is there a reason you can't spend time with her while you're enfemme? I really think that many CD'ers would love to spend time with their SO's if the SO was amenable... and I interpret your response as one that would indicate a similar desire... is that so?Quote:
Originally Posted by wishing2bali
Kandy, right on! Nothing better than expressing one's feminine side whenever the opportunity presents... like, whenever I'm awake and not at work! :heehee:Quote:
Originally Posted by Kandy Barr
Lynn, we're not taking from anyone, we're just giving to ourselves... that's reason enough. And you've already procreated... do you have the energy to raise another child? I know I don't! :Pullhair:Quote:
Originally Posted by Lynn Marie
Teresa, I appreciate your honesty. If your path of exploration somehow diminishes your enjoyment of your cherished loved ones, then that could present a problem. Time management could prove beneficial. Devote whatever time you can to your obligations, and the remainder to making yourself happy... and if crossdressing is your ultimate path to happiness, indulge yourself!Quote:
Originally Posted by TeresaCD
Kristi, how can we love others if we don't love ourselves? I'm pleased to read your wife is supportive. Many here wish they had it so good. All of us have our needs and expectations, yet too few actually have them met... seems you're in a good place, all things considered.Quote:
Originally Posted by Krististeph
Suzanne, there's nothing to be ashamed of. As Lady Gaga so eloquently verbalized, we were "born this way". Everyone here has challenged the definition of the gender we were assigned at birth.Quote:
Originally Posted by suzanne
Be proud of recognizing that you need to be yourself, and everybody else is just going to have to accept that reality. It's our truth!
BTW, your "gender pendulum" is seeking only to center you! :)
Hi Becky, I know my boundaries and I stay within them
You're just in control of yourself, way things should be.
I would say you are being self conscious not selfish.
I count myself among the very, very fortunate. I N-E-E-D to do this. My wife gets that. She and I make arrangements for me to get the dressing time I need without it overtaking our lives. Thus, because I'm in this situation I wouldn't know for certain how I might react if I were forced to not CD. I can suppose I would demonstrate some selfish behavior.
Yes I am. I enjoy being by myself so I can do what the heck I want whenever I want. It's just me, myself, and I. Oh, and Druscilla:-) I don't have time for liars and cheaters and anyone with drama. I have all of my stuff in it's place and I don't have to explain myself to anyone.