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We get dressed for different reasons. Sometimes we just have "dry spells", don't feel the need or just want to enjoy being our guy selves. It's just our own particular human nature. Even women don't feel "feminine" all the time. Sometimes they just feel like being themselves. :battingeyelashes::)
Over the course of the past few decades my desires have had an ebb and flow. Sometimes a strong urge to dress, and sometimes just, "meh." As long as I know I can dress when I want, then I feel in control of this calling we have. Likewise, I can usually avoid the pink fog and not do stupid stuff or become trance-like in my need. If I become separated from or locked out of my ability to dress, then it seems to build to a crescendo and eventually the calling overtakes logic and reason. To your question, yes, I have had periods of a couple of years where I do not dress and don't care to.
From my experiences, I would substitute the word "loss" to "lapse". I totally differ with PaintmePink. It IS here for the duration...period...end of story. I also equate it to the "roller coaster of life". In life, one has "highs and lows", "ups and downs", but whether short term or long term, it's there...so be prepared. I've experienced lapses, but never purged. Then out of nowhere, driving a car, at work, a round of golf..who knows...you get that "feeling". For me, denial and resistance just made it more intense. Enjoy both the cycle of dressing and life. I do and Im much happier. I have a supportive wife who totally agrees. 👠 💄 👗
I went through various stages over the decades. In my teen years I felt repulsed with dressing in women's clothing. That was in the 1960's. Although I felt repulsion I still wore my mother's lingerie when I had the opportunity. Then I was drafted into the army. Even though I did not have any privacy for two years to engage in cross dressing, I had absolutely zero thoughts about it. I suppose it was due to an elevation in male hormones. I served in a military combat infantry unit and those survival hormones were raging. It wasn't until after I was married that thoughts of cross dressing were rekindled. There are times when I do not have the opportunity or privacy to wear women's clothing, but, it does not drive me nuts. I know when the summer months are over, and, my wife returns to work, that Stephanie will be able to come out and play again.
If one can ever figure out what brought on this urge to wear women's clothing, then maybe one can figure out how to control these urges better. I see a lot of angst in some postings on this site, where the cross dresser is grabbing for some "crumbs of time," while others seem to not be bothered by only dressing infrequently.
If not dressing does not drive you to distraction I would not worry about it.
Nice to see Claire looking a bit heavier which provides her with a more feminine figure, Reine D right on as usual and surprised that Tracii G voiced "pretty normal". In fact the responses of similar experiences were far more than I expected. The commonality appears to be major life events such as divorce or lost job, new SOs that may not as yet be accepting, health issues that may turn one off and then there is the fetish factor. As one ages and the libido influence wanes for some - where fetish was a stronger influence than in others -it seems logical that motivation diminishes as well. An example: two weeks ago I fainted and gashed my brow. Still have black and blue around the eye. No incentive to try to cover with makeup so, sure I wear my female clothes at home, but going out is on hold until better. Brings up another concern - perhaps at 91 I should pack it in. On the other hand, if I do that, then I'm accepting that life is over. Not ready to do that but ???
Julie