SHop assistants dont care.....

I have had nothing but good experience and help from sales assistants. In one Layne Bryant store i was in in drab, was looking for a skirt for a party, asked the girl if they fit large or small. She commented that it could be returned if it did not fit right, I then told her it was for me, only commernt really, then immediately said I could try anything on i liked. Good thing i tried it on, as I needed the next smaller size.
Have also had good experience in Dress Barn. I was femme at the time, tried on a suit. The assiciate, asked how i was doing over the door, then said when i had it on, to come out and see how it looked in the 3 way mirror. Also commented as to how well the skirt hung, and also how well that particular suit went with the blouse i had on. ( I also thought the same before she mentioned it.)
Have also had girls in the stores comment on my ear rings. If any of them did realize I was TG they sure did not shoe it

Shopping fully femme is fabulous

Denise

I had to but some drab clothing to wear to work BORING :yawn: Having done this I walked through the Ladies Lingerie section (as one does) and saw some nice panties 5 pairs for £6 UK the full briefs I like and as there were some pink ones with a floral pattern I bought 3 packs. No problem from the Assistant, a woman in her 50s, as I put my basket on the counter. She simply scanned them, I paid and that was that. No strange looks, no unasked for remarks. I could have been buying some pairs of men's socks as far as she was concerned, and that's the way I like it! :thumbsup: :jumping:

"...money...paper that no one will destroy...passed indiscriminately across race, class and gender lines" Josh Koppel

I pretty much always shop drab, and nobody seems to notice. However, in the past, when I was asked if it was for a girlfriend, I tended to lie, and make up an epic and convincing story.

It is nor the sales assistants who care one way or the other that is the issue. It is when you are standing in line with something frilly in your hand and you get strange looks from the other customers that can be off putting.

I generally have a good time shopping. Most of the time the clerks are fine with the whole situation, but there have been exceptions.

I like wearing women’s jeans as a male. Just normal jeans without hearts or shiny things sewn in but that lift and separate.

I’ve found that Value City has a great selection in my size (18 or 20), but the problem is that it’s a huge open box store. Everyone in the store can see the only male in the women’s section.

The store nearest my house has a men’s suit section and that is where the male dressing rooms are. The men’s suit sales men are not usually very busy and I’ve seen them watching me make the long trek from the women’s area to ‘their’ dressing rooms. To make it worse, the dressing rooms are just along the wall with those stupid short shutter/door things.

I’ve found another Value City in the area that does not have a staffed suit area and its male dressing rooms are all off in a sub room, normally without an attendant.

There is a rack that people are supposed to put there returns on. I like leaving the ‘girly’ things exposed so that all the other shoppers will know that a CD was around.

I've never had a negative experience. If I did I would simply inform the mangement and shop elsewhere.

My approach with sales women is simple. When she ask if I need any assistance I walk up to her and look her directly in her eyes and say: I am shopping for myself, and I am a little embarrassed about it, do you have a problem with me buying womens clothing for myself? I have received nothing but the best help that any person could ask for with this approach and I am usually ask by the woman to please ask for her personally the next time I return, followed by letting me know what days she worked and what days she is off.

I recently went outlet shopping, my first time shopping enfemme. I popped into a couple of shops then went into a Dana Bauchman/Ellen Tracy shop. There were three sales ladies and noone else. I greeted me then watched me walk around the store. I felt really uncomfortable. I left quickly and was thinking about leaving but decided to go into a J Jill outlet next door. I went in and was greeted by a very freindly sales lady. She and another sales lady talked to me about sales they had going and tried to help me find what I was looking for. They saw I picked up a couple of items I was interested in and they offered to set up a dressing room for me. They treated me like the other customers they were dealing with and really made my day. Two totally different experiences in stores right next to each other.

Katherine, The staff in the Ellen Tracy shop may have just been lazy, and would have treated a gg the same way. Probably had nothing to do with you being a cd.

Jodi