Am I weird?

OK back on track here. If you want to argue, do it in PM.

We are done with "the Missus" vs the world here.

i am my dream girl

and its not a nightmare.

jodie:brolleyes::brolleyes:

hey, maybe ill use that top line as my quote===:heehee::D:D

Very interesting thread. Well I have zero chance of meeting a GG who likes to dress like me, but I may meet a cute cd who likes this stuff!!!

You are not weird, only a CD like most of us. If we didn't like what we looked like dressed, we would probably taken up lumberjacking.

Way sad that some folks here feel the need to vent snarky remarks. I wonder if they realize how hurtful they can be. Not to me, I'm Ms Happy, Happy, Happy al the day long.

Hugs Nacracat, Robin

There is NOTHING WRONG with dressing to excite, nor with dressing to emulate what you find attractive. (please see signature below)

If you didn't dress in things that make you feel good, or excite what would be the point? You are not weird due to your choice of styles unless you display them in an arena that doesn't except them, and then it is weird to them. Simply put the rules are what you make them until you transgress into someone else's world.

Hi Nacracat, You sound just like any normal Crossdresser.

I don't leave the house dressed so passing isn't my primary goal. I certainly wouldn't go out wearing the stuff that really excites me! I might be considered weird to those that pass in exciting clothes ;)

Good Question, Nacracat.

When I first started dressing, I wasn't thinking about dating at all. I was too young. I just wanted to look girly. As time passed, maybe I did get dressed to get turned on, probably a lot but I never thought about how I looked, more about the feeling. As I matured, I dressed to satisfy my inner girl wanting to come out. Nowadays I just dress...sometimes sexy and tartish, sometimes sophisticated (maybe I'm kidding myself, but I try), sometimes sensual, sometimes just practical.

If anything, because I'm attracted to other cd's, I might dress like how I would like a partner to look...I dunno... I never really thought about it till now.

Well, I come not to argue with TheMissus, but to agree with her, at least to a certain extent. Ultimately, we all dress to please ourselves, no matter whether we're talking about men, GGs, or CDs. Sometimes we do so within certain societal boundaries, sometimes not.

I'll cite myself as an example. Yesterday morning, I got dressed for work in my usual (male) attire of a polo-style shirt and khaki pants. This is considered societally-acceptable for work in the kind of business I'm in, but I also find it reasonably comfortable and easy to deal with. But what no one else saw is, underneath those pants, I was wearing black L'eggs thigh-high stockings. This has certain salutary benefits, as I've mentioned (like keeping my legs from itching as much), but it's also pleasing to me.

When I got home, Sabrina wanted me to cook dinner. Before I did so, I went into the bathroom and exchanged my clothes for a simple blue denim dress, the usual lingerie underneath including my forms, and a pair of slippers. Why? Because it pleased me to do so, the dress is comfortable and flattering, and it felt better to cook dinner as Amy.

Afterwards, there was a bag of trash that needed to be taken out. I didn't bother going back to my male clothes; I just took off the slippers and put on my wedge espadrilles before doing so. Again, it pleased me to walk outside as Amy; the weather hasn't turned that cold yet, and being outside en femme, even for a short time, is exhilarating.

Around about 9:30, Sabrina decided she needed some beef jerky. At this point, if I'd been in a different mood, I might have temporarily switched back to my "work" clothes. Instead, I did a "quick" application of makeup, painted my nails, packed my "essentials" into my purse, and drove to the supermarket (and ultimately a second one) as Amy. Again, it pleased me to do so; part of me feels like I don't get out enough as Amy, and an opportunity to do so was a godsend. My makeup and attire was good enough to elicit no comments or even stares from anyone I passed by at the stores. It felt good to know that, at least within this context, I was successfully being a woman.

Later that evening, partly at Sabrina's suggestion ("Are you going to get into a gown?") I undressed and donned a black negligee, using my foam forms with it. It pleases me to relax this way at the end of a day, and it's quite pleasurable to feel the soft, silky tricot fabric against my skin. It was in this outfit that I had to play "Nurse Amy" and give Sabrina her insulin shot. I get a kick out of that. :)

So you see, throughout the course of the day, no matter what I was doing or which role I was playing, I always dressed to suit myself. Sometimes I was conforming to societal expectations, sometimes departing from them. But, ultimately, my choices were my own, and I'm happy with the choices I made.

And, if you think about it, your choices are your own, too, no matter what you choose to wear. (In most cases; some people might have to wear uniforms.) True, your choices may be limited in one fashion or another, but you still make the choice as to what pleases you.

- Amy

Firstly, no you are not weird. I believe we all dress "male" or "female" in a manner which pleases us and makes us feel good.

When I am in male mode, with the exception of wearing a uniform where it is standardized, I dress to look and present good (a bit metro) but it makes me feel good to look stylish. Am I emulating other men's fashions . . . Ah . . . Yup. I asked my wife why she chooses to dress like she does and she said, because it suits me to dress like I do . . . that makes sense to me.

Clothing is an expression of identity regardless if you are genetic male or genetic female . . . it defines who you are (to you and only you). If clothing did not matter, we would all be running around naked because we would not need it to create identity (well cold weather aside that is :battingeyelashes:)

When en femme, I apply the same logic. I like to look pretty as it helps me to identify with the feminine side of my personality. Am I emulating my mom, my wife, hot girls I see on the bus . . . their fashion perhaps but not them personally. I do it for me because it makes me feel good and gives me a sense of grounding.

I have to admit when I first came out to my wife and dressing at home became whatever you like dear, I went whole hog, dresses, make-up, pretty lingerie. I think we all do (IMHO). However, I now find myself dressing to blend more, jeans, skirts, tops, comfortable shoes. Why, because I am moving toward an identity as Isha which is more practical to going out. Would I get all dolled up again . . . Hell yes, I still love the feel of sexy lingerie and pretty dresses. Am I doing it for me . . . Hell yes again. But that is the point, it is for me not anyone else. I am certainly not dressing sexy for my wife, other women or guys :eek:

My wife and I are going to a work social event (hers not mine) and I have to admit, I would love to be the one wearing an evening gown with sexy lingerie but that is because it would make me feel good. However, will I still feel good in my tux . . . Yes, because that defines my male identity (although the dress would be more fun :heehee:)

I would not get too wrapped up in why you dress as you do, if it makes you feel good sweetie, just go with it. Irrespective of whether it is a sexy short skirt and crop top or sweats and a t-shirt. You should do what makes you feel good :)

To quote an old Rick Nelson song (Garden Party) I learned long ago that you can't please everyone so you got to please yourself

Hugs

Isha

I was just cleaning this thread up AGAIN and because some people can't read simple instructions from the section mod, I'm closing this thread.

On a side note, this is a support forum, ANYONE posting in this section to cause trouble is not going to stay here very long, I'm not having it. You want to go slam people, go find another forum to do it on, this is a CD forum, support for CD's... capiche??