Are we all supposed to have such hardships with crossdressing?

I can't recall a single bad moment, although there has certainly been enough tragedy in my life; mostly because I did not acknowledge or realize it until a pretty advanced age. It's not so much I rejected it as that I could not even conceive of the possibility.
It seems as though I have always had a "motherly" aspect and a lot of empathy for those who were having a tough time. I've also learned how to face the real world when I must, which has been mostly a matter of "stick and move, stick and move"; if you have a vulnerability, don't reveal it, there's always someone watching and listening.

I have had inconveniences but no hardship yet.

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Originally Posted by Princess Chantal

I can't be the only person that has/had a wonderfully blessed crossdressing, could I?

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I will say I have noticed alot of deep dark issues disscussed here, lots of fear, complaining, etc...but this IS the place for that kinda thing so..it goes with the territory...i have had my share of ups and downs too...but overall it has been an enjoyable experience even with the occasional purge. Acceptance plays an important role in that for me My REAL hardship though is zippers.....

You've all forgotten the pain. The worst may be in the first few years of life. A good explanation of the pain of growing up in western society can be found in Jean Liedloff's book, The Continuum Concept. And the website, http://DrMcKenzie.com, says similar things more scientifically.

I remember at about age 6 feeling proud that I learned to suppress my feelings, so as not to cry. I told Mom I hadn't cried for a whole week. Boys aren't supposed to cry. Right? Why did I cry? I was sensitive and my parents didn't respect my feelings. Parents tend to be insensitive. Kids suffer needlessly as a result.

Look at kids who grow up free, free to wear what they want to and do what they want to, if it doesn't harm anyone. Compare that to kids who are needlessly suppressed (abused). Pain is more severe for young kids than older ones and adults. People need to understand that. The effects are lifelong.

Things haven't been easy for me with regards to crossdressing during my teen years.. but that was mostly because there was no way to CD while living with my parents.

And if I listen to the stories and experiences of my friends,.. some lost everything... then I can say that I've had rough periods, but never any real hardships.

Consider yourself blessed if crossdressing has only been a source of bliss and happiness for you! :)

A lot of us have face hardships with our cross dressing. I don't know that I have. I was raised to be a proper male you know the the type. I didn't start exploring my femme side until this year but I have learned what fear of persecution is because I saw it happen with one of my female soldiers when others found out she was lesbian.

Emi,
I find your comments are only drawn from you own cicumstances and do not apply to me and perhaps many others !
I agree we are not required to suffer but the fact is we do ! I have been a prisoner to my circumstances for years and was powerless to deal with my CDing because of the pressure and responsibility of what was going on with other things in my life !
If it was just about wearing a dress I wouldn't be doing it, what drives my CDing is much deeper than that !!
Please try and be a little more sympathetic and tactful with your comments, some people are desperately struggling with Cding !