Funny, marriage is the furthest thing from my mind when confronted with this situation. However, I understand the duality of thought you describe.Quote:
Originally Posted by Office Stacy
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Funny, marriage is the furthest thing from my mind when confronted with this situation. However, I understand the duality of thought you describe.Quote:
Originally Posted by Office Stacy
Not seeing the problem here
Hmmm. I can see a possible problem depending on how the word 'straight' is viewed. Straight as a man who is attracted to women, or straight as a woman who is attracted to a man? How many of us feel very much a woman when crossed dressed? What effect, if any, has that had on our married sex lives?
So the problem with being a straight long time cross-dresser is that you start to have superficial and delusional thoughts? OK :D
I've been a straight, married crossdresser for almost 9 years, and because of my wife's tutelage from being a lifelong GG, Tina is really comfortable as her feminine self. We often critique women we see when we are in public. My wife accesses Tina no matter how I'm presenting and it's just great fun to talk about style and makeup! My wife needs to go dress shopping soon and has already said it would be great to go with her best girlfriend!
But with all of that, there is no way that Tina could imagine showing up any GG (ok, maybe one or two out of 3.5 billion). That doesn't mean Tina can't feel great about herself, and that, after all, is the real goal.
Women that dress like me might be attractive but I'm not attracted to them. The women I find attractive wear a totally different style. When I see a beautiful woman in a beautiful dress my lizard brain thinks "what's under that dress?" not about wearing it or being her. Being a long time "straight" cross dresser is problematic in many ways but at least for me that isn't one of them.
:idontknow:Maybe because I missed the straight part but, when I see a beautiful woman I just admire how she looks and moves. I don't wonder what I would look like in her dress, or shoes, or hair. I just think "wow she has it all together". Statements like the OP make me wonder when people post "I don't know why my wife doesn't get this. it's just clothes" when you sexualize it. How many could be like the few people who posted and be willing to give up those thoughts if you got "her" (which ain't gonna happen if all you can think is I want to be with her and marry her" based on what she is wearing).
It must be my lack of testosterone:strugglin.
I read these things and wonder why the GGs come back. Yeah, let's make them sex objects...or tell them we want to be sex objects LIKE THEM.
It's what men do - they are highly visual and they objectify people they are interested in.Quote:
I read these things and wonder why the GGs come back. Yeah, let's make them sex objects...or tell them we want to be sex objects LIKE THEM.
This is NOT meant to offend anyone!Quote:
Originally Posted by Office Stacy
I do have to chuckle.. I am a gg. During the divorce I made sure to "dress to the nines" when I went to court .. then some said to me.. Do you think he looks and says "damn.. I lost that"... or "I wonder if they have that in my size.." Stopped dressing to the nines after that! LOL..
I don't ever look at other women and think "I wish I was wearing that!" I don't think I did that even when I identified as a CD. I do look at other women to get a sense of what's in style, and I look at makeup closely to pick up new ideas.
I've never thought "I'd look better than her in that."
My wife always worried that when I complimented her, I was secretly thinking about dressing like her. I never really was though, but I couldn't convince her of that. :(
One does wonder don't they? I would guess he was thinking "Damn, this is going to cost me a lot of money. What the hell was I thinking...oh yeah, she looks good today"Quote:
Originally Posted by thewife/soon2bex
Me too, but that is why we are different I guessQuote:
Originally Posted by PaulaQ
When I see an attractive woman, I never think I could look better than she does. I do have a strong sense of longing to be like her, though.
Hi Stacy, I often know how it must feel to dress to impress , I think that I can copy that look.
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Originally Posted by NicoleScott
^^^This.
I have a son that has turned out to be a beautiful woman,and when his Mom found out about me she new where our beautiful son come from!She is my inspiration now!I have let go and am out and about!
If anyone voices these thoughts to GG's, the 'single' part of this problem will likely be permanent.
Seriously, keep this to yourselves. This is the side of crossdressing that most women LOATHE!
Hi.
Hmmm to be like or to be . theres no competition, in any regard to myself as to how other females look or dress and no i dont wont to be like them the clothes they wear are undoubtily are lovely and yes they look lovely as well and i dont wont to wear what they have,
Okay maybe that is hard for you all to understand I know why, because im a female and my own person i wont do the copy of another because its just not me and not who i need to be,
An other detail is those clothes would not suit me,
Jos told me a few years ago i have better and not just looking legs than her and my face is lovely skin and tones, , i still Love Jos even though she's remarried, so ya....
the other detail is much the same would i wont to be ...that ... female you'r talking about nope.
Im happy with myself and over all how i look , not perfect lots of faults and yea well.....
still happy....
...noeleena...