Melinda. I know how you feel. Wishing and hoping that the Ms. Right walks my way.
Sigh.............
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Melinda. I know how you feel. Wishing and hoping that the Ms. Right walks my way.
Sigh.............
Well, we've been up and down and round the houses on this one, so let's see if I can summarise. BTW, I've used the masculine pronoun for CDers, to avoid confusion with their SOs.
Terza, the question I asked was "What do YOU like your SO to wear?" Several responses also stated what their SO's liked to, or did wear, but in the anonymity of this site, I don't see that as giving away secrets, or rude. Much more intimate information has been given away on this site in other threads!
Most who answered the question I posed, do like their SO's to wear what they also like to wear themselves (Raychel, HaleyPink2000, SandraInHose, PattieL). es330td likes his SO more sexy than him, Fallen Angel's SO shares clothes, AprilMae's fem taste is even rubbing off on his SO! There was only one, NinaV, who likes his SO's tomboy look as a contrast to his own style. Although the rest like their SO dressed like they like to dress, the taste was naturally as varied as our own, from "as little as possible" (LaurieAnne) to crinolines and 1800 ball gowns.
Of the replies who just stated what they likes their SO to wear, without saying whether that matched their own taste or not, there was a common theme. Most wanted their SO to wear more sexy and/or more fem clothes that they currently did (Barbaralyn, April Marie, Emma Brownings, Melinda G, jo ann). Robin Girl likes his SO in classy clothes, and TG Marla's SO already dresses very fem, and he appreciates that.
We had a couple of GGs join in, Eyesthatsparkle GG knows her SO really likes it when she dresses up, but unfortunately Pricilla21 GG's SO is not appreciative of her. I agree Pricilla, it should work both ways, and looking at it from the outside, you would probably be more disposed to wearing what your SO likes you to wear, if he paid you more attention and made more of an effort himself instead of just dictating what he wanted you to do.
We also got a debate on who women dress for. Pricilla21 gave us the GG point of view that they dress to make themselves feel great, to get compliments from their men (don't forget that guy's!), and to compete with other women. When we're in drab, isn't that our motivation too, when we're making the effort? There's not much opportunity in boy clothes, to look pretty and sexy though, but that's why we crossdress isn't it?
Miss Vikki and MelindaG have gone further, and bought sexy lingerie and clothing that they would like their SOs to wear, and most of it has ended up unworn. I too have done this over many years. I thought I was paying my wife a compliment, that I thought she was still sexy enough to wear them, even if only at home with me. I wanted her, selfishly I suppose, to wear them to excite me, but she has resisted. "Am I not good enough as I am?" has been the response, and there is no answer to that. The only silver lining in that cloud is that I've taken to wearing them myself, and boy do I enjoy it. She doesn't like me CDing either, but that's another story. Maybe I'd feel less need if she wore them from time to time. Would I?
Thanks again for all you responses, I hope I didn't leave anyone out. I realise yet again that although I am not alone in that I like my wife to wear clothes as sexy as I like to wear myself, there's a great variety of opinion out there. We may be alike, but we're all different too.
Tony
Hey Drag, Even though I didn't contribute to the thread I loved your summary, what a good idea ! :thumbsup: