Thank you to all you who posted replies. Sometimes, i feel like about the only unmarried one on here!
Thank you to all you who posted replies. Sometimes, i feel like about the only unmarried one on here!
This is my biggest issue. There are plenty of single, older women, but most older American women have let themselves go because they want to believe that how people look doesn't matter, so they don't seem to care what they look like. I've gone through a lot of trouble to make sure I look as good as possible when I step out of the house. I expect the same from my dates. About half the women where I work resemble George Costanza with a short 'helmet' haircut. And they wonder why nobody's interested.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ressie
This is what I've run into. Apparently, other than the crossdressing I'm considered a good catch. So when I discover that the woman I'm dating feels crossdressing is a downer to her, I have to come up with some type of excuse to get out of dating her anymore. The best one I've come up with is, 'she smells like my sister', and it just ruins any attraction. Seems to work well enough so that they're not feeling insulted by my sudden seemingly lack of interest.Quote:
I'm also afraid that any relationship that might develop will end up with someone being hurt
The peaks and the lows. I get excited too, when going out on a first date. When we hit it off and spend the whole night talking, it always gets my hopes up. Then when I hear about 'the pervert across the street who wears his wife's housecoat' all my dreams come crashing down.Quote:
It's so wonderful to be in love
That's the big thing. winding up with the wrong person again. And even older single/divorced/widowed women seem to be on the 'marriage again track' even though their biological clock stopped running years ago.Quote:
being single is much better than living with the wrong person. Yeah, I have trust issues too since my ex turned out to be deceptive.
Selfish? Why? Because you wont' give away your time and money to someone else? I've heard that too; that single men are selfish because they refuse to get married and/or have children. Where as women are perfectly fine, expecting to have a man support her for the rest of her life, but that's not selfish. Then there was the my money is 'our' money but her money is her money deal. And maybe that's another reason why I'm still single again.Quote:
Living alone with a dog and a closet full of wigs, shoes and dresses! I'm selfish I guess.
Sometimes Miss, I get it about haircuts. Even in below zero winter weather, here, sadly, so many GGs over 45, have the "Moe Howard" haircuts. Maybe, some like it that way for ease of washing, least amount of care, sheered above the ears. I can talk to, and maybe be friend such ladies, but i am honestly not attracted. With more people on the planet, and in this country than ever before, it is harder to find a compatible person, than ever, CD, or whatever.
This is an interesting thread, and thanks to Alice for bringing it to attention of the Board. I think that if a person is much over age fifty, single and lonely in 21st century America it's difficult to find a companion even if he/she is completely "normal," and the transgender thing just makes it ever so much worse.
I am Bi-Sexual, and have had the occasional coffee date with genetic women, sometimes 2 or 3 with the same one, and have enjoyed those, but they never seem to go anywhere, and I have never even broached the subject of X-dressing with any of them.
I also date men, and have had occasional physical relationships with males, but they never seem to go anywhere either. In short, the Grass is NOT Greener on the Bi-Gay side of the M2F crossdresser/transgender equation. In the Fifty Plus Bi-Gay age group, the most numerous group I've encountered is men who are more interested in becoming Crossdressers than being a CD's male companion, the second most numerous group is the kind who are merely looking for quick, kinky sex, and third is the very few men who are interested in going to museums, concerts, et cetera, with a CD.
Partly, I think it's just that with such a small pool of dating prospects, it's really hard to find someone who is simpatico. For example, I'm an avid bicyclist and hiker, and most of the men and women I meet, irrespective of their orientation, I'd be afraid to take out on a rail-to-trails or a hike in the Alleghenies because my CPR skills are a bit rusty, and they, probably wisely, are not interested anyway.
Starr, You said it well. THANKS. TRUTH IS, FOR OVER 50YO SINGLES, OF ANY ORIENTATION, religious or non religious, gay or straight, CD, TG, or TS, it is a lonesome road for singles.Thanks for sharing!
Personally, I am straight, very passionate and would be *delighted* if any GG showed interest in me, no matter their age or size or hairdo. A woman's hair would hardly be a dealbreaker for me, long, short, or completely bald (heck, I am not exactly "gender conforming" in terms of what I like either.) I need someone in my life, but it is unlikely I will ever find one, but I need one nonetheless.
Vickie, Need is real, but we must temper it with reality, and balance. i know it is not at all easy all the time. Women have told me i am too needy. Well, for Mr. Spock, he has no need for anyone. But, we all need some companionship sometimes. I am needy at times, like some ladies told me, but is it not human, to not want to do everything alone ALL THE TIME? And, i bet the people who say we are too needy, sometimes are needy, and lonely, too?
Single here and no SO either! I do hope to find someone though that will accept my cd'ing. So yor not alone more singles on here than you thought.
Thanks Alice! That is so cool- I'm taking my 'date' there the next day she gets off! She has a friend in Belvidere too, we can take. I did not know the Burpee museum existed. You rock!:)
(pun intended, unfortunately) :sad:
Krististeph, Will you be going as Kristi, with your date? The museum is just north of downtown, on North Main, east side of the street. I know, as a loner single, i can go many years without a date, or getting together with people. Often, going days with no conversations, and only small talk with cashiers or strangers. Depressed often.
Thanks to all of you who replied to this. There are more unmarried and singles here than i realized. Sometimes it seems like singles don't post threads much, and are less willing. Again, thanks for sharing.
I don't know if my reasoning to be on this site is a reason why there are few singles here.... but because of my marital status is a primary reason being on this site. I am always most interested in the relationship dynamics, acceptance, tolerance, how to get what I want without hurting the marriage.
Gendermutt, Good point. The dynamics of marriage, aand this thing we do. I don't have a wife or lover or SO, but at 61, and enmeshed in a very, very toxic family of origin, people who are incapable of relationships outside of the family of origin. Bizarre issues here.
No, Kristi will be en drab, accompanying her wife, and her wife's old track coach (recently lost his wife to cancer), but it will be a gender unnecessary trip- i'll be as androgynous/mixed as usual... this guy needs to ease back a bit- he was 'fighting' for his wife- needs to relax a bit and see that he can oppose the outcome without needing to 'fight'.
Senior support is important, especially in this transitional period- seniors learning that their imagined end-game is not quite what they thought: neither spiritually, not physically. I think we as a society have a 20-50 year paradigm change coming, in terms of senior care an senior social and moral support.
My 89 year old next to next door neighbor passed a few days ago. I am still upset I did not see him sooner than a week before he passed... no we cannot so anything to stop senescence, nor death, but we can assure those who are dying, that we will be there for them. But we did talk about archaeology, old bones- findings- traces of cultures. I hope he goes on to find out stuff we do not know.
I'll probably go off on my own, as I usually do as museums. Correlating the crap from out supposed 'education' with reality- or what we see in front of us.
Hey- if you want to go- just us two we can do that. I will not be dressed, you are welcome to do so. But understand- museums are about as close to being religious as I get- I may be distracted, but i'd be happy to explore the museum with you.