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WOW! You did EVERYTHING right! Your wife seemed to know about your dressing, but didn't want you to be threatened by her knowing. Now that it's out in the open, you both have the chance to share a very important part of you, and on terms she can be comfortable with.
It sounds like she also liked the idea of knowing about your submissive desires as well as your feminine side. It also sounds like she wants to support you, giving you some coaching on your presentation if you should decide to go out in public. You've been together for 19 years and she still loves you. At the same time, she may have some desires of her own, and you may have just played into some of her special fantasies - which I suspect she will be sharing with you very soon. A marriage is so much healthier when you can be honest with each other, ESPECIALLY about your sexuality.
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That went amazingly well. But as others have cautioned, this is a journey, not a destination. Move slowly and respectfully down the path with your wife. But it is usually more fun to play with a partner than alone.
Best wishes to you both.
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Thank you for all the well wishes. This weekend the kids are going to spend the night at G and G house on Saturday night. I'm not at all expecting this to be my first Erin night, since it has only been 1 week since I told her. However, I do have a little bit of me that is hopeful my wife will want to have a girls night in. This is the hardest part, going at the pace that is most comfortable to my wife, but I'm doing great so far and letting her move to next steps on her terms.
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Congrats on coming clean. Your relationship with your wife will certainly broaden now, and that's a good thing.
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Thanks for sharing, Erin. This is a story I needed to read today.
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I am working up to this conversation with my wife as well.
Good for you girl!!!! I am happy to hear that another one of us will be able to have a more comfortable and less frustrated life!
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Congratulations on your wonderful talk with your wife. It's so nice to hear stories like this and your wife sounds very understanding. I can relate to your story because I know how difficult it is to bring up these things to your wife and then try to articulate your feelings. My wife and I have been married for 17 years and she has known about my CDing for that long. We have had a few "girls' nights in" and have even gone out a few times but the latter hasn't happened for a few years. I know exactly how you feel about circling dates in your mind because we have kids too and things must be planned days/weeks in advance to have them spend the night elsewhere on order to enjoy a girls' night out or in. Good luck this weekend and I hope your wife gets to see Erin and I hope there are many more times after that.
