Who's Maria?

As others have pointed out, I agree it may be time to let your daughter know... before she starts forming opinions and speculating on what "could be"... namely that you're having an affair. Whether or not she believes that Mom is aware and supportive, it could lead to resentment and anger on your daughter's end.

It's unlikely she would arrive at the conclusion you're a cross dresser. (then again, with the pantyhose wrapper situation, maybe not)

Lorileah's point is well taken.... We expect honesty from our kids at all times and tell them that no matter how hard it is... they need to tell us the truth and that we'll still love them. Do we not owe it to them, when we're asked questions, to give them the same respect in turn? (Obviously taking into account here that a child is old enough and mature enough to understand)

Just my 2 cents.

I have a mid twenties daughter who still snoops like a teenager. She's seen the size 10WW flats and heels in the closet and knowsthat is not her mother's size. She's rifled through all the clothes and asked her why there's two different size groups. Is she on to something? She may think so, but I'm neither confirming or denying.

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Originally Posted by raleighbelle

...but then again, maybe the two of you can go shopping for more!

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Been there, done that. I took my daughter shopping several times after all this, even on road trips to shop. In drab. She loved it! I picked out outfits for her that she really liked. I picked out outfits for me that she really liked. Then she told her mother how much she enjoyed our time together. Wife ripped me to shreds, to put it mildly.

I still take my daughter shopping. We have a great time together. It is all about her now. I no longer reveal the extent or details of my fashion knowledge. I just endorse her selections and pay for an occasional one as a gift or I discreetly ask if she is sure she likes something that I think could be improved on. And while she is in the dressing room, I pick out stuff for myself that I can get on a return trip without her.

To add some irony to all this, I take my wife shopping fairly often, but I make only two comments: "looks fine to me" and "you sure we can afford that?". And while she is in the dressing room, I pick out stuff for myself that I can get on a return trip without her.

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Originally Posted by Heather Anne

I asked her how she knew. Her reply was she saw a pair of pantyhose in the trash.

Heather Anne

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I would never be that bold. I bag up my trash and use a public dustbin across town. My daughter would consider pantyhose or a package wrapper as strong confirmation. The last time that my wife wore pantyhose was in 1993.