Very interesting ladies thanks for sharing your reasons.
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Very interesting ladies thanks for sharing your reasons.
last time i purged...or should i say my LAST purge when i finally realized I should embrace and accept my crossdressing/gender issue...i decided to do it right. I knew I was rusty and had to get my makeup game back up, i also had about 40 pounds of depression fat to get rid of, so what i did was set 2 goals first.
1.lose the 40 pounds
2. get better at makeup.
So for THREE MONTHS I re- learned my makeup, JUST practiced my makeup, I worked from the neck up, i never dressed because I knew from the neck down i still had 40 pounds to lose so....i used my time wisely and just did makeup for my first 3 months, and never dressed because i knew i would get dissapointed cause of my weight. The whole time i practiced makeup, i excersized, and dieted, and LOST the weight...then after those first 3 months of working on the makeup, the body, and my mind...i finally put on the clothes...i did it this way because at this point i had realized that it wasnt so much about the clothes, as much as it was about how i felt inside, so i wanted to make the outside match the inside and figured before i put the clothes on, i better get my body back, and get my makeup skills up first...cause i knew the clothes were just clothes..and if i could run 6 miles everyday and diet that this must be something i really really wanted.
Laura, over the past 35 years I have purged so many times I can't even count, at this time in my life I buy my clothes and sexy underthings for my own pleasure and keep them in a private place.I feel sexy and stimulated when I'am dressed. From your picture you look beautiful don't quit , very sexy!DevoneQuote:
Originally Posted by Laura.Taylor
Tracii, I know that guilt and shame, cause it. Religious guilt, and societal guilt, or family guilt. " Men don't wear women's clothes." "Are you a man or woman." "Gay?" It is self loathing , guilt and shame.
I have purged more times than I care to remember, I usually started out with all the basic essentials to put together 1 outfit and present , so bra panties , jeans a top , pair of heels , make up essentials.
A second shopping trip would yield maybe some more finishing touches
Press on nails jewelry , a purse. May be a skirt and another top , then a 3rd trip maybe a corset stockings ect , a few more shades of lipstick. Then before I knew it my empty bidding place was overflowing once again
The last time I purged was over twenty years ago. Had two kids in high school we were getting ready to move and trying to find a way to pare down our belongings so we could get everything on the truck. I had been able to dress for a long time anyway and at that point in time I wasn't sure I ever would again anyway so it just seemed like I didn't need what I had so I put a lot of it on the yard sale and some it we took to good will.
When I started back it was slowly, while my wife new about it she was then and still is back and forth on the acceptance part of it, the first thing I got was panties and then a nightgown and then more panties and a bra. The one day I was on ebay and found this little black dress and I had to have it and it was only $4. I have a few times went into the "pink fog" and bought a whole bunch of things at once.
Since the last purge I don't really purge I have packed things up and left them for periods of time but it's way to expensive to replace it all.
Good point. Clothes are the reflection of what we feel.Quote:
Originally Posted by Adriana Moretti
DeeAnn
I just had my latest, ( and biggest) early this January . Part of it was from watching "The Danish Girl", which I actually found to be very disillusioning and depressing. However, about three weeks ago, I found a spare pair of pantyhose I had stashed... Now I am back at it more intensely than ever. My wardrobe is a small fraction of what it used to be, but I have had my first makeup lesson at Sephora, and got the courage to go to a few bars for drinks, ( only a few asked for ID, and it was a total non-event.) I don't really miss the clothes and makeup I tossed, since buying new stuff is most of the fun for me. I do regret destroying my USB with 3 years of photos, though - so many memories...
I love the idea of practicing makeup to get back into the swing. Good way to find my look and I love the transformation process the most
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Originally Posted by Adriana Moretti
I am still recovering. I am slowly getting clothing, mostly from Goodwill; wigs and makeup are next. And rejoining online groups (URNA, Flickr, crossdressers.com) is part of it, too. Baby steps still.
Kris
K:
What you said is a perfect match for the phrase: "It is a journey...".
DeeAnn
I have purged perhaps twice, regretted it and came back. I'll probably never purge again. What a complete waste of time!
Never tossed it all away, ever.
I did come back gradually tho only time I did it.
Purged once only to have my wife find me depressed and listless . After WE spent hundreds of dollars replacing slips, skirts, bras, & etc., if or when my purge urge hits she yells stop. Her cure for my "problem" is a little retail therapy at the nearest lingerie counter.
If have purged twice in the last 2 years because of health issues. I don't want someone finding my private stash if something were to happen to me. However, the fun of starting over is.....starting over. :)
That's the problem with obsessions, they become bottomless pits, impossible to fill. It's hard to stick to a budget or create boundaries...Quote:
Originally Posted by tifftg
Admit it was a mistake and swear never to do it again.