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Funny. I told my mom (78 years old) that when she dies, I am going to place a big black dildo in her underwear drawer for my sister to find. She immediately said " Oh My God, I need to call her now and say 'if you find a big black dildo in my underwear drawer after I die, it's not mine!"
I also used to worry about my stash, But now I have more girl clothes than boy!
All my boy clothes are in a spare bedroom, and it kinda makes sense, since I only wear shorts, jeans, and tee shorts when in boy mode unless I am going out to an event.
I have one drawer with the everyday boy attire, and everything else is girls.
So with the exception of my wigs and forms, all of it would fit my wife, or could be hers if we both went together in a ball of fire.
And the older I get the less I worry about the stuff I would be embarrassed about in my youth. By the time I die cross dressing will be the norm and there we wont have anything to talk about here in the forum. :-)
Bobbi
First, any of us could die before the day is out. Accident, heart attack, "terrorist" attack, etc. We don't have to be "old" to think of possibly passing.
If I am dead, I won't really care (or know) what people are thinking. If I am alive but incapacitated and in a hospital or nursing home, that's a bigger concern.
We all have our unique situations so there's no "one size fits all" solution. I haven't made any plans about what to do with my stuff. If my wife is around, she will take care of it, I don't have to ask. If we both go at the same time, I won't know or care what people think.
Thanks so much for all the great responses. I would like to clarify a couple of things though.
First....Right now, I am in relatively good health. I only have a few issues that come along with getting older.
Second...My real concern is not that I may suddenly die, but rather, that if I were to have a stroke, an accident, or something else that might put me in a hospital for a long period, or perhaps a nursing home one day. (hopefully that is a very long time from now, but you just never know).
And as we all know, when such a thing happens, the relatives start to "swoop in" and go through your things.
My biggest fear is having to face my loved ones after they have found out about my "other" life.
Mind you...I don't sit and dwell on this, but the thought comes to mind now and then, and I must tell you all, it does send a shiver down my spine. Perhaps I am overthinking this a bit, but knowing some members of my family as I do, I would hate to have to face them should they ever discover my secret.
I understand that many here have come out and are very happy and comfortable with their decision. I wish I could do that, but I just can't. The only two people who know about Michelle is my mother, and my wife, and they both accept it. My mother accepts me fully, and my wife accepts me rather reluctantly, but she does understand that this is a "need" that I must fulfill or I would be very unhappy.
And because of my wife's acceptance, I can keep some of my things that I wear most frequently in her drawers, but I have so much more in luggage that I keep in our closet. And it would be very easy to determine that these are not my wife's things. (shoe sizes, dress sizes, styles of the underclothes, etc.)
Anyway, to sum it up. My biggest fear is not that I should die suddenly, but rather that I would live and have to face the other members of my family after they discovered my secret.
Oh why worry....you could get hit by a truck tomorrow. Leave the relatives something interesting to talk about when you're gone!